Every day I counsel men and women who are concerned about improving their sex lives. The sad truth is that most of us are very poorly educated about sexuality despite the plethora of media attention on it.
One of the questions men (and women) often ask about is penis size. Most males, at some time in their lives, worry about whether they are “big enough.” Many women wonder whether bigger is better.
My friend Dr. David Buss and his colleague Dr. Cindy Meston wrote a wonderful book calledWhy Women Have Sex
. In it, they discuss penis size and sexual satisfaction. Their results may surprise you. Read more…
Here’s some unsettling news: Chlamydia and gonorrhea, both which can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility in women, are on the rise and both are more prevalent in women than men. According to the the 2011 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance report released by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention yesterday, certain groups, including young people and gay and bisexual men are at the greatest risk. Read more…
For all their emotional complications, “friends-with-benefits” relationships may offer one advantage: safer sex. The results of a new study show that people in friends-with-benefits relationships are more likely to use condoms during oral and vaginal sex compared to those in traditional romantic partnerships. So, what if you don’t have a “friends-with-benefits” relationship but like the idea of casual sex?
Back in the ’80s, while I was living in Europe, immersed in the world of modeling, there were lots of opportunities for casual sex. I had friends who never slept around and others who did. From this, I learned a few things.
Featured in an article on nymphomania in Elle magazine, I was labeled as someone who had a healthy relationship with sex. Looking back, I am not sure that is the case. But let’s say it was. What are the benefits of casual versus non-casual sex? And is it a good idea for you to have casual sex? Will it benefit you or not?
If you are young and single, it is your choice what you do with your body. Here are some questions to ask yourself first. Read more…
I could gush all day about the 2012 film adaptation of “Les Misérables.” It’s everything a movie musical should be. The film itself is like a love letter from the director (Tom Hooper) to the musical’s original creators that says: Your work is perfection on stage. Let’s do it justice on film. And he succeeded.
But alas, this isn’t a review, so I’ll refrain from gushing and introduce instead three of the film’s most poignant love lessons:
1. Check yourself.
The next time you get all self-pitying about your love life (Why hasn’t he texted me yet?!
), consider a small dose of “Les Mis.” Once you hear Fantine’s (played by Anne Hathway) gutwrenching tale of lost love in the show-stopping ballad “I Dreamed A Dream,”
your petty problems will fall instantly into perspective … that is, unless you also lost your job as an 1823 French factory worker when you were outed for having an illegitimate child and were subsequently relegated to a life of prostitution that consumed your soul and ultimately ended your life. No? Okay then. Read more…
Just when you thought you’ve heard everything, a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research finds that adult film actresses report higher levels of confidence and self-esteem than your average woman. If this news seems a little hard to swallow (sorry, we went there), it’s because it is.
Until now, it’s been a pretty widely held belief that adult film actresses are emotionally damaged — the product of childhood sexual abuse, among other horrible things. But research conducted on 177 porn actresses and a control group of women with similar socioeconomic backgrounds suggests otherwise. Read more…