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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Abandoned Me. Should I Move On?

I’m 31 and had been in a very loving, fun, and supportive relationship with my guy for almost two years and living together for a little over a year. He started talking about marriage and getting engaged about a year into our relationship, and I was so excited at the prospect of being his partner for life. But months passed by, and it became clear that he was homesick for his family. Even though they’re only a two-hour plane ride away, he had been depressed for the last six months about being away from home, and told me that if we married, it would mean he was choosing to never live in the same town as his family again. I told him I’d be happy as long as we were together, but he kept saying “I don’t think you’ll be happy there.” About a week ago when I came home from work, I found that he had moved out of the apartment we shared and had driven back to his home town to be with his family, and merely left a note! What kind of person does that sort of thing? To make matters worse, he called me once he arrived at his hometown and said (while sobbing uncontrollably) he wasn’t ready to break up and wanted a month to think about things. Part of me loves him so much that I want to give him the time he asked for. The rational side of me says, “This jerk abandoned you. Even if he wanted to work things out, are you really going to let him do this to you again?” I’m so torn. Should I just end it now and move on? — Shocked and Awed

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I Like Jerks

I liked jerks. No, I loved them, but now, looking back, I realize it wasn’t just that. For the most part, every man who failed to call me was capable of calling someone else, and at a certain point, I had to face the fact that it wasn’t just them, it was me. I begged for men to be unaccountable. I allowed them to be untrustworthy. And I expected them to leave. Read more Keep reading »

7 Things Guys Say That Spell Trouble

We here at The Frisky love men. In fact, we adore them. We like their bodies, their brains, and their strange way of doing things. So it’s always a tricky tightrope when you’re dealing with a dude to know when to be there for him — and when to cut and run. Since we’re here to help the ladies, we’ve created a handy guide that will help you know when your guy is just being a guy — or if you’ve got a dud on your hands who needs to be dumped. Keep reading »

Would You Rather Get Dumped Or Dump Someone?

At some point, most of us reach a point where we’ve been dumped and dumped someone. Generally, I think people tend to fall into one camp or the other. Personally, I tend to prefer to let the other person do the dumping — color me passive-aggressive! — but in a few cases I’ve done the dumping. There is only one thing to be said about getting dumped: It sucks. Doing the dumping, on the other hand, I’ve found, is a bit more of a grab bag. In a way, it’s better, because you’re the one calling the shots, and I think dumping someone tends to leave the dumper feeling less, well, victimized. On the other hand, if you’re going to end a relationship, you better be damn sure you’re sure about that. Being the dumper entails greater responsibility. So, are you more often a dumper or a dumpee? Do you think one is easier than the other? What do you think is the best way to dump someone and to get dumped — or is that like asking what’s the best way to fall on your head? Tell us, Frisky readers, in the comments. Keep reading »

When People Are Most Likely To Break Up

Since everyone knows a breakup isn’t official ’til it’s on Facebook, David McCandless, a data journalist king, looked at over 10,000 Facebook status updates to see if there was any pattern to when and why people ended their romantic relationships. This infograph charts his discoveries. Peak breakup season is about five weeks away, so hold on tight. [via BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Over-Thinker” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Over-Thinker, the college girl who returned to school after a carefree summer break to find that her relationship with her boyfriend wasn’t so great with the added stress of school. They were hardly seeing each other and doing most of their communicating via text. One day he even told her (by text, of course) that the only reason someone would date her is to have consistent sex. He later apologized and said he didn’t mean it, but was that enough for Over-Thinker? Keep reading »

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