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Ask The Astrosexologist: “Will My Virgo Ex Ever Want Me Back Or Should I Move On?”

My Virgo ex-boyfriend and I dated for over a year and a half. We met in high school, when he was a senior and I was a junior. He left for college, but we wanted to stay together, so we tried a long-distance relationship. For the majority of that year, everything worked out well … but then he changed. A lot. He chopped off all his hair and became the epitome of a “frat boy” even though he never joined one. I tried to suppress my feelings, thinking that it was just freshman year experiences and I couldn’t say anything because when I went to college I’d probably change too. As far as I know, he never cheated, but he did become increasingly distant.

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Dear Wendy: “My Ex Hit Me And Now He Wants Me Back”

I started a long-distance (1,500 miles apart) relationship with a wonderful man in August of last year. Things were going great, but suddenly took a turn for the worse in January when he was diagnosed with cancer. I was able to take two semesters off from school to go be his caregiver. We continued to build our relationship and he constantly expressed his gratitude for my being there. Unfortunately, about a month into his treatment, he started to become verbally abusive, and began to pick fights. Months went by, and threats of hitting me turned into actually hitting me, on two occasions. I reached out to his family and friends for support, but he told them I was a crazy liar. I begged him to see a therapist, or to talk to his doctor about the medications and steroids he was on, but he refused. When he was done his last round of chemo and in remission, I ended the relationship, packed my bags and went home. We have stayed in contact, and he surprised me last weekend by driving out to visit me. He spent a few days at my apartment, and was once again the man I fell in love with. He told me that he’d told his family about the abuse, that he loved me, and that he wants to get back together. My friends think I should cut all contact with him, and that he lost his chance to be with me once he hit me. I think his behavior was caused by the drugs and steroids he was on, so my decision isn’t easy. Is it really as cut-and-dry as my friends think, or can I give him a second chance? — Abused Caregiver

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A Guy’s Definitive Guide To Getting Over A Breakup

A broken heart sucks. Even those of us with the strongest of wills have at some point learned that getting over somebody can be a painful and arduous process. So the notion of a definitive guide for achieving a clear mind and healthy heart after a failed relationship or rejection by the opposite sex might seem absurd.

The goal of this piece is to show how life does not end with rejection at a bar, a note left on a pillow, or coming home from work to an empty apartment. Combining a few bits of advice from friends and my own life experiences, I think I am able to provide a dependable resource you can refer to the next time a man or woman decides you and your genitals are inadequate. So without further ado, let’s start the healing process … together. Keep reading »

Get Over Your Breakup, Already!

What’s healthier: Still bringing up your ex five-hundred moons after you broke up with him, or, say, doing a search for his name on Flickr and gaining access to his latest photo uploads in the privacy of your own apartment and/or cube?

Am I less insane for airing the fact that I can’t get over a girl I haven’t seen in the flesh since “Frasier” was on, or am I more mentally robust if I stay mum on her hold over me while examining the Facebook page of everyone we ever mutually knew to see if she’s posted anything on their walls or was in any of their photo albums?

These are all trick questions. The real sign of sanity is … Read more. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My New Husband Refuses To Sleep With Me”

I am a young woman in my mid-20s. I started dating my husband when I was 18. We were in a long-distance relationship, but decided to get married this year, and I left the U.S. to be with him. Before we were married, we had a great sex life. Now that I am here, he says he isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore. This may be understandable if I’d gained a lot of weight or my appearance had changed dramatically, but it hasn’t. (I actually LOST nearly 100 lbs. a few years ago). At first, he thought that that he didn’t love me anymore, but we’ve talked extensively about it and he says he does love me, but not sexually … he loves me like a family member, etc. He claims not to be attracted to any other women. For the record, he has extensive anxiety issues, as well as being overweight, etc. We’ve talked to his doctor, who suggests both counseling and testing to see if he has physical problems. He refuses both of these. I love him more than anything and I gave up everything to be with him, but I’ve become extremely depressed and discouraged, being so far from friends or family, with a husband who doesn’t seem to want to be a husband. I try to hide this from everyone, since my husband has already suggested that I would be happier elsewhere and I don’t want my family and friends to worry about something they have no control over. Help me save our marriage! — Sexless Bride

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Dear Wendy Updates: “Sudden Shock” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Sudden Shock,” who wanted to know what she could do to salvage her relationship after her boyfriend of two weeks suddenly dumped her. After the jump, find out if she’s managed to move on yet or not. Keep reading »

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