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Girl On Girl: My Very Lesbian Wish List

I don’t hide the fact that the holidays are not my favorite time of year. Christmas does not make me think of tinsel-covered trees and red and green wrapping paper. It makes me think of crowded stores, overpriced gifts and too much family time. Plus, it falls right around the coldest and darkest days of…

Nikki Dowling / December 23, 2010

Girl On Girl: 8 Things I Miss About Being Straight

A few weeks ago, I wrote about all the things I love about loving women. A lot of commenters wrote that some of the things I listed can be found in straight relationships, too. This got me to thinking about what—if anything—I miss about being with dudes. Don’t get me wrong, it was a big…

Nikki Dowling / December 9, 2010

Girl On Girl: How To Avoid Difficult Topics At Thanksgiving And Stuff Your Face In Peace

I spend most of Thanksgiving milling around an overheated room holding a glass of wine and making conversation with aunts, great aunts, second cousins, third cousins, fourth cousins twice removed and the great uncle of the neighbor down the street. At this year’s turkey-chomping fiesta, only about one in 10 of the people in the…

Nikki Dowling / November 25, 2010

Girl On Girl: 8 Reasons I Love Being A Lesbian

I know that too often I write about homophobia, harassment and my own experiences with catcalling jerkfaces. But the truth is, I love being a lesbian and I wouldn’t change my sexuality for anything. If you don’t believe me—or even if you do—check out my list of reasons why being into chicks rocks.

Nikki Dowling / November 11, 2010

Girl On Girl: “Thintervention” Is Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

I don’t usually watch TV because I get less than 15 channels and half of them are in Spanish. But lately my girlfriend and I have been watching “Thintervention” on demand at her apartment. In case you don’t know, “Thintervention” is about a group of overweight people being whipped into shape by Jackie Warner, a…

Nikki Dowling / October 28, 2010

Girl On Girl: I Remembered That Some People Still Hate Us

This month, the world went crazy. I don’t know if you noticed it where you live, but in my corner of the world—New York City—gay bashing and hate crime violence seemed to skyrocket. A few weeks ago, I was working at my newspaper job in the Bronx when we got a call about a body…

Nikki Dowling / October 14, 2010

Girl On Girl: Is Being Out In The Workplace A Bad Idea?

Since I work out in a boxing gym and am one of the only girls there, I always try to keep my head down, work hard and not engage too much with the guys, some of whom have serious boundary problems. So, a few weeks ago, when one of the trainers said, “So, what’s your…

Nikki Dowling / September 30, 2010

Ryan Reynolds And Other Celebs Who’ve Been Buried Alive In Movies

There are good movies, there are bad movies, and then there are movies where people get buried alive. Actually, there are a lot more types of movies but, hey, it sort of has a ring to it, right? Anyway, Ryan Reynolds recently opened up about his extremely closed-in role in “Buried,” a flick about…

Nikki Dowling / September 25, 2010

Girl On Girl: Can Someone Tell GLAAD 50 Cent Isn’t Worth It?

Someone needs to tell the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) that 50 Cent isn’t worth the time it takes to call out his bigotry. And he certainly doesn’t deserve the effort required to launch a full-fledged campaign against him.

In case you don’t know what I’m talking about, 50 Cent took…

Nikki Dowling / September 16, 2010

Tips For Dealing With Your First Semester Of College

Going away to college is scary — don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. When I left my little, rural town in upstate New York and came to the big city for college at NYU, I was terrified. All of the sudden I had to live on my own with people I barely knew, cook for…

Nikki Dowling / September 10, 2010

The Craziest College Classes Ever

One of the best things about college — besides getting out of your parents’ house, eating Easy Mac at midnight and dorm parties — is the classes. Sure, classes are the reason you have to roll out of bed before noon after staying up half the night finishing an essay, but they can be fu…

Nikki Dowling / September 9, 2010

Girl On Girl: What I’ve Learned About Dating Women

My girlfriend and I recently celebrated our one-year anniversary by, well, not doing anything. We acknowledged that we’ve been together for a while, discussed our first date a bit and moved on. But just because we didn’t bust out chocolate mousse and champagne and light-scented candles doesn’t mean I haven’t been thinking a lot about…

Nikki Dowling / September 2, 2010

Girl On Girl: Lesbians, Stop With The Exclusivity Already!

I haven’t been out that long. And I haven’t been with, or even dated, that many women. These are facts I’m not ashamed to admit, and I don’t think they diminish the intensity of experiences and relationships I have had with women. Sure, it would be hard for me to do a long treatise o…

Nikki Dowling / August 19, 2010

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