After being in a relationship for 10 years, Nick and I have gotten pretty damn good at dealing with relationship-related issues. We are still learning, of course, and probably always will be, but when it comes to the challenges that arise from sharing a life with someone, we’ve got a solid handle on it. Balancing two people’s needs, addressing conflict in a respectful way, compromising, communicating clearly, owning your own moods, and giving and receiving love freely are all things we’ve become really good at.
And I use the phrase “become really good at” on purpose. These weren’t skills we brought into the relationship as two separate people, these are things we learned from being in a relationship. I’m so grateful to my relationship (and to Nick!) for providing a loving, supportive context in which I could learn these things. I’ve been able to apply them to my friendships, my family relationships, my work, and my writing. The skills you learn in a relationship aren’t only applicable to your relationship — they’re truly valuable in many different areas of your life.
I can’t help but wonder, though, if all the work I’ve done on issues relating to my relationship has been at the expense of work I could have been doing on myself. Keep reading »
Ladies and gentlemen, meet the Mountain Dew Doritos Cupcake, a hybrid of neon green soda, lemon cake mix, and nacho cheese chips. I think Claire put it best: “if ever a baked good captured the spirit of America, it is this one.” The perfect treat to bring to a 4th of July picnic! Check out the video recipe here if you’d like to whip up a batch for yourself, but please don’t hold us responsible for whatever happens to your digestive system afterwards. [Via That’s Nerdalicious]
You’ve surely heard of cat cafes, where patrons can have a coffee and a bagel while snuggling a furry kitty, but a new kind of animal dining experience may be sweeping the globe soon, one that I’m WAY more excited about: goat cafes. The trend is starting, as so many weird/wonderful dining trends do, in Japan, where Sakuragaoka Cafe has been letting patrons mingle with their two in-house goats for the past few years. The goats have been a huge hit with customers, who come in droves to pet them and bring them treats. Hear that, American restaurateurs? Goat cafes are a thriving business! Let’s make them happen here ASAP, yeah? Even if other people are grossed out by the idea of eating alongside barnyard animals, I will single-handedly keep the venture afloat. Table for 12, please! (That would be me and 11 goats, obvi.) [Modern Farmer]
I am an unapologetic flower freak. I spend an exorbitant amount of money on bouquets year-round, post pictures of them on Instagram with captions like, “Spring blooms <3″ (I know I’m the worst), and would decorate my house in a floor-to-ceiling floral motif in a hot minute if my boyfriend would let me. For now, I’ll just pack it full of pretty floral DIY projects and hope he doesn’t say anything. If you’re a fellow flower child, click through for 8 awesome craft ideas that are right up your alley…
“Our whole family danced our butts off to ['I Want Your Sex'] in the living room. No idea what it meant! We just knew it made us move.”
Kate Hudson shared the “soundtrack of her life” in this month’s InStyle, and the song she cited as the defining jam of her childhood was none other than the kid-friendly George Michael hit, “I Want Your Sex.” The image of Kurt, Goldie and the kids rocking out and singing along to lyrics like, “What’s your definition of dirty, baby?” is cracking me up. Ah, the ignorant bliss of being 8 years-old. [InStyle]