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“What is the technical definition of a sex addict?” — Potential Nympho, via email

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Translated, that means that a sex addict is… READ MORE »


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“I hate giving blow jobs, but my boyfriend loves them. How can we compromise?” — Not Into Head, via email

Sssssshhh!!! Are there any boys around you right now?? Did anybody hear you?? I hope for your sake there aren’t, because if that sentiment got around, you might as well have a scarlet letter… READ MORE »


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“I have seriously huge labia and I am way concerned that guys will think my vagina is ugly. Am I being ridiculous?” — Labia Majorly Majora, San Francisco, CA

Yes you are!

Labia majora (the technical name) vary greatly from woman to woman. No two vaginas are alike…which means there are tons… READ MORE »


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“What percentage of women have an orgasm during intercourse? The stats I’ve read really seem to vary, with some studies making it seem kind of rare. Is that true?” – Curious About Climaxes, Cleveland, OH

General statistics (which vary as much as your orgasms do) show a whopping 75% of women failing to reach… READ MORE »


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“Do any guys NOT enjoy oral sex? Do they enjoy it more than actual sex? — Seeking Sucking Stats, Duck, NC

A guy that doesn’t like oral sex is like a monkey not liking bananas. If they ever found one, they’d put it in a museum instead of a zoo. Very few people (girls… READ MORE »


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“What are some hot spots on guys’ bodies?” — Hand Me A Map, Athens, GA

I don’t know if you know this, but an area called “the penis” is a definite hot spot on a guy. Usually licking, stroking, or inserting this area makes the guy go CRAZY.
Aside from that, there are a… READ MORE »


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“If I masturbate too much will I be unable to get off when a guy goes down on me?” — Solo Satisfier, Baltimore, MD

Unlike guys, the more a girl masturbates the more likely she is to have an orgasm during sex (intercourse or oral). Masturbating might actually help you achieve an orgasm FASTER. READ MORE »


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I’ve been dating a guy for about a month and a half. Every thing is great — similar outlooks on life, we share a lot of opinions on things etcetera — except for one thing. In that time period, during our above average sex life, I’ve climaxed once. ONCE. His technique is just fine, butREAD MORE »


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Uh, I think I might be pregnant. What are the earliest signs of pregnancy? How soon after conception will a home pregnancy test work? — Bun In The Oven?, Burlington, VT

The # 1 sign of pregnancy is a missed period. It might sound super obvious, but unless women are on the pill they… READ MORE »


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If you’re going to have sex in a public restroom, is it better to use the women’s or the men’s? — Lovin’ In The Loo, San Jose, CA

If you’re at a Minneapolis airport and happen to be a Senator, I highly recommend using neither. But if you aren’t, I think you should ask… READ MORE »


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Whenever I sleep over at a new guy’s place, I am never sure what to do/how to act in the morning. Am I supposed to leave? Am I supposed to stay and pretend to be sleeping? Also, how do I hint to a guy who has slept over that it’s time for him to leave?READ MORE »


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I’m having a problem with hickeys, and I was wondering if you could tell me how to get rid of them—fast. — Bruisey, Providence, RI

Are you dating a 12-year-old? Do people STILL give hickeys? I’ll stop sounding like a grandma…but one more thing: If you want to get rid of them so fast,… READ MORE »


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My husband came into the relationship with some fun sex toys, but after awhile, I decided it was a little weird to play with toys someone else had used. Any advice on how to build a sex toy starter kit I can call my own? — Using Used Goods, Los Angeles, CA

After awhile??? READ MORE »


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My boyfriend and I have decided to try anal, but I’ve heard it’s good to sort of ‘warm up’ first. Are there tricks to getting myself relaxed enough? I’ve heard porn stars have enemas or stop eating a day before. Do I have to go to all that trouble? What if it comes up moreREAD MORE »


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“Is there a secret to being awesome at oral sex? I’m not sure if I’m doing it well, and I’m not about to discuss my technique with my friends.” — Needing Lessons, Santa Fe, NM

The real secret to oral sex that nobody ever talks about is that you have to be into it! READ MORE »


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“Lots of things about my relationship are great, but the sex is vanilla — my boyfriend is weirded out by my collection of sex toys, and isn’t willing to experiment. What should I do?” — In Need Of Spice, New Orleans, LA

I think this depends on what kind of toys you have. If… READ MORE »


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“I am dating a new guy and I want to have sex with him, but he’s extremely well endowed. If I start having regular sex with him will I stretch my vagina permanently?” — Dating Mr. Big

Unless his penis is the size of a 9 lb. baby, the answer is “no.” Vaginas have… READ MORE »


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“What’s the best way to exit an awkward morning-after?” — Pullin’ The Slip in Akron, OH

Planning a hit and run? The best way to get out of dodge is usually the most obvious. Tell your boy-toy you’ve got plans. If it’s a weekday, tell him you’ve got an early work meeting. If it’s… READ MORE »