When it comes to awkward conversations with the new guy you’re dating, the STD/birth control chat takes the cake. It’s the necessary talk that neither of you want to have, not to mention, there’s that whole timing issue. You don’t want to get into it right off the bat (although Milton, 35, disagrees) and there’s no quicker way to kill the mood than to bring it up while things are getting hot and heavy.
To help us navigate this tricky talk, we asked 7 guys to dish on when and how to bring things up with your new boo—because, well, they would know! Read on to see what they had to say about the do’s and don’ts of having “the talk.” Read more on YourTango.com…
A wise man once said, “The only thing better than bacon is sex.” Well, not really, but he was thinking it.
Since safe sex is a good thing, and so is bacon, the good folks at J&D’s Foods—creators of virtually bacon everything—decided to combine them. And so it goes: I present to you, the bacon condom, which is an actual and real thing that you can wear during the act of sexual intercourse. Read more on The Gloss…
So Republicans now control the House and the Senate, and they defeated Democratic gubernatorial candidates in Maryland, Maine, Massachussetts, and (sigh) Illinois, and so control the majority of gubernatorial offices in the U.S. Don’t freak out too much; let’s be honest, politicians’ inability to care about their constituencies knows no political party. Ever listened to that This American Life episode about campaign financing? It’s a good one. This year’s top ten most expensive races will cost $700 million combined. Keep reading »
Many of society’s roles and traditions that govern the male/female relationship have their roots in a single biological imperative: to procreate. We long understood that in order to keep our species from going extinct, certain rules and guidelines must be put in place to help men and women get along and keep it together long enough to produce offspring. So belief systems and institutions were created to reinforce the importance of mating and pairing like gender roles, chivalry, dating and marriage.
That was before technology came about and completely changed the game. Society has already witnessed the great impact birth control like condoms, the pill, shots and other contraceptives which have revolutionized the ways men and women interact and the societal rules that govern those interactions. Gender norms that were once rigid and unchangeable have been transformed in ways unimaginable. Without the constant of pregnancy, women and men can more freely express their sexuality and desires. Keep reading »
I will admit: I’m fascinated by the female condom. For starters, it’s the only female initiated dual-protection (against both pregnancy and STIs) method available. The potential for women all over the world to have agency over our reproduction is amazing. But why, I’ve wondered, is uptake so low? Why don’t any of my friends use it?
There are certainly some aspects of the female condom that are less appealing than other methods. At $7.00 for three, they’re much more expensive than traditional condoms. They’re also a bit less effective than the traditional condom, and there’s the ever pervasive “I don’t like how they feel on my peen” argument for both varieties of condom (although female condom praise-singers are trying to combat that one). The narrative around them in the developed world is often something like “meh.” Female condom manufacturers and advocates have attempted to reframe the discussion to include benefits including enhanced pleasure and ease of use. I’ve joined the call for feminists and health care workers to advocate for their use and access, but the benefits beyond risk reduction feel clumsy and don’t really ring true for me. Can it REALLY stimulate bodies in ways that are worth using them over traditional condoms? Could watching someone insert one possibly be alluring?
So when a friend suggested I shut up and try it, I realized I really should put my birth control where my mouth was. Or something. Keep reading »