Say you’re in a new relationship, and things are going well. There are dinners, there is coffee in bed when you want it, there is sparkling conversation and wit and banter, there are all-consuming exchanges of emotion that leave you revitalized and ready to seize the rest of your lives together. You’ve reached a state of happiness that leaves other relationships in the dark. Finally! A thing that works for me, the way I want it, the way I need it. What have I done to deserve this giant treasure from the universe?
Then, the change comes, like it does in all new relationships. Sun-soaked afternoons in bed are slowly replaced by tense mornings in which every conversation is a power struggle. What was once light and sunshine and butterfly kisses is now a relationship fraught with calculated moves to gain the upper hand. What happened here? How did something that seemed so easy become so complicated? Keep reading »
Here’s what’s easy:
Sitting in your apartment, doing things that you like to do, justifying this behavior by saying that because it is what you want to do, it is absolutely correct. Rejecting new experiences because they could fail, because you could embarrass yourself or fall on your face or loose a tooth or a shred of dignity. Staying in a rut because it’s comfortable, it feels right, and it’s easier than putting on that pair of pants or wearing those new shoes or doing anything other than the path you picked out for yourself as the only way for you.
Dating is not fun. It’s not easy. If someone came up to me and told me in earnest that scrolling thru the depths of OKCupid is a fulfilling and mentally engaging activity, I’d gather my things and back away slowly. It feels like work because it is work. Scrolling through matches taps into the muscle memory of the aimless looking for shoes on Zappos or searching your work email for that thing you got last week that you just can’t find. Scroll, scroll, scroll. Click? Scroll. Repeat ad nauseam until you find something that you think might work, with some jiggering, a little tailoring, a tiny nip and tuck. Add to your cart, finish your wine, close your laptop, go to sleep. Keep reading »
Have you ever wondered what Miss Piggy and Kermit’s sex life is like? Do you have a desire to have your childhood memories of “The Muppets” ruined forever? Then please, take a glance at Emilio Rangel’s series “La Puta di Babilonia (The Whore of Babylon),” which depicts what really happens between America’s favorite couple behind closed doors. If this picture of Miss Piggy riding a hydra in the likeness of Animal piques your interest, follow me after the jump to see a few of the more NSFW selections from this fantastic and brilliant series, then check out the full array over at Living Art Room.
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It is time to have a serious conversation about just how amazing Rebel Wilson really is. She has a law degree and an arts degree, proving that she’s one smart cookie. Most importantly, she has a refreshing lack of vanity in an industry where vanity is a pre-requisite. There are a lot of misleading and confusing messages about how to feel and how a woman should look, but Rebel Wilson is incredible for the fact that she just doesn’t care. She stresses that being healthy is key, but acknowledges implicitly that health is relative to the individual. As a woman who is neither fat nor thin, but somewhere in the nebulous realm between “plus” sized and average, Rebel’s attitude resonates. Check out a clip of her talking with “Extra” above.
I can’t remember the last time I thought about Snooki with anything but bemusement, but this insanely good clip of her tearin’ it up with a killer jazz routine on “Dancing With The Stars” changed my mind. Did you guys have any idea that Snooki had talents beyond dragging a stuffed alligator around Florence and binge-drinking? It’s a new age, y’all, and this is a new Snooki, one that’s moved past the pouf and on to things we can’t even imagine. Click and watch her bring it, hard, to the “DWTS” stage. [YouTube]
Eleanor Cattan became the youngest winner in the Man Booker Prize’s history at 28, winning over other literary hard-hitters like Jhumpa Lahiri and Colm Toibin. Her novel The Luminaries is a murder mystery set during the New Zealand gold rush, and has been praised for its mastery of storytelling and language, not to mention its great heft, weighing in at 848 pages. This is incontrovertible proof that 28 really is the year that changes everything. Check out this excerpt here and hustle to your nearest friendly bookseller, stat. [Reuters]