Mother’s Day is when advertising distills motherhood down to home-cooked brunch, a bracelet, or a fragrant bouquet. But for far too many people, the relationship with their mom is a complicated one. Not all mothers have been nurturing and caring; not all daughters and sons have overcome the trauma of their childhoods as adults. There can be a lot of love in a mother-child relationship, but also a deep well of pain. That’s why The End Of Eve: A Memoir, by Ariel Gore, is the perfect antidote to Mother’s Day.
Several years ago, Gore, who is the editor of Hip Mama magazine, was happily in a relationship with her partner and raising a college-aged daughter and a toddler son, when she got some news. Her narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother, Eve, announced she had cancer.
So, Gore and her family picked up their lives and moved to spend the last couple of years caring for Eve — who, in turn, made everyone’s lives difficult in every possible way, like reporting Gore and her partner to Child Protective Services for (nonexistent) child abuse. But Gore was dedicated to both caring for her sick mom and trying to keep her relationship with her girlfriend together.
As a memoirist, Ariel Gore is gifted: she is able to tell a heartbreaking story of illness and betrayal with the perfect mix of respect, humor and irreverence. I called Gore at home to talk about The End Of Eve, which I absolutely devoured. Our conversation is after the jump!
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He showed up at my door wearing jeans. They were black, but they were definitely denim. Oh, dear. He looked so proud of himself, like, weren’t black jeans pretty much exactly the same thing as a suit? Jeans could be wedding-appropriate, come on! Well, no, not exactly. But if I said they couldn’t be, not for this wedding and probably not for most, I feared he’d only get angry and start railing on the bourgeois perceptions and expectations of my nouveau riche friends. He had on a jacket, at least, and a pressed button-down shirt. He’d shaved. He looked stressed, not angry yet, but on edge and ready to rage at being found fault with over something that he hadn’t cared about doing in the first place. This was my deal, not his.
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Honestly, whenever I see anything related to “The Fault In Our Stars,” it’s time to cry, so this extended trailer for the movie version of John Green’s amazing YA novel about teens with cancer had me reaching for the tissues almost immediately. What I could gather through the tears, however, is the sense that the film is sticking really close to the book, which is sure to come as a relief to fans. The trailer shows brief flashes of scenes that are directly from the novel, including Hazel and Augustus’s swoon-worthy date in Amsterdam and the egging of Isaac’s ex-girlfriend’s car. Just five more weeks until “The Fault In Our Stars” opens in theaters on June 6. I have never been so excited to sob uncontrollably in public.
Activities are wonderful, but sometimes, it’s fine to want to shut the world out for a couple of days, and make some serious time for you. Don’t be afraid of FOMO, either. There will always be another party, another pub crawl, another picnic. The time you’ll spend indulging in the things you want to do, alone, are well worth it. Here’s a handy list of awesome things to do this weekend!
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Back in February, some jerk politicians in South Carolina threatened cut the College of Charleston’s budget because they didn’t like the books that freshman were assigned to read for 2013 orientation. Those books were Out Loud: The Best Of Rainbow Radio, which tells the story of South Carolina’s first LGBT radio show, a Fun Home, a graphic memoir by Alison Bechdel. Legislators advanced bills that would cut funds in the amount that was spent on implementing the orientation’s reading campaigns.
This week, the off-Broadway cast of “Fun Home,” a new show based on Bechdel’s (amazing) 2006 memoir about being the lesbian daughter of a closeted gay father, performed to sold out audiences at the school’s Memminger Auditorium. “Fun Home” the play was recently named a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize for Drama.
Miraculously, no one who attended the performances has suddenly become came. It’s still early yet, though. Keep reading »
The Otherhood: a growing population of educated, professional women in their 30s and 40s who have yet to find love or start a family. In fact, statistics show that almost 50 percent of American women are childless — yet our society still isn’t quite sure how to treat these women, placing all sorts of assumptions and opinions on them without truly understanding their decisions.
Enter Melanie Notkin, the successful founder of Savvy Auntie and a vocal representation of this demographic. Melanie’s new book, Otherhood: Modern Women Finding A New Kind Of Happiness, is part memoir and part reflection, digging deep into world of these women and the challenges they face. Keep reading »