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The 10 Worst Breakup Excuses Of All Time

The 10 Worst Breakup Excuses Of All Time

Breaking up is hard to do. So maybe that’s why people give so many bad excuses for it. Of course, at some point, we’ve all probably heard or resorted to “It’s not you, it’s me.” And while that sounds like a cop-out, chances are it isthat person. That person just isn’t sure he or she wants to be with you. Well, if you’re getting dumped, he or she is very sure. But that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you per se. No one likes to hear that though, because people want some kind of concrete reason like, “I hate your underwear.” But that’s usually not the way it goes. The hashtag #WorstBreakUpExcuses has been trending on Twitter all day. Here are 10 of the worst ones. I hope they’re not serious but I wouldn’t be surprised if they were! Read more on The Stir…

5 Dating Tips For Plus Size Women

Dating Tips For Plus Size Women

Six years ago, I couldn’t get a real date to save my life. I blamed nearly all of that on my size and used weight as a shield to deflect getting rejected. When you’re overweight  you come up with all kinds of reason why dating sucks, like “guys are such jerks! They won’t even LOOK at you if you’re not a size 2!” or my favorite“Whatever, I just want a guy to value ME for ME — not how I look.”

But let’s be real here — if you’re overweight and single,  it can feel like there’s no hope in the world for finding a person that madly, truly, deeply loves YOU. Yes, even ALL of you.

Dating while being overweight isn’t a death-sentence to single-dom at all, so here are 5 rules for curvy women who want pure dating mastery! And for added intrigued  I’ve personally used all these rules in my dating life, which lead to one helluva man to put a ring on it. Read more on Your Tango…

6 Terrible Reasons To Stay In A Relationship

6 Terrible Reasons To Stay In A Relationship

It can be confusing to sort out your feelings for someone, especially if you’ve been in a committed relationship with them for a long time. We make up all kinds of crazy reasons to stick together rather than break up, but just because you’ve been together a long time, that doesn’t mean it’s healthy for you. There are lots of obvious reasons to break up, but the ones on this list disguise themselves as reasons to stay together.

1. “He hasn’t done anything wrong.”/”He’s such a good person”/”He’s a great boyfriend.” In every other area of life, not doing anything wrong does not earn you an A+. It earns you a passing grade, but a passing grade is not the same as a stellar significant other. Not doing anything wrong does not equate to doing everything right. You deserve someone who is more than a C. Read more on Your Tango….

7 Women Confess Their Secret Bedroom Alter Egos

7 Women Confess Their Secret Bedroom Alter Egos

If you’ve ever fantasized about being a small time secretary seduced by a big time exec, or a stranded civilian who gets rescued and ravished by a hunky cop, you’re not alone! Seven women come clean about the secret bedroom personas that they’d love to act out with their man.

“So just like every other 20-something with a pulse, I’m obsessed with the show Girls. My boyfriend is really sweet and would never demand that I do anything that I didn’t want to do, especially in the bedroom — but I’ve been having this fantasy about re-enacting the scene from last season’s finale, where Adam demands that Natalia get on the floor, crawl to his bedroom and lets him finish on her. I’d even want him to call me Natalia, and I’d call him Adam … “ —Helena H., 24, Charlottesville, VA

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5 Lies You’ve Been Told About What Men Want

8 lies you can tell in bed

Here’s the scenario: You’re out with the gals and one of them is smack dab in the middle of a dating crisis. One of your friends offers the group what she thinks is stellar advice on men and you’re left thinking, “Jeez, is that really what men want?”

So many of us grow up being told lies about what men want in a relationship and what men are looking for in a wife. These lies are so rampant that I get questions everyday in my inbox asking me advice based on these lies: How do I make him think I don’t like him so that he wants me? How do I act more “chill” like his friend, so that he enjoys hanging out with me? How do I pretend I’m not mad at him when I feel so angry inside? Read more on Your Tango…

10 Lies Nicholas Sparks Told Us About Love

10 Lies Nicholas Sparks Told Us About Love

Sure, we don’t turn down our friend when she suggests going to see the latest Nicholas Sparks film adaptation. (Um, hello, major eye candy!) But as we’re downing our Sour Patch Kids and Diet Coke, we’re also rolling our eyes and contemplating giving the movie the middle finger.

It’s like we’ve seen the same movie 10 times over! Passionate kiss in the rain? Ick. Romantic boat rides? Ugh. Fate stepping in? Vomit.

You think you know everything about love, Sparks? We’re here to tell you that you don’t—and we’ve had to learn that from real-life experience and heartache.

We’re done playing your fool. Just look at all these lies you’ve told us over the years! Read more on Your Tango…

21 Signs You’re Addicted To “The Bachelor”

21 Signs You're Addicted To "The Bachelor"

We all love our reality television and look forward to our weekly ‘dates’ with Chris Harrison. But if you’ve been there since Alex Michael, know Bob Guiney’s birthday, and consider Tenley Molzahn a friend, it might be something more for you.

If that’s the case, we’re not here to judge. No way. You’re part of a really cool group of people called ‘Bachelor Nation.’ Because let’s face it: If loving The Bachelorfranchise is wrong, we don’t want to be right.

So here are a few tell-tale signs that when it comes to “The Bachelor(ette),” you’re more than just a casual fan. Read more on Your Tango…

Love Lessons From “Saved By The Bell”

Love Lessons From Saved By The Bell

Zack, Kelly, Slater, Jessie, Lisa, and yes, even Screech. Our favorite high school gang taught us countless lessons about friendships, hardships, and the most confusing of all — love.

“Saved by the Bell” isn’t just an iconic ’90s TV show; it spoke to a generation. The show dealt with real teen issues (I’m so excited, I’m so excited … I’m so scared, Zack!) and matters of the heart. From Zack and Kelly’s breakups and makeups to Slater and Jessie’s whole ‘opposites attract’ M.O., look back at all the love lessons they taught us back in ’93. You’ll be surprised how wise these kids were—Mr. Belding would be so proud! Read more on Your Tango…

9 Thirtysomething Dating Mistakes

6 harsh realities of online dating

Let’s start off strong here, folks: if you don’t pick up any tips in the dating game in your 20s, suffice it say that your 30s ain’t looking so good, either. Before you write off everyone for all the wrong reasons, just remember that as you age, the stakes get higher.

Maybe you’re busy fighting societal norms or embracing your inner Betty Draper, but no matter what your status, the truth remains: Your friends are settling down. Some are starting families. At the very least, you’re tired of being the only friend without a Plus One to drag to all the parties. What to do? That’s a question for another time.

For now, let’s focus what to stop doing. Read more on Your Tango…

5 Tips For Avoiding Dating Burnout

5 Tips For Avoiding Dating Burnout

“I’m just not going to date for awhile,” is a frequent refrain I hear from my clients. There’s often a lack of enthusiasm and resolve in the delivery, signaling ambivalence. You’re probably familiar with the idea of burnout with respect to repetitive, boring jobs, or highly stressful work situations. Fatigue and a lack of interest in your work are among the signs. Actually, you can burnout on almost anything, including dating. These are the telltale signs of dating burnout and strategies to avoid it:

1. Lackluster interest in new dates. You must begin to ask yourself why you’re pursuing someone at all if you can barely muster the enthusiasm to get ready. Or perhaps you’ve lowered the bar too much and your dates really aren’t interesting.  It’s time to focus on something else. Read more on Your Tango…

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