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Dating Don’ts: On Loving Someone With Mental Illness

Dating Don'ts: Friend's BF
Dating Don'ts: 6 Ways To Deal When You Hate Your Friend's Boyfriend
How to deal when you hate the person your friend is dating. Read More »
Dating Don'ts:Younger
Dating Don’ts: Why Dating Younger Is Not For Me
The case against dating younger. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Nice Guys
Dating Don'ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice
There is a difference between nice guys and guys who are nice. Read More »
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For the majority of my last relationship, my partner was in the throes of a slowly unwinding nervous breakdown. He moved to New York at the same time I did, and lived for a brief period in a state of almost too much togetherness, bound because we loved each other, but also because we didn’t know what else to do. There is a strange thing that happens when you first move to a new city. Stripped free of your usual comforts, you cling readily and fiercely to whatever is available. For us, it was one another, and that felt fine to me, but less so to him. With the stress of living in a new city and delving into a new relationship, his anxiety and depression blossomed beyond the average quarter-life crisis into something much more serious. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 6 Ways To Deal When You Hate Your Friend’s Boyfriend

Dating Don'ts:Younger Guys
Dating Don’ts: Why Dating Younger Is Not For Me
The case against dating younger. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Winter BF
Dating Don'ts: Consider The Winter Boyfriend
Have you considered taking a winter boyfriend? Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Island
Dating Dont's: Relationship Island
Why your single friends don't want to join you on Relationship Island... Read More »
Dating Don'ts: 6 Ways To Deal When You Hate Your Friend's Boyfriend

It happens to everyone, eventually. You’re out with your friend and her new man, sitting across the table from them like a little girl out to dinner with your parents. The guy she’s seeing is nice enough, always kind to your friend, and pleasant to you, but you can’t help but shake a feeling of deep-rooted dislike. Her new man is nice, he’s kind, he’s always polite, but you don’t find yourself clicking. No matter, you tell yourself. I’m not the one dating him, she is. Who says I have to like him?  Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Why Dating Younger Is Not For Me

Dating Don'ts: Winter BF
Dating Don'ts: Consider The Winter Boyfriend
Have you considered taking a winter boyfriend? Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Phases
The Breakup Phase You Never Saw Coming
The breakup phase you didn't see coming. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Run-In
Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In
The first ex run-in is always the worst. Read More »
Dating Don’ts: Why Dating Younger Is Not For Me

I am the oldest of four girls, a pack of sisters who descend in age like uneven stair steps, from 31 to 29 to 26 to 23. As the eldest of this pack, I am a consummate older sister — bossy, with a tendency towards lecturing, and a fondness for teaching “lessons.” In the context of my family, this dynamic has its place. The traditional roles of birth order are said to be fluid, but mine never is. I am eternally a big sister, and this dynamic has bled into my love life. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Consider The Winter Boyfriend

Dating Don'ts: Nice Guys
Dating Don'ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice
There is a difference between nice guys and guys who are nice. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: To Date
Dating-Don'ts-Choose-To-Be-Alone
You have to choose to date if you're gonna do it. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Alone
Dating Don'ts: Why You Should Choose To Be Alone
Choose to be alone. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Consider The Winter Boyfriend

Technically, there are four seasons, but I like to think of Winter and The Holidays as two distinct entities. The Holidays are their own special thing — a whirlwind of lights and fun and being hungover at the office on a Wednesday. The Holidays end with a splash, making a champagne fountain and entering the New Year clutching the hands of your friends, or making out with that dude you winked at, then cornered at midnight. After the dust settles, the fog lifts, everyone starts to make their way back to their regularly scheduled lives — that is Winter.

Winter is long, it is the interminable darkness of three to four months until Memorial Day weekend. Winter is losing gloves on the subway and runny noses, and spending time alone because it’s too cold to get anyone to leave their house. Winter is a time for introspection, reflection, eating a lot of cookies, and falling into a state of weird, depressive hermitude that may lead you to consider the Winter Boyfriend. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How To Be Single During The Holidays

Dating Don't: Nice Guys
Dating Don'ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice
There's a difference between nice guys and guys who are nice. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Blame
You can stop blaming yourself for being single. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Grateful
Don't forget to be grateful. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: How To Be Single During The Holidays

Theres something about twinkly lights and snowflakes falling on a hushed street that can send even the most confident woman into a free-fall, scrambling for the nearest warm body to spend the holidays with. This time of year lends itself nicely to reflection, to family, to untold amounts of love and cheer and wassailing, but can also very easily be horribly, awfully depressing. If you find yourself pushing through throngs of rosy-cheeked, hand holding couples stopping to kiss under every available sprig of mistletoe, don’t despair. Don’t get mired in the “woe-is-me-I-need-a-man” blues.This is a time for reflection, but it’s also the best present the universe could ever give you — built in downtime, for you to think about what you want and how you want it. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice

Dating Don't: Enemy
Dating Don'ts: You Are Your Own Worst Enemy
You are your own worst enemy. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Run-In
Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In
The first ex run-in is always the worst. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: To Date
Dating-Don'ts-Choose-To-Be-Alone
You have to choose to date if you're gonna do it. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: The Difference Between Nice Guys And Guys Who Are Nice

I had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. “Girls don’t like me because they don’t like nice guys!” he said. “Girls only like assholes. No one ever wants to date me because I’m too nice,” he whined.

