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What If It Hadn’t Been “Fifty Shades of Grey” But One Of These Erotic Novels Instead?

My mom never read erotica (that I know of) when I was growing up, but on a recent trip home I spotted a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey in the back seat of her car.

“Mom, I can’t believe you’re reading that!” I screamed.

“I just read it for the sex,” she said, matter-of-factly.

Twilight fanfiction/S&M erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey has struck a nerve not just with my mom but, with millions of woman around the world. The Fifty Shades phenomena has led to endless articles about women’s sex lives and how men should buy things that go thwack in sex shops. Apparently even Oprah likes to read the series in the bathtub? (I don’t need to know.) Keep reading »

7 Lady Killers Who Will Scare The Crap Out Of You

No need for horror stories this Halloween when there are lady killers who will sufficiently scare the crap out of you. Reading about female killers is a guilty pleasure of mine, especially when the Halloween season rolls around. Why am I so attracted to the idea of a lady killer? Are murderers feminist icons? OMG, no. But in pop culture we are met with the constant image of women as victims. There are so many crime shows featuring far too many high heels in pools of blood.

The reality is that women largely, are not the ones who kill and those who do, usually do so out of self-defense. The stats say that one in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime and according to the U.S. Department of Justice, more than half of women in jail were abused by a spouse prior to conviction. Watching those high-gloss, TV depictions of women getting abused and killed doesn’t feel like its helping anything — even if it comes closer to mirroring reality than “Snapped.”

For your Halloween reading pleasure, I’ve put together the frighteningly true tales of the female killers who fascinate me the most.

Witches
Here are some things you might not have known about witches. Read More »
Halloween!
Everything you need for a spooktastic Halloween. Read More »

Girl Talk: Going To A Nude Beach Made Me Feel A Little Better About Life

Reasons To Be Naked
You should be naked more often. Read More »
Free Mood Boosters
Free ways to improve your mental health. Read More »
First Time Nude
The first time this writer posed nude. Read More »

I am not a beach person. The way seagulls swoop over your head like rats with wings terrifies me. I hate that feeling of sand caked in every crevice.

But when my friend Thomas invited my husband and I to a nude federal beach in New Jersey, rumored to be filled with spectacularly hung men and tanned, pierced women, I decided it was something worth trying.

“I think we should go,” I told my husband.

He shrugged.

Maybe it was because I needed a change. Spring had been of those staying-in-bed-smoking-cigarettes instead of going out seasons. I found myself fighting a constant drowsiness and listening to Jewel. Some days it took an effort to look both ways before crossing the street. Keep reading »

12 Famous Women Who’ve Used Their Sexuality (To Get Ahead)

The combination of tits and drive can, apparently, cause the internet to crash. In the past six months I’ve watched as publications and writers I admire scrutinize Lana Del Rey for representing a “passive femininity,” gawk at young writer Marie Calloway for sleeping with older, more established male writers and shake their heads at Rihanna for not giving a f**k anymore and Instagramming intimate moments from her party-fueled lifestyle. What is more controversial than a woman using her sexuality in order to get ahead? I guess, not apologizing for it.

The main reason for feminist criticism in these cases is that the image of sexuality projected by these women doesn’t look “transgressive” — it looks too much like the role assigned by mainstream, for the benefit of the male gaze. These images read socially as “hot,” seemingly heterosexual and femme.  I mean, I love it when women rock the boat with their sexual expression. I enjoy the “man repeller” fashion trend, I like seeing stars like Amy Poehler not in suggestive poses on the pages of magazines, I like the ugly-funny sex in “Girls.” But I also think there should be room for more. Why can’t a fantasy-driven  femme, submissive, seemingly heterosexual display of female sexuality be a genuine one? Why can’t the image of a self-destructive Lana Del Rey in heart-shaped sunglasses be one of her own creation?

With those questions in mind, click through for a celebration of famous women who are using their sexuality and not apologizing for it.

Pink Pieces
The 10 best pieces of pink journalism from 2012. Read More »

The 10 Best Pieces Of “Pink Journalism” I’ve Read This Year

Frisky Feminism!
Everything The Frisky has ever written about feminism! Read More »
Ladies To Read
If you haven't been following these ladies, you should be. Read More »

When the ASME (American Society of Magazine Editors) awards for magazine journalism were listed online, the blogopshere took a quick whiff and reported back with the precise recipe for becoming award-winning journalist: Oh, testosterone. No women were nominated in profiles, features, reporting, essays or columns– the most prestigious categories.

