I had an abortion when I was 21. It was my senior year of college. I was living in NYC, working nights as an exotic dancer while interning during the day at a grassroots nonprofit for disadvantaged girls. I was cheating on my long distance boyfriend, we were having unprotected sex and I got pregnant. I was lying to everyone about everything. I was a total shit show: three perfect words to describe Cat Marnell, the xoJane editor who caught flack last week for a post she wrote about using Plan B as her primary form of birth control.
When I think back to the young woman I was then, I want to shake her. I want to shame her. I am angry at a woman who should’ve known better- who did know better, I find myself thinking even now — but who chose, instead, to know nothing. I was stupid and reckless and selfish, self absorbed and intent on my ways. The abortion wasn’t the worst of it, only a symptom of a greater sorrow. Simply put, I needed help.
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If you’re big whores like we are, you’re intimately familiar with the panoply of birth control options out there. The Pill. The patch. The Depo Provera shot. And of course, good old condoms. So we are delighted to hear there is a new option for those of us who are not responsible enough to feed and care for a goldfish, much less a baby: the birth control ninja. This tiny ninja hangs out inside your ladyparts and kicks the ass of any sperm that tries to sully one of your precious eggs. Quick, get yours now before the religious right gets them banned! [YouTube] Keep reading »
The Frisky has kept you up-to-date on what Bill O’Reilly and other conservatives think about health insurers being told to cover women’s birth control without co-pays — i.e. will Blue Cross/Blue Shield cover mani/pedis next? Thankfully, Stephen Colbert has also weighed in and it’s a good thing, too. How else would we know that birth control is exactly what killed the dinosaurs? [The Colbert Report] Keep reading »
“Is the White House out of their mind? Does the West Wing not know what the left wing is doing? We’re $14 trillion in debt and now we’re cover going to cover birth control, breast pumps, counseling for abuse? Are we going to do pedicures and manicures as well? … Why in the world would you encourage your daughters, and your granddaughters, and whoever else comes behind you to have unrestricted, unlimited sex anytime, anywhere and that, somehow if you prevent pregnancy, that somehow you’ve helped them. I would submit to you that uncontrolled sexual behavior is what is harming our girls, not our lack of birth control — which by the way they don’t seem interested in taking anyway. Having a baby is not the worst thing. I think having multiple sex partners without any kind of restraint or responsibility is much more damning, why would you support that?
— This is anti-birth control conservative Sandy Rios from a group called Family PAC speaking with Fox News’ show “America’s Newsroom” about requiring health insurers make birth control available without co-pays. (And yes, Sandy is a woman, which makes her comments all the more obnoxious.) I guess the tactic is to make birth control look like a silly, frivolous, la-di-da expense that ladies indulge in like a spa weekend? Well, next time we go out for cosmos and Depo Provera shots, Sandy Rios, you are not invited. [Think Progress] Keep reading »