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5 Female Friendship Lessons I Learned From “Bachelorette”

September is International Womens’ Friendship month, so it’s fitting that the movie “Bachelorette” is out this month too. I went into the movie expecting a typical wedding rom-com about women who have perfect jobs and men, but instead I got a hilarious movie that finally depicted female friendships in a real way. Keep reading »

Why You Can’t Find A Good Man

When I was single, the reason I couldn’t find a good man was my habit of “wishful hoping.” I am long past that now, but as a coach I find “wishful hoping” is probably one of the key factors that make finding your true love take so long.

“Wishful hoping” is very similar to being in a state of longing. You may understand it better if I share with you this definition of longing by Gay Hendricks:

“Longing is a persistent lingering feeling of wanting something you can’t quite get or something you’ve judged unattainable.” Read more …

Why You Should Date More Than One Guy At A Time

So many of my clients ask me whether they should date more than one man at a time. As their search for love heats up, suddenly there are a few guys who are interested and they don’t know how to handle it. The other scenario is that they fall in love too quickly with one guy and end up heartbroken time after time. Have either of these situations happened to you?

When I was looking for love, I often dated up to three guys simultaneously. I wasn’t trying to hit some number in the Guinness Book of World Records. Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.

Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates. Since there was no way to know who would stick around, I dated as many guys as I was interested in at the same time. That’s why I’m an advocate for “volume dating.” I dated 30 men in 15 months in order to eventually meet my husband. Read more …

How Barack And Michelle Obama Restored My Faith In Marriage

I want love to be comfortable yet scintillating and constantly evolving. Even if life’s not full of adrenaline-pumping surprises, I still crave a little adventure. And the butterflies should never die, just perhaps calm down a bit. And just when you think I’ve gotten outlandish with my demands… I want to have all of these things with my best friend.

I believe it exists. Back in 2007, when I really started paying attention to the black man running for president and his elegant, radiant partner, Michelle, I realized that I was more enamored with their interactions than with his take on the issues (I eventually researched those before I stepped into the voting booth, I promise). When it comes to their relationship, I’m still not sure what’s real and what’s projected by the media. But since reality is one’s own mental creation, I’m rocking with my observations. Read more…

4 Famous Couples Whose Work-Life Balance We Admire

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inding a balance between life at the office and life at home is one of the great challenges of adulthood; often, blurring the lines by devoting more time to one more than the other can cause life-changing shifts, and more often than not those shifts affect our personal relationships rather than our work ethic.

This September, the delicacy of that work-life balance comes to the big screen in ”The Words.” The film stars Bradley Cooper as a young writer who, among other poor decisions, places his ambition and success above his relationship with his wife (Zoe Saldana). Check out the trailer above.

It’s a theme we see often in Hollywood relationships; high-profile couples divorce because their work lives had them too far apart for too long, or their drives to be successful outweigh their drives to make love last. However, there are some celebrity pairs that really exemplify what it means to strike the perfect balance between work and romance, and for that we’re completely jealous. Read more…

5 Surprising Ways Your Job Influences Who You’re Attracted To

Girl Talk: I Quit My Job
How did it turn out for this author? Read More »
Sexy Jobs
These jobs will get a guy laid. Read More »
Dating A Coworker
office romance photo
In defense of dating a co-worker. Read More »

Last year, we did a “Best And Worst Careers For Love” survey which highlighted, among other things, that the five worst careers when it comes to finding love are: journalism (ha), business ownership, healthcare, real estate and law. This isn’t terribly surprising given the long hours of these careers, and how long it takes to ascend to the top in all of them.

But according to a new survey from eHarmony, maybe if these work addicts went for the opposite type of profession when it came to scoping out a potential love interest, they’d be happier. In honor of Labor Day, the online dating site looked at communication trends between their users to find out how they were influenced by people’s careers. It turns out that what you do for a living has a big influence on who you hit up online in your off-hours. Here are just a few of the tidbits they found:

1. Female business executives have the highest rate of communication with men who are barbers or hair stylists. Wait … really? I don’t see those two professions dating in real life too much. Maybe the businesswomen need hairstyle advice? Read more…

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