Rachel White

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Love & Sex

Recently, a friend sent me a link to a YouTube video called “Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?” I rolled my eyes. I hate that question. It’s heteronormative and sexist, and yet, I clicked anyway.

The video has more than 5 million views. In it, women on a college-campus all say, “Yes! Of… READ MORE »


Entertainment

In honor of New Year, New You month at The Frisky, I’ve taken an in-depth look at one of the biggest teen movie cliches: the “makeover scene” (second only to the “prom scene”). You’ve seen it a thousand times — the heroine descends a staircase in slow-motion and we cut to the montage of her… READ MORE »


galleries

When we think of people who hire sex workers, we probably conjure up the image of a shadow-y dudes, all back-alley-creepy-like. But what about the women that pay for it? It’s rare, but it happens. From “sex tourists” in the Caribbean to the ladies who hire strippers, more women are paying for sex than ever before. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I think I had a g-spot orgasm. Maybe. I’m not really sure. Even as I thought I might be having one, I questioned its existence.

Somewhere along the way I got the message that this was how I should be getting off. Whether it was part of the idea that penetration is the… READ MORE »


health

Mary and I were sitting on her couch, laughing. “But wait, no seriously, is pooping a  feminist issue? Why aren’t we talking about this?” I asked.

It was funny, if only because there was some truth in the (often female) phenomenon of “holding it in.” There’s this prevalent idea that girls don’t poop. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Belinda’s OkCupid account opens with this message: “If you are looking for casual sex, please move on … If you are looking for formal sex, please move on as well. Actually, if you’re looking for sex in general, I’ll probably disappoint you.”

If you are acquainted with the orientation known as asexuality, Belinda’s… READ MORE »


Highlights

When I was a kid, I thought “sex” was two people peeing on each other. Like, I imagined you got in a bed naked and cuddled  for so long that inevitably you would have to pee. But instead of getting up to pee, you just “let go” and peed together, in the bed. This romantic… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and… READ MORE »


Highlights

When I was fresh out of college, I worked at an egg donation agency, which paired egg “donors” with potential parents willing to shell out a lot of money for the possibility of having children. At parties, when I was asked what I did for a living, it was inevitable that a group of girls… READ MORE »


Style

Why is it so freaking hard to go without makeup? What exactly am I afraid will happen if I don’t smear on some foundation and douse my lashes in mascara before going to a bar—or even, geesh, before getting coffee in the morning? You’d think I’d be over this by now. I’m a 24-year-old woman… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I never went out specifically looking for bisexual boyfriends. But most of the guys I ended up dating just happened to be bisexual. Almost everyone has a type—the bad boy, the lumberjack, the math nerd. For me, I have always liked bi guys.

Maybe it’s because I grew up in the ‘90s, a… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Recently, while sitting in the kitchen as a friend helped me dye my hair, the topic turned to death. We had both experienced close friends dying in our early twenties, and we were discussing how we dealt with it. I sat facing away from her, as she checked the foils on my hair. “I just… READ MORE »