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7 Signs He’s Not Planning On Proposing

Here are seven signs your boyfriend will not be popping the question anytime soon:

1. No introductions. He has not introduced you to hisfamily members and you have been dating for over a year.

2. No planning. He does not include you in his future plans (such as work, where he is moving, his travel).

3. Silence. He doesn’t talk about marriage or having a family at all. Read more…

3 Love Lessons From “Les Miserables”

I could gush all day about the 2012 film adaptation of “Les Misérables.” It’s everything a movie musical should be. The film itself is like a love letter from the director (Tom Hooper) to the musical’s original creators that says: Your work is perfection on stage. Let’s do it justice on film. And he succeeded.

But alas, this isn’t a review, so I’ll refrain from gushing and introduce instead three of the film’s most poignant love lessons:

1. Check yourself. The next time you get all self-pitying about your love life (Why hasn’t he texted me yet?!), consider a small dose of “Les Mis.” Once you hear Fantine’s (played by Anne Hathway) gutwrenching tale of lost love in the show-stopping ballad “I Dreamed A Dream,” your petty problems will fall instantly into perspective … that is, unless you also lost your job as an 1823 French factory worker when you were outed for having an illegitimate child and were subsequently relegated to a life of prostitution that consumed your soul and ultimately ended your life. No? Okay then. Read more…

The Post-Breakup Social Media Survival Guide

Who can resist the urge to look at their ex’s Facebook page? Admit it. It calls your name and whispers, “Check me out!” No harm, right?

An astute researcher in England begs to differ. A recent study concluded that the more time you spend on your ex’s Facebook page, the more psychological distress you experience, the greater your desire for your ex and the more difficulty you have moving on.

Admit it. You are not really surprised. That’s because most of us realize that the toxic connections we have with our exes are stoked by talking about, thinking about and looking at stuff about them. While lurking on their Facebook page may not morph itself into stalking, it’s just not healthy. Read more…

5 Ways To Ruin Your Sex Life

Scientists have confirmed that chocolate contains an enzyme that can set off the pleasure centers of the brain in a manner that is similar to the effect sex has on the brain … which is why when some women are too tired for one, they’ll reach for the other — “Not tonight, honey, I’ll have a Hershey’s Kiss instead.”

But what if she’s not tired? What if she’s just plain bored, or not interested in a sex life that isn’t what she imagined? Or maybe it’s not her, but her man sitting on the bed with his stash of M&Ms? This can be prevented, but it takes more than just avoiding the candy aisle at the supermarket. That’s why we’ve put together a list of the five most common barriers to a healthy sex life. If any of these look familiar to you, there is a way out. Read more…

Relationship In A Rut? There’s An App For That!

It’s no secret that after the initial “honeymoon” phase of a relationship, couples can get, well, lazy.

That laziness comes in many forms—lack of sexual intimacy, letting yourself go, absence of the small gestures of affection that were once so frequent and intoxicating—you get the picture. The holidays (and the return of New Year’s Resolutions) are typically a time of vowing to combat that complacency and ignite the spark that once burned so bright; but, as the story goes, resolutions are often broken well before the end of week one.

So, how can couples combat their relationship ruts this year? Well, there’s an app for that. Read more…

5 Sex Habits To Break Before The New Year

Everyone has a few bad habits. Are yours related to sex? Here are some sexual habits to consider breaking right away:

1. Having sex only in the dark. Unless you’ve lied about your gender, you have nothing to hide during sex. He can feel your body, and he’s been looking at it since you met. If he really disliked it, you wouldn’t be making love right now. So relax and free your body from the prison of darkness.

If the glare of stadium lights isn’t appealing, try a few candles instead. A light in the hallway or bathroom outside the bedroom can be gentle, too. Remember, just because you don’t like one or more parts of your body doesn’t mean he won’t. If you’re baffled, ask him exactly what he likes about the body part that offends you — and believe him. Read more…

Miss Universe: Why Do We Still Have Beauty Pageants?

Women have come a long way since the inequality of the 1920s. So, why on earth are beauty pageants still so popular?

Over 5.50 million viewers tuned into Miss Universe Wednesday night. And while the competition claims to be much more than beauty pagent, an event that originated 92 years ago, we all know that’s what it is and what it enforces.

The cheesy poses, the evening wear, the fake tans and that diamond crown — as much ‘moderninization’ as this event has taken on in recent years, it’s still largely outdated and still perpetuates superficial beauty. Read more…

Drew Barrymore Reacts To Kristen Wiig Dating Her Ex

Now, she’s a mother and wife. But that wasn’t always the case for Drew Barrymore. Before meeting husband Will Kopelman, the actress was in a serious, five-year relationship with The Strokes’ drummer Fabrizio Moretti. After they split in 2006, Barrymore didn’t expect him to one day be dating one of her girlfriends!

Moretti is currently dating “Bridesmaids” star Kristen Wiig, who also happens to be one of Barrymore’s close friends (and someone who does hilarious impressions of the “Whip It” director on “SNL”). So, how does Barrymore feel? Read more…

Alarming New Facts About The “Does Size Matter” Debate

Every day I counsel men and women who are concerned about improving their sex lives. The sad truth is that most of us are very poorly educated about sexuality despite the plethora of media attention on it.

One of the questions men (and women) often ask about is penis size. Most males, at some time in their lives, worry about whether they are “big enough.”  Many women wonder whether bigger is better.

My friend Dr. David Buss and his colleague Dr. Cindy Meston wrote a wonderful book calledWhy Women Have Sex. In it, they discuss penis size and sexual satisfaction. Their results may surprise you. Read more…

Chlamydia & Gonorrhea Are On the Rise

Here’s some unsettling news: Chlamydia and gonorrhea, both which can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility in women, are on the rise and both are more prevalent in women than men. According to the the 2011 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance report released by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention yesterday, certain groups, including young people and gay and bisexual men are at the greatest risk. Read more…