What this sparked was a discussion about the gender byline gap and how the award-winning magazines like The New Yorker and Harpers don’t publish as many stories by women because they don’t pitch them. People pointed out that often, women stick to the “pink ghetto” of women’s magazines (and websites) and write about “pink” topics that are, apparently, undeserving of acclaim.

I am here to reclaim the term, “pink journalism.” I happen to love stories about women, relationships, sexuality, lifestyle, reproductive health, personal essays — all of which are considered “pink”and, I think, wildly important. That said, after the jump are some of the best “pink” pieces I’ve read recently, with comments from some of my favorite ‘”pink” writers. This is in no way a complete list, just a few favorites. And feel free to add your recommendations in the commets.   Keep reading »

8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Gray-Sexual
What does it mean to be "gray-sexual?" Read More »
On Slutshaming
It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »
Anal Sex Fears
These are things that really keep us from having butt sex. Read More »

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds good, right?

But simply labeling yourself “sex-positive” doesn’t necessarily mean you are. After hanging around the sex blogosphere for the last couple of years, I’ve been schooled in the way I think about sex. After the jump, some things to keep in mind if you want to be truly positive you’re sex positive. Keep reading »

7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

50 Shades Of Grey
This erotica book is sweeping the nation. Read More »
Peeing Or Squirting?
7 ways to know if you're a female ejaculator. Read More »
Masturbation Myths
Stupid misconceptions men have about the way women masturbate. Read More »

Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be hot. Why not give those fantasies a whirl in the bedroom?

Being a vanilla girl who is curious about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) can be intimidating. You’re probably conjuring images of dog collars, dungeons and leather-clad man who calls himself Master DragonBallz. Fret not, there are ways for a normal gal to try this stuff out with her partner in the comfort of her own bedroom. No dungeon necessary. Click through for some tips on how to dip a perfectly manicured toe into the dark waters of BDSM. And remember, you can use your safe word at anytime during this slideshow.

Ask A Sex Surrogate: 6 Tips For Dealing With Premature Ejaculation

Frisky Sex!
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All of The Frisky's too-hot-to-handle sex posts in one place. Get it, girl! Read More »
Blue Balls
Here's what you need to know about blue balls, ladies. Read More »

I recently spoke with Jen, a sex surrogate. For those of you asking: “Wait. A whaaat?” allow me to explain. A sex surrogate is sort of like a sex worker, but one that works with a licensed therapist to help men struggling with sexual issues. Jen has worked with world renowned, Oprah-approved sex therapists as a surrogate. While she doesn’t have actual sexual intercourse with her clients, Jen’s sessions typically include touch, which means, yes, she handles lots of penises. The most common problem amongst the men Jen works with is premature ejaculation. If you are playing the field (or even if you’re off the market), statistically, it’s highly likely that you will encounter a premature ejaculator. I know I have, and it was awkward at best.  In the hopes that you’ll be prepared if it happens to you, I asked Jen for some advice about how to handle a premature situation. After the jump, helpful tips from a professional. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Dating Younger Guys

Guys To Date
Here are 18 guys you should give a shot in 2012. Read More »
Older Men, Younger Women
Do all older men want a much young girlfriend? Read More »
Cougars Rule
One man on why cougars are better than silver foxes. Read More »

His name was Patrick, but everyone referred to him as “the 17-year-old.” That was how his number was saved in my phone. I met the 17-year-old while visiting my 17-year-old cousin in the burbs. I was 22. The cousin brought me to a high school party. Patrick was in the corner, tall and spidery with olive skin.

After a few shared cigarettes, I found myself making out with him on the hood of my car, our bodies causing the metal to cave where we lay.

“Leave the suburbs and come live in the city,” I said, the moon looming above us. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Husband And I Chose Our Own Last Name

My Open Marriage
How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »
What's In A Name?
hitched photo
Why there's no way in hell Andrea Grimes will change her name. Read More »
Why I Got Married Young
To me, 24 seemed like the perfect age. Read More »

Each year on the first day of school, there were kids who came back as entirely new people. They’d correct the teacher during role call. 

“Erin?” the teacher would ask, scanning the room. 

“I’m Nikki now,” Erin would say, presumptively going by her middle name. 

One girl changed her name so many times that by sixth grade, the only thing left to alter was the pronunciation of her name. 

“I’m not Tabitha anymore, I am Tab-eye-tha now.” 

There was something admirable about how brave these kids were to just proclaim themselves someone new. I didn’t think I would have the courage to do that. Like most kids, I didn’t love my name but I didn’t loathe it either. I just brooded about how unfair it was to have no control over it. Keep reading »

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