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10 Things No One Tells Men That Will Make Them Better Lovers

10 Things No One Tells Men That Will Make Them Better Lovers

There are many reasons why men don’t necessarily know what women really like in bed. The most important: a lack of access to real information. Movies oversimplify sex by not really showing what happens in the sack, pornography is just, well, pornography, and “Talk Sex With Sue Johanson” is off the air. Aside from that, us ladies are pretty confused as well. Some of us are unaware of what our bodies really like and others don’t want to speak up out of fear that our partner’s feelings will get hurt. So where do men have to turn to get some real info? Well, not too many places. For that reason, The Frisky has compiled this list of essential tips for men to help them be better lovers. This is just a beginners’ guide, so stay tuned for more! Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Why I Cannot Be Friends With People Who Don’t Share My Politics

The Soapbox: Why I Cannot Be Friends With People Who Don't Share My Politics

Some years ago, a young man that I was casually dating invited me to a birthday party with some of his friends who all moved to New York City, from Florida, to go to college. It was a scenario I had long grown accustomed to: I was the only Black girl amongst a group of non-minority people, laughing, drinking and talking.

Then this statement came out of nowhere and immediately wiped the smile from my face: “The best way to keep America safe is to just deport all of the Muslims,” a young White boy said in between sips of a beer.

It pierced my ears, momentarily paralyzing me. My eyes darted towards my friend to gauge his reaction to the words that pierced the air like an arrow launched from a bow, striking me in my chest. He seemed completely unmoved.

“Well, we don’t have to get rid of all of them, just the terrorists really,” he responded plainly.

We never spoke after that day. Keep reading »

On Serena Williams & The Racism Experienced By Black Women Athletes

On Serena Williams & The Racism Experienced By Black Women Athletes

Articles chronicling the story of Serena’s 3rd consecutive U.S. Open win were accompanied with pictures of a smiling trophy-displaying Serena Williams standing in front of American flags as they wavered carelessly behind. For many, this photo represents the modern America we all want to believe in: One free of yesteryear’s discrimination and racism that would’ve disallowed Black access to the sport. Where a little Black girl from Compton, California, among America’s most impoverished neighborhoods, can ascend to the ranks of “the best in the world” worth over $50 million — all earned from hard work and dedication. And this is the America we display to the world.

However, a stark reality exists that Black people in this country are far too well-aware of. One where all Black accomplishment is met with condemnation and ugly racist remarks. Keep reading »

10 Tips For College Ladies (From A Recent College Grad)

10 Tips For College Ladies (From A Recent College Grad)

Life would be so much better if we could have a yearly chat with our past, present and future selves, where we share pressing details about the future and give ourselves necessary advice. Sadly, that is not the case and we often go through new, life-changing experiences — like college — with little help or guidance. Luckily, we do still have the opportunity to learn from those who have done it before and are willing to impart some gems of knowledge gained through experience. Since I could not share these tips with myself back when I was in college, I figured I’d do the next best thing: share them with The Frisky readers. Keep reading »

An Open Letter To The White Teachers Who Wore NYPD T-Shirts To School, Despite Being Told Not To

An Open Letter To The White Teachers Who Wore NYPD T-Shirts To School, Despite Being Told Not To

Dear PS 220 White Teachers Who Wore NYPD T-Shirts To School,

It must have seemed like a fantastic idea when, despite warnings from from the United Federation of Teachers, you all donned NYPD shirts and crowded in front of a camera for a smirking group portrait. Through this lens, which is conspicuously White, those matching gray shirts might either be a tone-deaf display of team spirit, or a more troubling reification of how you regard your relationship to the minority student body. Whatever the intention, you have managed to introduce the armed and socially embroiled segment of the judicial system into the classroom in the most polarizing way. Keep reading »

12 Reasons Black Women Are Not More Privileged Than Black Men

12 Reasons Black Women Are Not More Privileged Than Black Men
Facts About Racism
18 Things White People Should Know/Do Before Discussing Racism
Some things white folks should know before discussing racism, mmkay? Read More »

A seemingly impervious narrative dominates today’s social discourse in the Black community where Black men are painted as more vulnerable victims than their female counterparts. This far-reaching myth typically arises along with discussions about gender inequality or sexism where claims are made that Black women face less hardship than their male counterparts, or even — as stated in Diana Ozemebhoya Eromosele’s latest essay on The Root titled “Michael Brown’s Death Reopened My Eyes to My Privileges as a Black Woman” — are the recipients of privilege not bestowed to Black men. Keep reading »

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