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8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Rachel Rabbit WhiteMay 9, 2012 //

Gray-Sexual

What does it mean to be "gray-sexual?" Read More »

On Slutshaming

It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »

Anal Sex Fears

These are things that really keep us from having butt sex. Read More »

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds good, right?

But simply labeling yourself “sex-positive” doesn’t necessarily mean you are. After hanging around the sex blogosphere for the last couple of years, I’ve been schooled in the way I think about sex. After the jump, some things to keep in mind if you want to be truly positive you’re sex positive. Keep reading »

7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

Rachel Rabbit WhiteMarch 16, 2012 //

50 Shades Of Grey

This erotica book is sweeping the nation. Read More »

Peeing Or Squirting?

7 ways to know if you're a female ejaculator. Read More »

Masturbation Myths

Stupid misconceptions men have about the way women masturbate. Read More »

Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

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Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be hot. Why not give those fantasies a whirl in the bedroom?

Being a vanilla girl who is curious about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) can be intimidating. You’re probably conjuring images of dog collars, dungeons and leather-clad man who calls himself Master DragonBallz. Fret not, there are ways for a normal gal to try this stuff out with her partner in the comfort of her own bedroom. No dungeon necessary. Click through for some tips on how to dip a perfectly manicured toe into the dark waters of BDSM. And remember, you can use your safe word at anytime during this slideshow.

Ask A Sex Surrogate: 6 Tips For Dealing With Premature Ejaculation

Rachel Rabbit WhiteMarch 5, 2012 //

Frisky Sex!

All of The Frisky's too-hot-to-handle sex posts in one place. Get it, girl! Read More »

Blue Balls

Here's what you need to know about blue balls, ladies. Read More »

Freaky Fleshlights

These fleshlights freak us out. 9 Photos »

I recently spoke with Jen, a sex surrogate. For those of you asking: “Wait. A whaaat?” allow me to explain. A sex surrogate is sort of like a sex worker, but one that works with a licensed therapist to help men struggling with sexual issues. Jen has worked with world renowned, Oprah-approved sex therapists as a surrogate. While she doesn’t have actual sexual intercourse with her clients, Jen’s sessions typically include touch, which means, yes, she handles lots of penises. The most common problem amongst the men Jen works with is premature ejaculation. If you are playing the field (or even if you’re off the market), statistically, it’s highly likely that you will encounter a premature ejaculator. I know I have, and it was awkward at best. In the hopes that you’ll be prepared if it happens to you, I asked Jen for some advice about how to handle a premature situation. After the jump, helpful tips from a professional. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Dating Younger Guys

Rachel Rabbit WhiteMarch 2, 2012 //

Guys To Date

Here are 18 guys you should give a shot in 2012. Read More »

Older Men, Younger Women

Do all older men want a much young girlfriend? Read More »

Cougars Rule

One man on why cougars are better than silver foxes. Read More »

His name was Patrick, but everyone referred to him as “the 17-year-old.” That was how his number was saved in my phone. I met the 17-year-old while visiting my 17-year-old cousin in the burbs. I was 22. The cousin brought me to a high school party. Patrick was in the corner, tall and spidery with olive skin.

After a few shared cigarettes, I found myself making out with him on the hood of my car, our bodies causing the metal to cave where we lay.

“Leave the suburbs and come live in the city,” I said, the moon looming above us. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Husband And I Chose Our Own Last Name

Rachel Rabbit WhiteFebruary 23, 2012 //

My Open Marriage

How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »

What's In A Name?

Why there's no way in hell Andrea Grimes will change her name. Read More »

Why I Got Married Young

To me, 24 seemed like the perfect age. Read More »

Each year on the first day of school, there were kids who came back as entirely new people. They’d correct the teacher during role call.

“Erin?” the teacher would ask, scanning the room.

“I’m Nikki now,” Erin would say, presumptively going by her middle name.

One girl changed her name so many times that by sixth grade, the only thing left to alter was the pronunciation of her name.

“I’m not Tabitha anymore, I am Tab-eye-tha now.”

There was something admirable about how brave these kids were to just proclaim themselves someone new. I didn’t think I would have the courage to do that. Like most kids, I didn’t love my name but I didn’t loathe it either. I just brooded about how unfair it was to have no control over it. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Why Am I Scared Of Men?

