Rachel Kramer Bussel

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Girl Talk: Let’s Talk About Negging

I was at the bar at the Mandarin Oriental in Las Vegas enjoying a glass of champagne and having an intense one-in-the-morning chat with a new friend about raising kids…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 22, 2011 - 12:00 pm

Girl Talk: I’ve Got “Recovery Envy”

I’m not an addict, and I’m not an alcoholic. But as offensive as this may sound, I sometimes I wish I were, if only so I could have a language…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | November 18, 2011 - 1:00 pm

The Bold Single Bride Who Married Herself

What would you do if you wound up single on what was to be one of the most special days of your life—your wedding day? My friend Desiree did something…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | September 29, 2011 - 12:00 pm

Girl Talk: I Want My Boyfriend To Fantasize About Other Women

I read Eliza Jules’ essay “I Obsessively Monitor My Husband’s Lube Bottle” over at xoJane and was left with this question: Is a partner’s masturbation something we should worry about?

Rachel Kramer Bussel | June 30, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Girl Talk: Sex With A “Top Chef”

At the end of last year, I was in Los Angeles for a TV appearance that required me to be dressed up and in full makeup. That ended in the…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 24, 2011 - 3:00 pm

Girl Talk: My Love/Hate Relationship With Thinspiration Blogs

The other night, I was wading through all the junk scattered around my apartment, starting to panic because I couldn’t find a book I needed to review. I threw out…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 23, 2010 - 3:00 pm

Girl Talk: Should I Be Jealous Of His Female Friends?

The other night, after having sex with the new guy I’m seeing, he said casually, “I’m going out for a drink with my friend. I’ll be back in half an…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | March 18, 2010 - 2:00 pm

Frisky Q&A: Erica Kennedy, Author Of “Bitch Lit” Novel “Feminista”

Erica Kennedy is known to many readers for her hip-hop novel Bling, but her latest novel, Feminista, has been making waves for its so-called entry into the “bitch lit” genre…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 3, 2009 - 1:00 pm

First Time For Everything: Rough Sex

I thought I’d had “rough sex” before; I’d been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | August 17, 2009 - 2:30 pm

Dealbreaker: The Sexless Guy

I’ve already told you why guys who don’t want head are a dealbreaker for me, but what about guys who just aren’t into sex? Yes, they exist. Anyone who tells…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | March 16, 2009 - 1:00 pm

Dating Drama: The Ex-Boyfriend Blues

Since my breakup, I’ve not only been navigating single life, but I’ve been trying to figure out what kind of relationship to have with my ex. Are we friends? Acquaintances?

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 27, 2009 - 1:00 pm

Dating Drama: What’s The Best Time For Sexytime?

Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you — and not in a dominatrix type of way.

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 20, 2009 - 4:30 pm

Dating Drama: To Movie Date Or Not To Movie Date?

“Dinner and a movie” may sound like the most boring, clichéd date ever, but I think movie dates are hot. When you go to the movies with someone, you learn…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 12, 2009 - 3:30 pm

Dealbreaker: Mr. Too Big

Recently, I described a mutual friend to my friend T. as “the guy with the big c**k.” Then I felt a little guilty, like I was giving away a huge…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 5, 2009 - 3:30 pm

Dating Drama: My New Year’s Sex And Dating Resolutions

Generally, I don’t like making New Year’s resolutions. All too often, I feel like I’m jinxing myself. The minute I say I want X, I find myself doing Y. At…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | January 5, 2009 - 3:00 pm

Dating Drama: The Sluttiest Girl In The Room

Sometimes I wish I was a virgin. OK, maybe that’s going too far, but lately I’ve been feeling like the sluttiest girl in New York, or at least whatever room…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 30, 2008 - 3:00 pm

What My Ex Taught Me About Relationships

I’m still adjusting to single life since my breakup, but I’m making a lot of progress, and it’s gotten me thinking about what kind of person I want to be…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 22, 2008 - 3:00 pm

Dating Drama: Why I’m Happy To Be Single (For Now)

Not long ago, I had a boyfriend. Now, I’m single. Again. I’d been feeling like my relationship wasn’t working for a while, but that hasn’t made the breakup any easier.

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 15, 2008 - 3:00 pm

Dating Drama: Breakup Sex

I flew out to San Francisco for 34 hours this past weekend. The trip was meant to be a day longer, but I had to fly home for a friend’s…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 8, 2008 - 4:00 pm

Dating Drama: For Some, Flirting Is A Sport

My friend Gloria flirts with everyone — even her cat. Seriously. Almost every time I see her she’s cozying up to someone new, even though she isn’t a perpetual dater…

Rachel Kramer Bussel | December 1, 2008 - 4:00 pm