I’ve had this conversation multiple times with lots of my guy friends, and the one thing I always tell them is this: women do like nice guys, because no one wants to be with a jerk, but there’s a difference between being a Nice Guy and being a guy who is nice. Recognizing the difference between the two is key. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

Dating Don'ts: Turkey Dropped
Dating Don'ts: 4 Tips For Surviving A Turkey Dropping
How to survive being dumped at Thanksgiving. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: To Date
Dating-Don'ts-Choose-To-Be-Alone
You have to choose to date if you're gonna do it. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Online Realities
Some things you might not know about online dating. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

There is no secret to dating success.There is no incantation to whisper over a pile of personal effects under the light of a new moon, no candles to burn, no rituals performed under a veil of Spanish moss in bare feet. Dating is one of the least magical and miraculous things that occurs in our short time on this earth. It requires the same rote, dedicated work you need to do to lose weight, quit smoking or do anything that is difficult, that takes time, that is slightly unpleasant, but necessary. Like most things in our adult lives, to date successfully is a task best done alone. Here’s the rub, friends: when we deal with the tricky unpleasantries of life that require determination, willpower and confidence alone, with nothing but our interior monologues to shut us down, that’s where the trouble starts. Sometimes, blaming your lack of success on everything else around you is the easiest way out. Perhaps we should consider an irrefutable fact: you are your own worst enemy. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Choose To Be Available

Dating Don'ts: Run-In
Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In
The first ex run-in is always the worst. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Wabi-Sabi
Dating Don'ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi
How wabi-sabi can help your relationship. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Alone
Dating Don'ts: Why You Should Choose To Be Alone
Choose to be alone. Read More »
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Life as we know it is a series of small, careful choices that we make day in and day out. We choose to watch television, to go to yoga, to eat that last piece of cake, to go the long way home instead of taking a cab. We make these choices as a part of life with little thought and a decided lack of consideration. If you’re single, and decidedly so, that’s a choice — an easy choice to make for some, a difficult choice for others, but what does it mean when you decide that you want to choose to date, but aren’t sure how to go about doing it?

The concept of making yourself available is a notion that is more difficult to put into practice than it sounds. We spend so much of our time being available only to ourselves — choosing what we want to read next, or where we want to go on vacation, or whether or not to eat Chipotle two days in a row for lunch. These are choices that come like second nature to us. To make the decision to let your delicate, quivering soul out into the universe is a terrifying one, but it is necessary if you choose to be available. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 6 Tips For Managing The First Ex Run-In

Dating Don'ts: Wabi-Sabi
Dating Don'ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi
How wabi-sabi can help your relationship. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Control
Dating Don'ts Why Control Is The Enemy Of Love
Control is your enemy when it comes to love. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: It's You
Dating Don'ts: Maybe It Is You
Maybe it is you after all. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In

You’re on your way to your local watering hole one evening and you spot something familiar in the gait, the walk, the hand gestures of a person heading your way on the street. You realize with sudden, sinking dread that it’s your ex who you haven’t seen since the breakup. You grab your best friend’s elbow and hiss in her ear, “That’s him.” You stay in place, paralyzed and unable to move, until she grabs you by the back of the arm and steers you across the street. You think yourself invisible while you stand in between two parked cars, waiting for him to pass.

Later, when you get a text that says, “Did I just see you outside that bar?” you wait two hours and numerous drinks before texting back in all caps “NOPE.” Near the end of the night, as you sit on top of a bar stool with your best friend like imperious, drunk queens, you blatantly ignore him when he enters the bar to retrieve his forgotten credit card. Likely story. Even with his sudden ambush, you manage to avoid contact. At the end of the night you collapse into bed with a glass of water in hand, and think to yourself, Crisis averted!

But really, was it? Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi

Dating Don'ts: Control
Dating Don'ts Why Control Is The Enemy Of Love
Control is your enemy when it comes to love. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: To Date
Dating-Don'ts-Choose-To-Be-Alone
You have to choose to date if you're gonna do it. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Fatigue
When dating fatigue sets it, it's a bitch. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi

Here is a example of something that happens to people in relationships: we strive for perfection at all costs. Things go well, things are proceeding according to the path you created in your head. Things feel perfect. Your relationship is a glorious jewel of correctness, shining in a world where nothing is right. There have been no arguments, you disagree on nothing and appear to have everything in common. The success of your relationship is a kick in the teeth to all your other problems, it’s the one thing that you can really and truly do right. It’s a contact high of the best kind and you never want it to go away.  The problem with this feeling? The first crack in the veneer sends you into a roiling, spiraling panic. The truth: Perfection is impossible, it is unfeasible, and the struggle to achieve it will be the death of the relationship. Instead of striving for it, try infusing your relationship with some wabi-sabi. Keep reading »

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