Rachel Rabbit WhiteJanuary 27, 2012 //

Find A Therapist

Seven tips for finding the right therapist. Read More »

Dentist Pick Up Lines

10 things my dentist said that might have been pick up lines. Read More »

Sexist Beliefs

Sexist beliefs are passed down more from mothers than fathers, study finds. Read More »

After hours in front of my laptop, my back is usually gnarled into a “C” shape. I’ve learned to remedy the Ladyblogging Hunchback with some yoga. But this afternoon, when I checked the schedule and read the instructor’s name, Matthew, I started making excuses not to go. I don’t know Matthew, but I might have felt differently if his name were Melissa or Miranda. It isn’t just about my fear of a dude adjusting my warrior pose, it’s a pattern. I have always been like this — with male dentists, doctors, therapists, even Santa Claus. Why am I scared of men? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Truth About Being Friends With Men

Rachel Rabbit WhiteJanuary 16, 2012 //

The Friend Zone

A guy's view on being in the friend zone. Read More »

Friendship Turned Love

One writer talks about how she fell in love with her best friend. Read More »

Can Men Be Alone?

Are men worse at being single? Discuss! Read More »

Recently, a friend sent me a link to a YouTube video called “Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?” I rolled my eyes. I hate that question. It’s heteronormative and sexist, and yet, I clicked anyway.

The video has more than 5 million views. In it, women on a college-campus all say, “Yes! Of course men and women can be friends.” But the college-aged men aren’t sure. They report always wanting “something more.” The women also admit that many of their male friends have crushes on them. Watching, I squirmed in my seat. The video hints at some unnamed truth in the male/female friendship dynamic: the male friend who is in love with you, who you kind of lead on but who you do love, in some way. I understand this phenomenon all too well. Keep reading »

10 Teen Movie Makeovers And What We Learned From Them

Rachel Rabbit WhiteJanuary 5, 2012 //

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New Year, New You

Everything you need to kick 2012 off right. Read More »

Celeb Hair Makeovers

The best and worst celeb hair makeovers of 2011. 18 Photos »

In honor of New Year, New You month at The Frisky, I’ve taken an in-depth look at one of the biggest teen movie cliches: the “makeover scene” (second only to the “prom scene”). You’ve seen it a thousand times — the heroine descends a staircase in slow-motion and we cut to the montage of her metamorphosis from nerd to culturally-sanctioned hottie. It’s no new invention. The makeover goes as far back as Cinderella. The message is that in order to be liked, girls must be conventionally pretty (and not look poor) to land the prince. And while there’s plenty to tease apart there culturally, it’s hard not to love a good geek to chic makeover montage, especially the rebellious or ill-advised. Click through for some teen movie makeovers that made lasting impressions on our collective girl unconscious.

A Brief History Of LadyJanes (Women Who Pay For Sex)

Rachel Rabbit WhiteDecember 22, 2011 //

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Proud Male Prostitutes

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When we think of people who hire sex workers, we probably conjure up the image of a shadow-y dudes, all back-alley-creepy-like. But what about the women that pay for it? It’s rare, but it happens. From “sex tourists” in the Caribbean to the ladies who hire strippers, more women are paying for sex than ever before. Click through for some examples of LadyJohns, or LadyJanes, as I prefer to call them.

Girl Talk: I Think I Had A G-Spot Orgasm

Rachel Rabbit WhiteDecember 19, 2011 //

Failure To Squirt

Should you feel bad if you can't squirt? Read More »

Orgasm Secrets

5 things we didn't know about our orgasms. 6 Photos »

Lesbian Vs. Straight Sex

Lesbian sex changed the writer's definition of "straight sex." Read More »

I think I had a g-spot orgasm. Maybe. I’m not really sure. Even as I thought I might be having one, I questioned its existence.

Somewhere along the way I got the message that this was how I should be getting off. Whether it was part of the idea that penetration is the ultimate sex act or a side effect of sex positive feminism or one of Cosmo’s unrealistic sex tips — the notion that my body should be achieving g-spot orgasm on the regular was embedded in my brain. Keep reading »