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I’m A Feminist And I Love S&M

The book Fifty Shades of Grey has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers’ minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. Shocking, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they’re a “bad girl”? I’ll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women, but some men, too.

As with any book that explores a realm diverging from the mundane, there has been a lot of talk about not only the writing (apparently it sucks), but also the topic. While some are appalled by it, others, like myself, are just giving my fellow friends who enjoy some spanking action high fives. It’s about time that a woman wanting to play the submissive role in the bedroom is portrayed in a light that makes it seem like a normal sex act, not something that goes on in a creepy S&M dungeon. Read more…

10 Signs You Are A Rude Date

Ever wonder why your initial dates rarely lead to a great dating relationship?  Find out if you’re unknowingly doing or saying 10 things to turn off a potential love match, and discover what to do instead if you want to find great love and  create a great relationship.

10 Warning Signs That You Are A Rude Date — And What To Do Instead

1. You arrive late for a date or change plans last minute as a habit — instead of honoring your date’s feelings and your commitment to be together as planned for a date. Read more…

Is Your Dog An Online Dating Dealbreaker?

Have you ever come across a gorgeous man’s profile picture who seems to have everything you’ve ever wanted in life — except he has a cat? How about that handsome, mysterious James Bond type who claims the hobbies of cliff-diving and extreme snowboarding excites him? Crap … he’s into exotic snakes.  In the online dating world, these mini-factoids may fall into a category called dealbreakers.

Because dealbreakers are exactly that, the question comes into play, “Where do pets fit into your dating profile?” Most of the traditional sites have a spot where you can share your animal likes and dislikes, and these usually allow free-form writing. However tempting it may be to share the poem you recently wrote honoring Fluffy, my best advice is to keep this to a simple list. Read more…

Is “Just Friends” The Coward’s Way Out?

Over and over society seems to say that men and women can’t be “just friends.” An article in The New York Times delineates these points from “When Harry Met Sally,” to more recent movies like “Friends With Benefits.” But sex and relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil takes the idea of “just friends” and turns it on its head: what if this is the coward’s way out?

Dr. Bonnie explains that adding in sex and intimacy into a relationship is more tricky so some people opt to take the friends-only root. “That’s not to say that every male/female friendship should end in marriage or that every such relationship harbors repressed romantic feelings. But often there is at least one member of the friendship who hopes for something more but doesn’t act on it.” Read more

7 Signs You’re Dating A Toxic Man

We’ve all met a toxic man.

In fact, you’ve probably met a whole lot of them. And spent time with them. And dated them. And got all mired in relationships with them. And the real kicker? You probably didn’t even realized that dude you were dating was a manipulative, lying, super-clingy control freak.

“So many women are worried about hurting a man’s feelings,” says Dr. Lillian Glass, author of the new book, Toxic Men: 10 Ways to Identify, Deal with, and Heal from the Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. “They forget to worry about themselves and their own emotional needs. A lot of woman are being abused and they don’t even know it.”  Read more…

4 Ways To Get A Fresh Start In Love This Spring

Spring is the perfect demonstration of the possibilities for our lives as the seasons change and bring with it a new opportunity for a better day. Spring has always been a magical time of the year because it is nature’s illustration of whatever appears to be “dead and without life” can come alive once again. Single women can get a fresh start for spring by realizing that no matter how dismal their love life appears to be, in an instant, this can change with a correct change in mindset, approach and understanding.

1. Forgive. You must make emotional room in your life for what you want before you can see physical manifestation of the desires of our hearts. That requires you to stop filling up your waking hours with work and caring for your children and make time for dating. You must also be willing to let go of past pains and hang-ups that stand in your way of finding true love. Read more

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