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Dating Don’ts: Know Your Textiquette

Texting has become as ubiquitous as the cell phones that birthed them, but what is it doing to our love lives? Can you imagine what a different movie "Casablanca" would be if, instead of suavely growling, “Here’s looking at you, kid,” Rick instead texted Ilsa: ; - ) Same sentiment (sort of), yet all the…

By: Judy McGuire / September 24, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Trying To Change A Man Is A Waste Of Time

A gaggle of girlfriends and I were sitting around drinking beer and bitching about our crappy love lives one late night when my buddy Marguerite shared something a wise relative had once told her: “The three most dangerous words a woman can say are ‘He has potential.’” Maybe I’m not very bright, but that stopped…

By: Judy McGuire / September 17, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Much Is Too Much Information?

I still remember the confused look on my date’s face as I self-consciously blurted out, apropos of nothing, “I’ve just lost seven pounds on Weight Watchers and I intend to lose 15 more!” With that I stifled a burp, plunked down my pint glass and realized that we (meaning, he) had been talking about hi…

By: Judy McGuire / September 10, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Making Over A Badly Dressed Boy

I once dated a guy who clothed himself almost exclusively in band t-shirts, pleated trousers, and an ever-present fanny pack. (And no, he wasn’t a German tourist.) I remember thinking when we met that I’d finally cast eyes upon the archetypal rock critic. That he actually was a rock critic made the experience all the…

By: Judy McGuire / September 3, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Four Signs He’s Not The One

OK, first of all, let me make it clear that I don’t believe in the concept of “the one.” I think each of us has more like the “top 40” or even “winning 100,” depending on how much ground you cover. But even in a world brimming with possibilities, at some point in our live…

By: Judy McGuire / August 27, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Say No!

Last weekend at a party, I noticed a toad-like man attaching himself to a beautiful, talented friend of mine. Not only was she way out of his league, looks-wise, but as I eavesdropped I discovered he was one of those dudes who delivers endless monologues instead of engaging in actual conversations. Ladies, I think we’ve…

By: Judy McGuire / August 20, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Helping A Friend Who’s Being Hit

“Why does she stay?” is the question most often asked when we hear about someone involved in an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the least helpful things you can say to a woman caught up in this cycle. So what can we do to help when we suspect a friend is being battered?

By: Judy McGuire / August 13, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Keep The Crazy At Bay When You’re Online Dating

Though one or two exes might dispute this, I’ve never been one of those crazy girls. Under normal circumstances I don’t snoop, don’t obsess (too much), and am generally fairly sane(ish) in my dealings with the opposite sex. However, while I met my current, long-term boyfriend on Nerve.com, at no time in my life did…

By: Judy McGuire / August 6, 2009

Dating Don’ts: To Tell Or Not To Tell?

The first time I met my now-close friend Gina, she was rhapsodizing about her awesome boyfriend, Eugene. After a few minutes, I realized I’d already met him. But he wasn’t the sweetheart she was describing. I was familiar with Eugene because the weekend before he had propositioned me in a particularly crude manner. I realized…

By: Judy McGuire / July 30, 2009

Dating Don’ts: It’s Time For A Dating Attitude Adjustment

Few things are more entertaining than bad date stories. Who wants to hear about hearts and flowers when flatulence and festering sores are so much more fun? Which is why when my friend Sal wanted to share what she assured me were horror stories about her recent attempts at online dating, I was ecstatic –…

By: Judy McGuire / July 23, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Why You Should Always Trust Your Gut

How many times have you been out with a foxy new someone only to have him do or say something that made your stomach lurch—and not in an I-wanna-make-babies-with-him-now way. Maybe he was nasty to your waiter. Perhaps it was more subtle—he snickered when you tripped or didn’t introduce you to the attractive “friend” you…

By: Judy McGuire / July 16, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Get Revenge On An Ex

Well-known peacenik Mahatma Ghandi famously proclaimed, “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” Sorry, Ghandi, but I beg to disagree. The sad fact is, there are times in a lady’s life when revenge tastes pretty sweet. (Even in a blind taste test.) One of those times is after some cad shatters your…

By: Judy McGuire / July 9, 2009

Dating Don’ts: When His Parents Hate You

For the first two years of my relationship with my Large Greek Boyfriend, his mom didn’t acknowledge me by name. I was simply, “The Girl.” “Are you bringing The Girl?” she’d inquire when he made plans for family dinner. “Does The Girl like spanikopita?” Being a typical dude, it didn’t register on the BF’s radar,…

By: Judy McGuire / July 2, 2009

Dating Don’ts: The Worst Breakup Lines Ever

Nowhere is the difference between men and women so glaring as when it comes down to the demise of a relationship. Specifically, the unexpected, unwanted, one-sided break-up otherwise known as the dumping. A dumped dude might get angry. Then again, he might just get depressed and mope quietly in his room. He may go to…

By: Judy McGuire / June 25, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Settle

When I questioned a friend about why she was marrying a guy whom she found only mildly attractive, didn’t enjoy having sex with and wasn’t in love with, she told me this: “Marriage isn’t about love, it’s about finding the person who gets on your nerves the least.” I recall being both horrified and saddened…

By: Judy McGuire / June 18, 2009

Dating Don’ts: What Secrets Should You Reveal In A Relationship?

How much do you really need to know? I still remember the day I walked into my house only to be confronted by my entire family staring at me like I was an alien as my mother shrieked through her tears, “Thank god you’re home—I thought you were dead!!!” Um, what?

By: Judy McGuire / June 11, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Get Through A Friendship Breakup

Recently, I discovered that one of my best friends had ditched me after I logged on to Facebook and found her profile had disappeared from my page. We’d been having problems that had culminated in a huge argument the day before, but I figured we’d get through it. I figured wrong. Still, being given the…

By: Judy McGuire / June 4, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Move In Together

Whether you’re getting married or have decided to live in (gasp!) sin, the decision to cohabitate is one of the most nerve-wracking, potentially fight-provoking, all-around-scariest things you will do as a couple. Here are some pitfalls to avoid: 1. The Money-Saver Move-In: The recession is kicking everyone’s ass, but if the major reasoning behind your…

By: Judy McGuire / May 28, 2009

Dating Don’ts: The Downside Of Online Dating

Although there's still a certain inexplicable stigma attached to it, I am a huge proponent of online dating. I met my long-term boyfriend that way and the majority of weddings I’ve been to over the past couple years have been for couples who’ve met via the internet. So whenever I hear a friend whine about…

By: Judy McGuire / May 21, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Translate Eight Dating One-Liners

I recently read Jeff Mac’s very funny book, Manslations (Sourcebooks), which is basically a phrase book for ladies to help us decipher the Language of Lads. It’s certainly a time-saver for those of us used to spending hours IM’ing our friends, dissecting last night’s date’s behavior. But the fact is, men aren’t the only one…

By: Judy McGuire / May 14, 2009