Profile for Wendy Atterberry

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Dear Wendy: “It’s Been Five Years And My Boyfriend Still Won’t Propose!”

The Toothless Groomsman
Advice for a woman who's fiance's groomsman has no teeth. Read More »
Dear Wendy...
"My boyfriend thinks his ex is hotter." Read More »
Anti-Online Dating
How can you "make" yourself date online? Read More »

I’m a 27-year-old female, and I’ve been with my 31 year old boyfriend for over five years now. We have made a happy and loving life together, including sharing a home, sharing our finances, being closely involved with each other’s families, and we even have two cats and a puppy together. About a year ago we started talking seriously about getting engaged within the next six months, but by the time fall rolled around, my boyfriend told me that though he loves me and wants nothing more than a future with me, he was just not ready for an engagement yet. He had some issues from his parents’ divorces, and decided to begin counseling to deal with them. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Was Invited To My Ex’s Wedding, But I Don’t Want To Go”

Toxic Friendships
15 toxic friends you need to dump ASAP. Read More »
S**t Guys Say
The shit guys say to women -- that they wouldn't say to each other. Read More »
Dear Wendy...
"My boyfriend is addicted to singles chat sites." Read More »

Adam, a good friend of mine, who also happens to be an ex-boyfriend, has invited me to his upcoming wedding, but I have no desire whatsoever to go. Adam and I dated about five years ago and broke up because I was 19 and not ready for the type of relationship that he was looking for. We remained close friends, and shortly after, he started dating Debbie, his now fiancée. For a while, we all got along fine. Debbie knew Adam and I were friends, but I only saw her a handful of times over the next couple years while I saw Adam on an almost weekly basis. At first, she was never anything but friendly, but after a while, things got ugly: she sent passive aggressive messages on Myspace and wrote nasty blog posts about me, calling me a whore and a drug addict, and accusing me of trying to steal her fiancé, among other hateful things. I was upset, and confronted Adam, but he took her side and we didn’t speak for three years. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Ostracized For Keeping My Maiden Name”

My husband and I have been married a little under a year and we’re starting to actually feel married. However, in all of the adjustments I’ve made, there’s still one giving me a hard time: telling people that I’ve kept my maiden name. It’s a decision I made long before I met my husband; we discussed it at length before we even got engaged, and now he and our immediate friends and families are completely, 100% comfortable with it. Keep reading »

The Dos & Don’ts Of Emailing Online Dating Matches

Types To Avoid
There are a lot of great guy online -- just not these five types. Read More »
Your Profile Photo
The dos and don'ts of the all-important online dating profile pic. Read More »
Online Dating Lies
The top 10 white lies people tell on their profiles. Read More »

When a friend of mine who’s dipping her toe back into the world of online dating recently asked for three quick rules to remember when emailing potential matches, it occurred to me that if she needed a bit of a refresher course, some of you probably do too. After all, as convenient as it is, email is rife with opportunities to shoot yourself in the foot and hurt your shot at making a real connection. So after the jump, eight dos and don’ts to remember when emailing a potential online dating match. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “He Got Us Both Pregnant At The Same Time”

No NYE Date?
"He still hasn't made New Year's Eve plans with me..." Read More »
Bad Baby Daddy
"My baby daddy isn't supporting our child." Read More »
Dear Wendy
"I want to dump my parents." Read More »

I’m four months pregnant and split with my boyfriend of one year a week ago. He has a son with someone who he was “banging” before me, though they never had a relationship. I got used to him having a kid and things were okay. When he got used to the idea that we were having a baby he was happy because he said it was with “someone he loved a lot.”After we broke up he kept trying to talk to me but I kept ignoring him til one night he begged me to talk to him so I gave in and went to see him. He told me how much he wanted us to be together for the baby and I was considering giving it a try, but then he said, “I have to tell you something,” and he told me his baby mama might be pregnant for him again. He said he didn’t know how it happened — he was soo dang drunk he doesn’t remember anything happening. We were broken during that time and I guess he sorta thinks if he doesn’t remember what he did and that we were split up it shouldn’t matter.

I love him a lot and I want us to be together for our baby but this situation just seems so effed up. He said he wants to be with me and our baby and that he doesn’t want her to have another kid for him. He also begged me if we could still just try and be together, but I can’t figure out what to do but hope she’s lying. She had their first kid to trap him but he doesn’t want to be with her at all. I need help. This is tearing me apart. — Confused Baby Mama

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Dear Wendy: “My Thoughts Are Consumed With My Ex”

Is Forgiveness Possible?
cheating photo
"Will I always be hurt that he cheated?" Read More »
Squirter?
"He sprayed me in the face!" Read More »
No More BFF
"I lost my best friend to another woman." Read More »

Guest columnists and contributors are generously sharing their talents and insights while I’m taking some time to care for my new baby. Today’s letter is answered by freelance writer, Rachel East, AKA ReginaRey.

About six months ago, the man I thought I was going to marry left me unceremoniously for another woman. During the aftermath – the moving out and settling of affairs — he acted cruelly and horribly, cementing the split and making damn sure I didn’t come back. I spent much of the next few months depressed, having constant nightmares about him, unable to get out of bed and constantly self-medicating, because the reality of my situation was too much to face. I work freelance, and have been accepting just enough work to scrape by, wishing the end of every gig to come so I could get back into bed. Keep reading »

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