Tiffanie Drayton

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True Story: I Was Stalked By A Random Dude And My Friends Laughed About It

Last week, I had a stalker experience that left me feeling very uneasy. I frequent a Starbucks about a mile away from my house and sometimes just spend the entire day there writing. On one particular afternoon, a young man came into the cafe. I just happened to look up at that same exact moment…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 17, 2014

The Soapbox: “The Whiteness Project” Is A Pageantry Of White Ignorance

In case you are unaware, there is something called “The Whiteness Project.” Per the website, the project, from documentary director Whitney Dow, is “a multiplatform investigation into how Americans who identify as ‘white’ experience their ethnicity.” The first installment, titled “Inside the White Caucasian Box,” was released a few days ago and is an assemblage…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 15, 2014

Frisky Rant: Peter Pans & The Women Who Love Them All Need To Grow Up

This piece does not target all men. It is geared towards the demographic of Peter Pans among the male population who, regardless of age just refuse to grow up. They are the dudes who believe they are working towards a gig that will be extremely lucrative in the long run, but in the interim they are 30+…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 13, 2014

The Soapbox: Fear Me If You Do Not Respect My Right To Walk Down The Street In Peace

Before the movement to end street harassment really gained steam, I penned an essay about my childhood experiences as a poor, Black girl. In the piece, I detailed an interaction I had, at 11 years old with a group of men more than two times my age, where they publicly sexually harassed me while on my…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 10, 2014

10 Things White Feminists Should Know To Better Understand Intersectionality

Politically and socially, the most powerful demographic, with the exception of White men, is White women. Though still underrepresented in key economic and power positions, White women enjoy numerous social benefits, maintain political power as a “majority” voting body, are still allowed access to the resources provided by White men through marriage or other familial…

Tiffanie Drayton / October 6, 2014

8 Reasons Why Feminism Isn’t “Anti-Male”

As highlighted in Emma Watson’s recent speech addressed to the United Nations, society has ravaged the word “feminism.” For many, the term has become synonymous with “anti-male.” This perception derives from the attempt to view feminism as a singular movement or theory founded by lesbians and promoted by man haters. In actuality, feminism represents a…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 26, 2014

Frisky Rant: What’s So Funny About Forcing A Woman To Kiss You?

A bunch of obviously misogynistic “pranks” have been circling my Facebook newsfeed for a few days now and it is just pissing me off. In one particular video, that really can’t be labelled as a prank because there is absolutely nothing funny about it, a young man walks up to a random woman, asks a…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 23, 2014

Girl Talk: On Police Brutality & Experiencing Blackness Through My Boyfriend’s Eyes

I think I may have had a small mental break down last week. I knew it was coming, I was all tight with emotion after some of the responses I received on an open letter I wrote to some New York school teachers who wore NYPD shirts to school on the first day of class–…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 22, 2014

10 Things No One Tells Men That Will Make Them Better Lovers

There are many reasons why men don’t necessarily know what women really like in bed. The most important: a lack of access to real information. Movies oversimplify sex by not really showing what happens in the sack, pornography is just, well, pornography, and “Talk Sex With Sue Johanson” is off the air. Aside from that,…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 15, 2014

The Soapbox: Why I Cannot Be Friends With People Who Don’t Share My Politics

Some years ago, a young man that I was casually dating invited me to a birthday party with some of his friends who all moved to New York City, from Florida, to go to college. It was a scenario I had long grown accustomed to: I was the only Black girl amongst a group of…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 11, 2014

On Serena Williams & The Racism Experienced By Black Women Athletes

Articles chronicling the story of Serena’s 3rd consecutive U.S. Open win were accompanied with pictures of a smiling trophy-displaying Serena Williams standing in front of American flags as they wavered carelessly behind. For many, this photo represents the modern America we all want to believe in: One free of yesteryear’s discrimination and racism…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 9, 2014

10 Tips For College Ladies (From A Recent College Grad)

Life would be so much better if we could have a yearly chat with our past, present and future selves, where we share pressing details about the future and give ourselves necessary advice. Sadly, that is not the case and we often go through new, life-changing experiences — like college — with little help or…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 9, 2014

An Open Letter To The White Teachers Who Wore NYPD T-Shirts To School, Despite Being Told Not To

Dear PS 220 White Teachers Who Wore NYPD T-Shirts To School,

It must have seemed like a fantastic idea when, despite warnings from from the United Federation of Teachers, you all donned NYPD shirts and crowded in front of a camera for a smirking group portrait. Through this lens, which is conspicuously White,…

Tiffanie Drayton / September 5, 2014

12 Reasons Black Women Are Not More Privileged Than Black Men

A seemingly impervious narrative dominates today’s social discourse in the Black community where Black men are painted as more vulnerable victims than their female counterparts. This far-reaching myth typically arises along with discussions about gender inequality or sexism where claims are made that Black women face less hardship than their male counterparts, or even –…

Tiffanie Drayton / August 28, 2014

7 Responses To Mansplanations About Street Harassment

The current furor over street harassment is hard to miss. Everything from Internet message boards to Facebook pages are littered with gender driven discussions on an issue that has become a hot-button topic the world over. There are countless voices in the mix, but sadly, many of the loudest male opinions serve to dismiss any…

Tiffanie Drayton / August 12, 2014

8 Good Reasons To Avoid Nightclubs Entirely

Only a few years ago, I was not yet 21 and couldn’t go to a club. Since I’m the kind of girl who loves to dance and socialize, I couldn’t wait until I was finally old enough to start partying. But when my time came, clubs weren’t how I expected them to be at all:…

Tiffanie Drayton / August 11, 2014

Frisky Rant: The Real Problem With Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda” Cover Art & Her “Black Jezebel” Brand

Last week, Nicki Minaj released the artwork for her new single “Anaconda,” featuring the rapper in a squat position with her large posterior aimed directly at viewers. The image was met with mostly support from fans and critics but some questioned if the image was “too racy.” In response to those criticisms, Minaj tweeted several

Tiffanie Drayton / July 28, 2014

The Soapbox: I Will March For Eric Garner — But Black Male Sexism Must Also Be Addressed

I recently read a piece written by Kimberly Foster titled “Why I Will Not March For Eric Garner.” The author plainly states her argument: she refuses to rally in support of Eric Garner — who died of cardiac arrest after being put in a chokehold by an NYPD officer — because she does not believe…

Tiffanie Drayton / July 25, 2014

15 Of The Most Outrageously Stupid Responses To The “Dear White People” Movie Trailer (And Smart Responses To Them)

A new film called “Dear White People” swept accolades at the Sundance Film Festival and is making its way to theaters this fall. To market the comedy, a trailer was released recently that has since been viewed over a million times on YouTube and has also received thousands of comments. I mistakenly read through some…

Tiffanie Drayton / July 24, 2014

Clueless Casting Director’s Casting Call Ad Tells Us All We Need To Know About Racism And Colorism

I previously wrote a piece for The Frisky that briefly detailed the racism I discovered while working on a research thesis on prostitution in New York City. I explained to readers that in the sex work industry, White, Asian and Hispanic women receive higher payments than their Black counterparts and often times, many Black wome…

Tiffanie Drayton / July 18, 2014