If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one of the top feminist writers under 30 by Ms. magazine. Then, somewhere along the way, her feminist principles started to chafe: she felt like men were emasculated (“icky ‘liberal’ men,” she calls them in the book) and she resented feeling like women wore the pants. Soon Valdes fell for a Fox News-watching, macho cowboy who exuded an alpha male sexiness and she started to submit to him in their relationship. As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.”
Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her. Keep reading »
It looks like the film version of Fifty Shades of Grey may not be for everybody, quite literally. Kelly Marcel has taken on the task of penning the screenplay for the first film of the series and according to her, it is going to have to have an NC-17 rating. She says they are absolutely going to push all of the limits and go as far as possible to truly bring the mega popular book to life.
That seems to me like the only way that a book based on the BDSM lifestyle can ever make it to the big screen. Let’s face it, Fifty Shades is all about the raunchy sex and if the powers-that-be choose to water it down it’s going to be an absolute box office flop. They have to make it rival the books in terms of the really edgy sex play. Read more…
Recently, I was asked by a women’s relationship website to recap how all of us are Bridget Jones in some way. The reason for the assignment was, in case you don’t already know, Helen Fielding has written another chapter in the life of the beloved character. I took the assigned topic without question, because it’s true – most women do have quite a bit of Bridget in them. If that had not been the case, then the books and eventual movies would have fallen flat and I wouldn’t be writing this right now.
But as I worked on that particular piece, I realized that despite her divine quirkiness and adorable flaws, she isn’t exactly the best role model for single women. I’m not suggesting all role models should be perfect like Hillary Clinton, but they should offer a bit more than Bridget. And as a single woman myself, I know this to be fact because single women are always right. Or at least this is what I tell my married friends – whom I then force to agree with me by withholding any further cupcake baking and distribution. It always works. But I digress.
Let’s look at a few examples where Bridget falls flat. Perhaps, if we’re to learn anything from her at all, it’s the complete opposite of what she often represents. You don’t have to agree with me on these points, but then again, you’ve never had my cupcakes so you’ve nothing to truly lose. Keep reading »
Once upon a time, when a respectable young lady traveled to the big, bad city, she was accompanied by a chaperone, lest anyone get the wrong idea about her virtue. The Chaperone by Laura Moriarty is a fictionalized tale about a Wichita woman in 1922 who was hired to accompany a 15-year-old Louise Brooks to New York City for the summer so the teen could attend a dance school. Only a few years later, Louise Brooks became a world famous silent film star. It’s a picturesque tale of that Great Gatsby-era when women bobbed their hair and rising hemlines had everyone in a tizzy. If you love the peek at the changing roles of women on “Mad Men” in the 1960s, you’ll love The Chaperone to see how roles were even changing for their mothers a generation before. [$26.95, Powells]