“I’m not going to apologize for being female or human. But I will apologize to the party I’ve wronged. About a month ago, I posted this video on my Facebook page about being pro choice and why. There was this conversation that ensued in the comments about whether abortion should be legal. And this man who is a fan of ‘Wild’ and ‘Tiny Beautiful Things’ said, well, I’m against abortion, but I do think it should be legal. And Cheryl, the thing about you is, you had an abortion but you regret it. And you’ve told us how that does stay with you and how many regrets you have about it. And I was like, uh, no I haven’t. I thought, I can’t let that stand. I said, actually, you’re mistaken. I do not regret it. I wish I hadn’t gotten pregnant. I don’t think it’s this great, exciting chapter of my life that I treasure. But I certainly think that having an abortion was the best thing I could have done in that situation. And I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever, nor am I scarred by the experience. I think it’s really important to assert that. Because the generation of women before us, they could do things like have an abortion or have sex in ways that are conceived as promiscuous, so long as they felt bad about it afterward or have been, like, oh, but what I was really looking for was love. When really it’s — a lot of times what I was really looking for was sex.”
–Cheryl Strayed on the balance between claiming responsibility for your actions and apologizing for yourself. This is just a snippet from an interview published in The Millions. I highly recommend reading the entire interview. At least twice. And if you haven’t already, I implore you to read Wild and Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl’s collection of Dear Sugar columns from The Rumpus. She is my inspiration/life hero at the moment. Amelia and I went to see her speak a couple of weeks ago and the best thing she said, which has been my mantra ever since, was: “True motherfuckerhood has to do with being humble.” [The Millions]
Finally, proof that getting really drunk on wine and gabbing about the world’s most personal shit with your girlfriends is actually a productive way to spend your time! First, my friend (and occasional Frisky contributor) Gillian Telling wrote a book called Dirty Girls about just how grimy women can be, using anecdotes from her own life and the lives of her friends (including yours truly), and now it’s being developed into a half-hour comedy for ABC! According to Deadline Hollywood, “The single-camera half-hour revolves around a group of female friends who reveal the dirty truth about the secret lives of women.” Because I’m slightly self-obsessed, my second thought — after “Holy crap, go Gillian!” — was, Oh my god, there’s maybe going to be a character on TV based on meeeeeeeeeeeeee! Fingers crossed “Dirty Girls” makes it all the way to the small screen, because, based on the book that inspired it and the hijinks therein, it’s bound to be hilarious. [Deadline Hollywood]
If there’s one thing we love more than boys, it’s books. So making sure our two life passions peacefully co-exist is hella important. Enter Judging A Book By It’s Lover: A Field Guide To The Hearts And Minds Of Readers Everywhere. Author Lauren Leto from the blog Texts From Last Night has all the must-know advice on how to impress that David Foster Wallace nut and whether its socially acceptable to date a man who read The Game on purpose. Whether you’re well-read or just looking for someone to hop in bed with, Judging needs to be on your shelf immediately. [$10.19, Amazon]
Unfinished novel on your hard drive? Still paying off those loans for your MFA? It’s probably best to skip this post.
A 16-year-old girl named Emily Baker’s has gotten an e-book deal from Penguin for Loving The Band, which she originally penned online. For those readers who are not 14-year-old girls, One Direction is a boy band from the UK with that really
annoying awesome song “What Makes You Beautiful.” (I just remembered boy bands have really rabid fans.) Loving The Band stars a teenaged girl who gets caught in a love trial between two members of a boy band loosely based on One Direction and will be e-published on November 1. Keep reading »
Dear French Guy Who Buried Himself In A Hole For A Week,
Sometimes life gets really overwhelming, and I want to just, I don’t know, bury myself in a hole with a stack of books and not talk to anyone for a week! Yeah! That’s what I want to do! Do you think that’s crazy? Of course you don’t, because you did exactly that a couple weeks ago, when you descended into a two-foot wide hole dug under a Marseilles bookstore, equipped only with water, freeze-dried food, a headlamp, and some books, and didn’t emerge for seven days. That’s pretty much my life dream. I feel like you and I would have a lot in common. Maybe next time we can share your hole?
That sounds a bit dirtier than I intended, but hey, whatever floats your boat, mon amour.
You know when that thing happened to Ned Stark in Season 1 of HBO’s ”Game of Thrones” and everyone who hadn’t read the book (and some who had) completely freaked out? There’s more stuff like that to come and A Song of Ice and Fire author George R.R. Martin is kind of scared about how you’ll react. So scared, in fact, he’s considering leaving the country to hide out for a while. (No spoilers for upcoming plot lines!) Read more…