Judy McGuire

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Be (Or Date!) An Overlapper

When I asked an old friend why she hadn’t just broken up with her live-in boyfriend instead of beginning a messy affair with a married neighbor, she snapped, “Don’t be stupid—nobody leaves a relationship without having another one in place.” Oh, please, I corrected her. Of course they do. People fall out of love or…
By: Judy McGuire / May 7, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Five Dating Habits That Toe The Line Between Cute And Crazy

Have you been watching “Tough Love” on VH1? It took a bit to grow on me. Now, not only do I love the show, I may be harboring a secret crush on host Steve Ward. I bring this up because a couple weeks ago, he had the ladies participate in an impromptu game show that…
By: Judy McGuire / April 30, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Deal With The Ambiguous Dater

Every woman I know has been in this situation at one time or another, wondering whether the guy she’s wasting—I mean, spending most of her time with is interested in her as a girlfriend or just a buddy. In my case, his name was Daniel. He’d flirt, drive me around in his cool vintage car,…
By: Judy McGuire / April 23, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Keep A Dry Spell From Turning Into A Bad Smell

While some women have trouble with breasts that droop or low-hanging butt cheeks, my heart has always been my least-resilient body part. Like Chet Baker once crooned, I fall in love too easily. And once it ends—especially when it’s not my idea—I tend to have a little trouble getting back up on that passion pony.
By: Judy McGuire / April 16, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Dealbreaker Or Dealmaker?

I have said and/or done the wrong thing so many times that it’s truly the eighth wonder of the world that I ever managed to trick anyone into dating me more than once. There was the time I fell off my chair and farted (loudly) just as my butt hit the ground. Or the guy…
By: Judy McGuire / April 9, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Handle An Age Difference

In my twenties, I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me. In my thirties, I went in the other direction, dating a dude 11 years my junior. (Don’t you dare call me a cougar!) Although both ended rather badly, I feel like that while the gaping age difference didn’t directly cause either…
By: Judy McGuire / April 2, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Help Heal A Broken Heart

While watching your buddy cry her eyes out over some unworthy jerk isn’t nearly as painful as getting the heave-ho yourself, it’s still difficult. Most of us want to help our BFFs through breakups, but what do you say? Or, more importantly, what shouldn’t you say?
By: Judy McGuire / March 26, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Deal With A Sick Boy

Devil get behind me, it’s cold and flu season. Maybe it’s because I grew up with a mom who refused to categorize any of her five kids as officially “sick” unless fluids were exploding and the temperature hit well into the hundreds, but I am not the person you want taking care of you whe…
By: Judy McGuire / March 19, 2009

Dating Don’ts: 6 Scenarios For Getting Back Together

Like everyone else, I’ve been glued to the Chris Brown/Rihanna debacle, and was saddened when I read reports that she might get back together with someone who left her so bruised and battered. But here’s the thing: loads of couples break up and then make up and sometimes things work out great. But knowing when,…
By: Judy McGuire / March 12, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Seven Ways To Fire Someone From Your Life

How many people do you know who’ve been downsized? Terminated? Let go? Fired? However you word it, the result is the same: Bummer, dude! According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 4.1 million people have lost their jobs in the last year alone. (The current total is about 11.6 million.) To add insult…
By: Judy McGuire / March 5, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Six Ways To Avoid Falling In Love

What do you get when you fall in love? According the fan-freaking-tastic Dionne Warwick—and she should know from heartache—“You get enough tears to fill an ocean/That's what you get for your devotion.” Sing it, sister! Sure, you get other stuff, too: hearts, cupids, hickeys, the fun stuff. But sometimes the bad outweighs the good, and…
By: Judy McGuire / February 26, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Talk About Money, Honey

It seems that all anyone is talking about lately is the economy, so why is money still such a tough topic to discuss with your nearest and dearest? They say married couples fight over money more than anything else, but what about when you just started dating? That’s possibly even more awkward.
By: Judy McGuire / February 19, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Date A Coworker

Q: The best part of having a workplace boyfriend? A: Kissing on the sly in the utility closet at your office. Q: The worst part about having an office boyfriend? A: Your boss walking in on the two of you kissing on the sly in the utility closet at your office. Kidding. The worst part…
By: Judy McGuire / February 5, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Get Played

The biggest, baddest, most terrifying part of falling in love is opening up and letting yourself be vulnerable. When it works, love can seem like the stuff of fairytales: you meet someone, you get to know and like each other, you enter into a mutually trusting and respectful relationship, you fall deeply, madly, hopelessly i…
By: Judy McGuire / January 29, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Discuss Love

Between the Internet, blogging, and social networking, the concept of courtship can seem pretty antiquated. Depending on how Web-present you are, with the push of a button a guy could potentially access everything from your videotaped colonic to your SAT scores to mortifying details of your most recent heartbreak. All this before you’ve even met…
By: Judy McGuire / January 22, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Five Ways Not To Argue

I never trust couples that claim they don’t fight. I don’t believe them, and even if they aren’t lying, who wants to be with a guy who agrees with everything you say? How boring would that be? The best part of being in a relationship is exposing yourself to new ideas and ways of thinking.
By: Judy McGuire / January 15, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Relationship Anxieties To Quit Worrying About

A good friend of mine recently reminded me of some advice I’d given her back in college. She was about to sleep with a new boyfriend for the first time and had been fretting about some body part. Apparently I shrugged and told her, “Please—boys are just happy to have a naked girl in the…
By: Judy McGuire / January 8, 2009

How To NOT Date A Criminal

Women who fall in love with and sometimes marry psychotic killers — like Richard Ramirez (the Night Stalker) or Ted Bundy — have always fascinated me. I mean, why? Sure, people do tend to have types, but “big-schnozzed manorexic” is a far cry from “slitter of throats and raper of ladies.” However, I have to…
By: Judy McGuire / December 29, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Four Reasons You’ll NEVER Get Dumped

Writing about dating is my full-time job, so, naturally, I hear a lot of pretty deranged tales of love gone wrong. But last week I received a letter from a woman who was convinced that men wouldn’t go out with her because she was just too … beautiful. She fully believed her breathtaking attractiveness wa…
By: Judy McGuire / December 18, 2008

Dating By Diagnosis: Six Types Of Guys Gone Mental

Any lady who’s put in her time knows there are a lot of lunatics out there. The bad news is, some of them are scary. The better news is, dating the mentally unstable doesn’t always have to be a negative. Here’s a quick way to take the lemons life tosses your way and turn them,…
By: Judy McGuire / December 13, 2008