Profile for Lorraine Duffy Merkl

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5 Tips To Forgetting Your Way To A Better Relationship

Why I Got Married Young
To me, 24 seemed like the perfect age. Read More »
Wedding Body Project
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Andrea on the expectation that all brides-to-be want to lose weight. Read More »
Flirting And Marriage
One woman's husband cockblocks her her flirting attempts. Read More »

I often have memory loss, except it’s not due to a car accident as it is for Rachel McAdams’s character, “Paige,” in the soon to be released movie “The Vow”; mine is voluntary. When my husband, Neil, and I had a few chinks in our newlywed armor, we decided to enlist a little help getting past what ailed us and found a marriage counselor who practiced short-term couples therapy. Dr. Get Right To The Point laid it out: decide if you really want to be in the relationship. If so, accept the reality that couples fight, disagree, annoy each other from time to time and generally piss each other off. Then, develop amnesia.

Neil got on board from the get-go, as he’s not much for grudge holding. “A waste of time and energy,” he called it. But the therapist clearly had no idea with whom he was dealing when it came to me. Not only did I have a memory like a steel trap, I held on to every infraction, cruel word and perceived slight with a vice grip. After the jump, how I learned to forget to save my marriage. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Let’s Take The “Man” Out Of Mani/Pedi

Keep Pubic Hair!
A soapbox about why we should keep our pubic hair. Read More »
9 Signs He's Gay
Are you always making the first move? Maybe he's gay. Read More »

I boldly venture into sexist territory. I move we take the “man” out of mani/pedi. Why? Because sitting next to someone of the opposite sex in my nail salon is different than sitting side-by-side with another woman. It just is.

I fully accept that some nice metrosexual may want his nails buffed or feet scrubbed ‘til they’re callus-free; nothing beats the feeling. I just wish he would take his good grooming business to the place where he gets a shave and a haircut. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: He Wanted A Mommy

Dealbreaker
Sorry, but at 26, virginity is a dealbreaker. Read More »
Dealbreaker!
He ordered the cheese plate ... for dessert. Read More »
Dating Dealbreaker
I wasn't Jewish enough. Read More »

I did not want to be in college and be a mom. And I’m not talking about having a baby, I’m talking about dating one.

Tom and I were just barely in our 20s and our wants were few. Most of the time, just being together was enough. So when he told me that he going to quit working as a NYC bike messenger during in his fifth year of college, I just thought that meant there would be more “us” time. Keep reading »

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