When you grow up in a relatively small town in suburban New Jersey, being the only person of color in your class, you’d understand why I had no idea that other members of my race consider me “light-skinned.” Where I grew up, there was no such thing. You were either black, white, Spanish or Indian. No one paid much attention to the shade of your skin or where your blackness/whiteness originated –at least not in my circle. You only cared about what you saw. Sure, some racism and stereotyping existed, but there was no in-depth analysis or scrutiny about the shade of your skin.
In some ways that method was great. It erased the turmoil experienced by many other African-Americans and allowed everyone to just be accepted for who they were. On the other hand, my peers and I were ill-prepared for the real world. We grew up a bunch of colorblind individuals who believed in treating everyone equally regardless of historical implications and racial indifferences. We were ignorant. Keep reading »
It’s your six-month anniversary and you’re convinced that you couldn’t have found a better guy. He has great morals, knows how to talk about his feelings and showers you with gifts regularly. To celebrate your anniversary, you hold each other close while watching “The Vow” and follow it up with a romantic dinner at your favorite Italian bistro. He surprises you with a horse and carriage ride through the park. You feel like you’re walking on air. And then he whispers, those three words into your ear.
“I love you.”
Everything is perfect … except that you don’t love him back. Keep reading »
After what seems like a petty argument, your S.O. blurts out, “Sometimes I swear there’s something wrong with you.” While this kind of statement is likely to piss anyone off, he might be on to something. Your interesting habits may seem like harmless personality quirks to you, but in actuality you just may be suffering from a disorder you didn’t even know you had.
According to the National Institute of Mental Illness, tens of millions of people suffer from some sort of mental disorder and only one quarter of them receive treatment. It turns out there’s a name for your nervous nail biting habit and your obsession with eating only organic. Finding out you’re suffering from an unknown disorder may explain a lot about your behavioral patterns … and give you some insight into why you can’t seem to make your relationships work. Click through to find out about some little known disorders that may be screwing with your love life.