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True Story: I Attended A Luxury BDSM Weekend

Queue my domme spirit quest.

Rachel White / August 4, 2015

What If It Hadn’t Been “Fifty Shades of Grey” But One Of These Erotic Novels Instead?

My mom never read erotica (that I know of) when I was growing up, but on a recent trip home I spotted a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey in the back seat of her car.

“Mom, I can’t believe you’re reading that!” I screamed.

“I just read it for the…

Rachel White / October 25, 2012

7 Lady Killers Who Will Scare The Crap Out Of You

No need for horror stories this Halloween when there are lady killers who will sufficiently scare the crap out of you. Reading about female killers is a guilty pleasure of mine, especially when the Halloween season rolls around. Why am I so attracted to the idea of a lady killer? Are murderers feminist icons? OMG,…

Rachel White / October 15, 2012

Girl Talk: Going To A Nude Beach Made Me Feel A Little Better About Life

I am not a beach person. The way seagulls swoop over your head like rats with wings terrifies me. I hate that feeling of sand caked in every crevice.

But when my friend Thomas invited my husband and I to a nude federal beach in New Jersey, rumored to be filled with spectacularly…

Rachel White / October 8, 2012

12 Famous Women Who’ve Used Their Sexuality (To Get Ahead)

The combination of tits and drive can, apparently, cause the internet to crash. In the past six months I’ve watched as publications and writers I admire scrutinize Lana Del Rey for representing a “passive femininity,” gawk at young writer Marie Calloway for sleeping with older, more established male writers and shake their heads at Rihanna…

Rachel White / June 29, 2012

The 10 Best Pieces Of “Pink Journalism” I’ve Read This Year

When the ASME (American Society of Magazine Editors) awards for magazine journalism were listed online, the blogopshere took a quick whiff and reported back with the precise recipe for becoming award-winning journalist: Oh, testosterone. No women were nominated in profiles, features, reporting, essays or columns– the most prestigious categories.

What this sparked wa…

Rachel White / June 18, 2012

8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sound…

Rachel White / May 9, 2012

7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be…

Rachel White / March 16, 2012

Ask A Sex Surrogate: 6 Tips For Dealing With Premature Ejaculation

I recently spoke with Jen, a sex surrogate. For those of you asking: “Wait. A whaaat?” allow me to explain. A sex surrogate is sort of like a sex worker, but one that works with a licensed therapist to help men struggling with sexual issues. Jen has worked with world renowned, Oprah-approved sex therapists a…

Rachel White / March 5, 2012

Girl Talk: On Dating Younger Guys

His name was Patrick, but everyone referred to him as “the 17-year-old.” That was how his number was saved in my phone. I met the 17-year-old while visiting my 17-year-old cousin in the burbs. I was 22. The cousin brought me to a high school party. Patrick was in the corner, tall and spidery with…

Rachel White / March 2, 2012

Girl Talk: My Husband And I Chose Our Own Last Name

Each year on the first day of school, there were kids who came back as entirely new people. They’d correct the teacher during role call. 

“Erin?” the teacher would ask, scanning the room. 

“I’m Nikki now,” Erin would say, presumptively going by her middle name. 

One girl changed her…

Rachel White / February 23, 2012

Girl Talk: Why Am I Scared Of Men?

After hours in front of my laptop, my back is usually gnarled into a “C” shape. I’ve learned to remedy the Ladyblogging Hunchback with some yoga. But this afternoon, when I checked the schedule and read the instructor’s name, Matthew, I started making excuses not to go. I don’t know Matthew, but I might have…

Rachel White / January 27, 2012

Girl Talk: The Truth About Being Friends With Men

Recently, a friend sent me a link to a YouTube video called “Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?” I rolled my eyes. I hate that question. It’s heteronormative and sexist, and yet, I clicked anyway.

The video has more than 5 million views. In it, women on a college-campus all say, “Yes! Of…

Rachel White / January 16, 2012

10 Teen Movie Makeovers And What We Learned From Them

In honor of New Year, New You month at The Frisky, I’ve taken an in-depth look at one of the biggest teen movie cliches: the “makeover scene” (second only to the “prom scene”). You’ve seen it a thousand times — the heroine descends a staircase in slow-motion and we cut to the montage of her…

Rachel White / January 5, 2012

A Brief History Of LadyJanes (Women Who Pay For Sex)

When we think of people who hire sex workers, we probably conjure up the image of a shadow-y dudes, all back-alley-creepy-like. But what about the women that pay for it? It’s rare, but it happens. From “sex tourists” in the Caribbean to the ladies who hire strippers, more women are paying for sex than ever before.

Rachel White / December 22, 2011

Girl Talk: I Think I Had A G-Spot Orgasm

I think I had a g-spot orgasm. Maybe. I’m not really sure. Even as I thought I might be having one, I questioned its existence.

Somewhere along the way I got the message that this was how I should be getting off. Whether it was part of the idea that penetration is the…

Rachel White / December 19, 2011

Girl Talk: Pooping Is A Feminist Issue

Mary and I were sitting on her couch, laughing. “But wait, no seriously, is pooping a  feminist issue? Why aren’t we talking about this?” I asked.

It was funny, if only because there was some truth in the (often female) phenomenon of “holding it in.” There’s this prevalent idea that girls don’t poop.

Rachel White / December 7, 2011

What It Means To Be “Gray-Sexual”

Belinda’s OkCupid account opens with this message: “If you are looking for casual sex, please move on … If you are looking for formal sex, please move on as well. Actually, if you’re looking for sex in general, I’ll probably disappoint you.”

If you are acquainted with the orientation known as asexuality, Belinda’…

Rachel White / November 22, 2011

Girl Talk: How Lesbian Sex Changed My Definition Of Straight Sex

When I was a kid, I thought “sex” was two people peeing on each other. Like, I imagined you got in a bed naked and cuddled  for so long that inevitably you would have to pee. But instead of getting up to pee, you just “let go” and peed together, in the bed. This romantic…

Rachel White / November 14, 2011

Girl Talk: In Praise Of Monogamy

Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and…

Rachel White / November 2, 2011

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