Tiffanie Drayton

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An Open Letter To The Gawker Essayist Who Wrote About Dating White Women While Black

Dear Ernest Baker,

In your recent personal essay on Gawker titled “The Reality of Dating White Women When You Are Black,” you stated unequivocally that you are not a “sell out” because you are a Black man who chooses to seriously date only White women. As a 24-year-old Black woman with very similar…

Tiffanie Drayton / June 4, 2014

The Soapbox: On Anthropologist Kenneth Good, The Amazonian Child Bride He Impregnated & The Western Culture That Celebrates Him

About five years ago, my sister relayed a story to me about a professor she had at New Jersey City University who had his own book, Into the Heart: One Man’s Pursuit of Love and Knowledge among the Yanomama, listed as required reading on his syllabus. My sister refused to purchase the book. It was not…

Tiffanie Drayton / May 30, 2014

The Soapbox: On Donald Sterling, America’s Culture Of Racism & Coming Home

The media frenzy surrounding the racism of Los Angeles Clippers’ team owner Donald Sterling reminded me why last year, at the age of 23, I decided to leave the country I had been calling “home” for nearly two decades. As a black woman of Caribbean descent, I felt alienated and lost in a sea of…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 28, 2014

Girl Talk: On Being My Black Boyfriend’s First Black Girlfriend

The first time I asked my boyfriend if he had ever actually dated a black girl, we had not even met yet. It was during one of our online Skype sessions that the conversation came up.

“I’ve never really lived around too many black people,” he confessed.

“So have you ever…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 11, 2014

The Soapbox: What Online Prostitution Taught Me About Racism

Racism is a covert agent in our lives. Some claim that it is invisible to them; completely hidden. It is very infrequent that racism openly reveals itself for long enough to be identified, before disappearing, cloaked in discussions about “culture,” “socio-economics,” “sensitivity,” or “history.” Online prostitution is one venue where structural racism can be see…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 4, 2014

The Soapbox: The Real Problem With Skin Lightening Cosmetics

Whitenicious, a cosmetics line created by California-based, Nigerian-Cameroonian pop star Dencia touts its ability to help customers even out their skin and get rid of discoloration. The product is essentially a skin bleaching cream in a golden jar, sold for $150 a pop– well, at least that is what anyone would gather from Dencia’s “transformation”…

Tiffanie Drayton / January 22, 2014

The Soapbox: On Blackface, White Privilege & Why Distancing Myself From White People Doesn’t Make Me Racist

I am a 23-year-old black woman who, for a long time, tried to have discussions with white people about racism in America. I went to a white, liberal college in New York City where I thought such exchanges were welcomed. I actually believed there could be such a thing as a productive conversation on the…

Tiffanie Drayton / January 16, 2014

True Story: I Was A Macy’s Christmas Elf And It Sucked

When I saw an online ad that said, “Seeking Elves For Seasonal Position,” I admit, I was pretty excited. Not only did I fill out the application and provide a full resume, I also attached a cover letter with reasons why I would make the perfect elf:
“With over six years of experience working

Tiffanie Drayton / December 19, 2013

The Soapbox: The Disconnect Between Black Feminism And Gay Activism

I am a black woman and my best friend is a gay man. He came out to me the summer between our senior year of high school and our freshman year of college.

“I really need to tell you something,” he began, while driving us home from our summer job at the local…

Tiffanie Drayton / November 22, 2013

True Story: I Grew Up A Poor, Black Sex Symbol

I have been a symbol of sex my entire life. As a black woman from a poor, single-parent household, I know the script that is written for me far too well. Black women are always more appealing as strippers or “hoes.” Before I even hit puberty, this script was shoved in my face and I…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 4, 2013

The Soapbox: On The “First Female Maasai Warrior” & The Power Of White Privilege

In a recent Yahoo! Shine article, a young, white, California entrepreneur, Mindy Budgor, was deemed a “warrior princess” after ditching her posh, luxury-filled life to become the first female warrior of the African Maasai tribe. Armed with Underarmor, pearl earrings and Chanel dragon red nail polish — which made her feel “fierce”– this nice Jewish…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 13, 2013

Travel Prostitution Is Here

A new website, MissTravel.com, is offering beautiful, broke ladies access to “wealthy” dudes who are willing to pay for travel to exciting destinations. Upon signing up for the site, “beautiful” members (users decided between a “generous” or “beautiful” membership type) must provide photos for approval, which ultimately decide whether the ladies can or cannot have…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 29, 2012

Researcher Claims He Has Found The G-Spot: “A Blue, Grape-Like Structure”

G-spot, in my open letter to you, I warned that if you decided to pop up, you’d better be staying for good. And here you go showing up again, trying to steal all of the attention as always, without making any real commitment to hang around.

Some dude researcher, Dr. Adam Ostrzenski, claim…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 29, 2012

If You Can Prove Tim Tebow Is Not A Virgin, AshleyMadison.com Will Give You $1 Million

Oh AshleyMadison.com, I thought that creating a dating website to promote adultery was the douchiest move any single site could make, but I stand corrected.

Today, you guys have managed to outdo yourselves by offering $1 million dollars to any woman who could prove she had sex with Tim Tebow. Really, guys? I…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 27, 2012

Women Choose Briefcases Over Babies Where Men Are Scarce

Modern American ladies are faced with a new phenomenon that has a real chuckle-worthy title coined by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: “choosing briefcase over baby.” Us girls are receiving 57 percent of all Bachelor’s degrees and 60 percent of all Masters’ degrees and we’re apparently rewarded for our efforts with a scarcity…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 24, 2012

Six-Year-Old Girl Arrested For Temper Tantrum

Six-year-old girl Salecia Johnson landed herself in the slammer recently after throwing a temper tantrum. Georgia police arrived at Creekside Elementary School where the kindergartener was accused of tearing items off the walls, throwing furniture and knocking down a bookshelf that “injured” the principal. When officials attempted to calm her, she “resisted,” so cops handcuffed…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 23, 2012

Advice Wanted: The Guy I’m Dating Sucks In The Sack

My sister introduced me to the guy I’ve been dating for some months now. Our relationship could be summarized in two simple statements:

When I first saw him, my heart skipped a beat.

When he stuffed his tongue in my mouth, my eye twitched.

Tiffanie Drayton / April 17, 2012

Psychiatrist Retracts BS “Gay Conversion Therapy” Study

In my favorite scene from the movie “Bruno,” Bruno (a gay fashion reporter and wannabe superstar from Austria) sat down with a Christian “gay converter” to learn how he could turn himself heterosexual. He was advised to go hunting with three straight Southern dudes, who ended up chasing him down with a gun after he…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 13, 2012

Comedian Kevin Hart’s Cartoon Message To Black Women Is Offensive

A few months ago, I picked up a book called Is Marriage For White People? In it, author Ralph Richard Banks addressed the decline of successful black marriages in America. He attributed this to two factors: 1) African-American women attaining a higher level of education than their male counterparts, and 2) successful black men marrying…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 11, 2012

Flowchart: Who Pays On A First Date?

That awkward end-of-date moment when the check comes, and you debate with yourself whether you should pick up the tab or let him, can easily be avoided. Just go with the flow of this handy flowchart! Dudes, no complaining about having to pay the most often. If the world was fair, mostly men wouldn’t be dabbling i…

Tiffanie Drayton / April 10, 2012