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PurrVerse: We All Have The Right To A Secret Identity

It was two and a half years ago that I presented at South By Southwest  on sex workers and social media, particularly on the dangers of "real name policies." Sex workers are using social media, not only to talk to fans, but to talk to each other, to create community while still maintaining a level…

By: Kitty Stryker / September 18, 2014

So Someone You Love Is Suicidal

"'Man goes to doctor. Says he's depressed. Says life is harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world. Doctor says, "Treatment is simple. The great clown Pagliacci is in town tonight. Go see him. That should pick you up." Man bursts into tears. Says, "But doctor... I am Pagliacci." — 'Watchmen'

By: Kitty Stryker / September 1, 2014

PurrVerse: What It’s Really Like On A Queer Porn Set

One of the first questions people  usually ask upon meeting me is what I do for a living. When I respond casually that I’m a production assistant on queer porn, then the questions really get going. What does a porn PA do, exactly? I’ll tell you one thing: much to my regret, I am not…

By: Kitty Stryker / July 24, 2014

PurrVerse: Autobiography Of A Queer Gamer Girl

My first real game, the one I remember best, was Zork — good, old-fashioned white text on a black background. I was obsessed with it, the challenges intrinsic in playing it, and the mythology attached. I read the books that came with the series obsessively, and even did a school report (sadly not preserved for posterity)…

By: Kitty Stryker / July 18, 2014

PurrVerse: Adult Sex Workers Are Arrested When We “Think Of The Children”

I woke up one morning last week to my Twitter in an uproar. That’s reasonably common in my world, as many of the people I follow are marginalized and there’s a lot to be angry about. Turns out that the FBI has seized MyRedbook, a California site where masseuses and escorts could advertise for client…

By: Kitty Stryker / July 14, 2014

PurrVerse: The Mean Girls Of Lesbian Porn

"There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and don't try to stop it."  — Janis Ian Judging from the popularity of femme-on-femme makeouts being used to sell products from Versace to concert tickets, one would think that lesbian porn i…

By: Kitty Stryker / June 26, 2014

PurrVerse: Behind The Lens With Sex Worker Photographer Isabel Dresler

Recently I got a chance to meet Isabel Dresler (safe for work), who I’ve taken to calling "photographer to queer porn stars." She’s shot with some queer porn faves like Courtney Trouble, Dylan Ryan, Andre Shakti, and Siouxsie Q. We got to chatting at a shoot for the cover of the East Bay Express on the…

By: Kitty Stryker / June 20, 2014

PurrVerse: I Don’t Need Male Protection, Thanks

Women are given mixed messages on a regular basis. We’re told that we’re shattering glass ceilings and are independent ladies, while at the same time we’re told we’re a mess barely keeping ourselves together. Just today I got a Facebook advert demanding my attention so I can discover the newest fad diet that doesn’t really…

By: Kitty Stryker / June 12, 2014

PurrVerse: I’m A Queer Against Marriage

So it turns out 55 percent of Americans now support gay marriage. I suppose my little queer heart ought to be delighted that we’re slowly stumbling into being treated "just like everyone else." Instead, if I’m honest, I feel disappointed in the gay rights movement.

By: Kitty Stryker / May 29, 2014

PurrVerse: Getting Lucky With San Francisco’s Hook-Up Truck

I live in San Francisco, land of art, sexual experimentation, and entrepreneurial spirit. Since I’ve moved here I’ve explored the boundaries between public and private sex in multiple ways - in the back of a pickup truck on Twin Peaks, in the woods by the Sutro Baths, with a bike-powered sex machine in the middle…

By: Kitty Stryker / May 22, 2014

PurrVerse: The NYPD Now Limits Using Condoms As Evidence Of Sex Work — But This Issue Is Far From Over

The NYPD has finally agreed to ban the confiscation condoms as evidence from people they suspect of being sex workers. With similar measures having been fought for and won in San Francisco and Washington, D.C., this seems like a win for sexual health, right? Well, sort of. The headlines I keep seeing aren’t actually accurate:…

By: Kitty Stryker / May 15, 2014

The Soapbox: Hating On Social Media Is Trendy, But It’s Also Wrong

It seems like lots of people lately wax poetic about the good old days before we were all staring at computer screens. Take, for example, the popularity of the "Look Up" spoken word video. I hear these complaints from mostly people my age, maybe a bit older, so we’re not that far apart in our…

By: Kitty Stryker / May 9, 2014

Fatphobia: A Guide For The Disbeliever

This piece was crossposted with permission from KittyStryker.com. First, a little bit about me. I’m an American who has lived on one coast or the other, who has spent extended time in Poland and in London. I’ve been familiar with fatphobia my whole life, as my mother is fat, my grandmother is fat, and I became…

By: Kitty Stryker / May 6, 2014

The Soapbox: Porn Stars Learn They Can’t Bank On Chase

I've written before about issues around payment processors and the sex industry, how businesses like Paypal, WePay and Google Wallet were shutting anyone they suspected of sex work out of using their services. Well, turns out that a trickle down effect is happening within the banking world, as Chase recently sent letters out to hundreds of

By: Kitty Stryker / April 23, 2014

The Soapbox: “Game of Thrones,” Thanks for Employing Porn Stars

I’m just going to say it upfront: I’m a massive fan of "Game of Thrones." I know it’s problematic, controversial around its portrayals of women, and arguably more violent on screen than required (see last night's rape scene for an example). And I know there’s been plenty of excellent critiques arguing that "Game of Thrones" is

By: Kitty Stryker / April 21, 2014

The Soapbox: The ’80s Called And They Want Their Sex Wars Back

I’m writing this on an airplane from Toronto, Ontario, to San Francisco, California. I’ve just spent six days among other women, other queers, other porn performers, and other feminists at the Feminist Porn Awards and the Feminist Porn Conference. In that time, I have witnessed moments that made my heart soar, my eyes tear u…

By: Kitty Stryker / April 10, 2014

The Soapbox: How PayPal & WePay Discriminate Against The Adult Industry

I was packing my bags, looking forward to a week trip to the Feminist Porn Awards and the Feminist Porn Conference, having finally earned enough through my Patreon patron-funded writing to travel and have a bit of a cushion when I got back. Payments would be processed at the beginning of the month, and I…

By: Kitty Stryker / April 2, 2014

True Story: My Crash Course In Porn And Empowerment

It’s easy to say that pornography is empowering for women, or that it degrades them. Oversimplifying, certainly, but easy. The truth is it’s much more complicated than that. I was 19 when I realized I could go to college without the debt that my friends were already beginning to complain about. I could take care…

By: Kitty Stryker / March 27, 2014