This was a few years back, but I’ll never forget the comment made by a new girlfriend of a friend upon meeting my husband and me for the first time: “Wow. You two look like brother and sister.” Um, thanks? I laughed off her remark, but, subconsciously, it did creep me out that we might look alike. I remembered having read about a popular study done in the ’80s, which claimed that couples start looking more and more alike over the years of cohabiting, because of their influence on each other. So maybe that’s what was happening to us, I thought. But still, egads! Would we end up being that middle-aged couple — the one with the same short haircut, furry chin, and potbelly, wearing matching jumpsuits to the grocery store? Were we on our way to becoming … the same person? Keep reading »
One great thing about the end of summer is that it’s US Open time! Fans are getting stoked for the tennis tournament that starts today, particularly here in New York City, where the games are just a train ride away. As part of a larger feature on women’s tennis, and to get everyone revved up, The New York Times Magazine put together a video slideshow, “The Beauty of the Power Game,” which turned out to be quite a sexy representation of the tourney’s hardest-hitting female players, including Kim Clijsters and Serena Williams … Keep reading »
Attraction is complicated – it’s about his personality, how he smiles, how he moves, and so much more. But in that first initial encounter it’s all about the face, right? Well, this may come as the no-duh news of the week, but for dudes it depends. A recent psychology study out of the University of Texas shows both men and women consider the face the most important indicator of attraction when it comes to long-term relationships, but when it comes to one-night stands, men are more interested in a woman’s body. Keep reading »
This week, two 11-year-old boys, who were sentenced to three years probation for sexually assaulting an 8-year-old girl, became the youngest sex offenders in Britain.
Yet, it’s not clear whether they “assaulted” the girl or whether all three kids were engaging in the innocent, curious game of “show me yours and I’ll show you mine.” One day last October, the West London girl had come home to tell her mother that two local 10-year-old boys had shoved her off her scooter, pulled her pants down, and then raped her. Though, when questioned by authorities later, she said that she had “been naughty” and didn’t want to tell her mother. The case went to trial and this week the jury found the boys guilty of assault, though the judge gave them a light probation sentence, saying, to the boys, “something went too far” but ” … you didn’t realize how serious what you were doing was.” Keep reading »
Scientists are finally working to remedy a problem that has plagued us big-chested ladies since we hit puberty: sports bras don’t really work for us. Most athletic bras have a shelf that is about as effective at holding the twins in place as a band-aid is on a gaping wound, and the bras with cups that do hold things together are painful, circulation-depriving contraptions that make it hard to breathe, let alone jog. Thank God that “breast biomechanics” — I know, awesome name, right? — at the University of Wollongong in Australia have developed a sports bra prototype that supposedly — gasp! — does its job …
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It’s officially past mid-August and somehow there’s still so much I want to do this summer. My husband and I moved apartments in July, which means we were inside many weekend days over the past two months packing/unpacking. Sad! Well, we made it to Coney Island on July 4th for the hot dog-eating contest, to the beach twice and to a Mets game … but I want more summertime fun, so much more. So, to make sure I don’t have any regrets come fall, I’ve made a list of 8 classic summertime thrills to have before Labor Day, if it’s even possible to fit them all in. Check ‘em out, after the jump. Maybe they’ll inspire you to take advantage of the last few dog days of summer, too. Keep reading »
While any professional bodybuilder is a sight to behold, female bodybuilders are undoubtedly even more fascinating than their male counterparts — for how they challenge expectations of gender. They morph their bodies into hyper-masculine, superhero-like proportions, turning the softness that typically characterizes a woman’s curvy body to rock-hard muscle. Their rigorous weight-lifting literally leaves them breast-less. In an exhibit here in NYC this summer, On And Off The Walls: Female Bodybuilders, photographer Martin Schoeller shows us the part of female bodybuilders the camera usually ignores — their faces. Schoeller, who is well-known for taking up-close portraits of celebrities that are not always flattering, shows us how very feminine, pretty, and delicate hard-muscled mamas can be. The juxtaposition of femininity and masculinity in these photographs is kind of amazing, don’t you think? [Hasted Hunt Kraeutler Gallery via The New Yorker] Keep reading »
Ladies, we now have one more thing we can blame on hormones emitted during our menstrual cycle —
slutty sexy clothing choices. A new study from the University of Minnesota Carlson School of Management finds that during ovulation, women “dress to impress” and buy sexier clothing. Apparently, it’s an unconscious choice, but we are trying to look sexier than other nearby women so that men will notice us. Finally, an explanation for why I bought that embarrassingly tight, skanky jersey dress from American Apparel and why it seems like a good idea to wear it about once a month.
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When it comes to my long-distance girlfriends, I know what it takes to keep those relationships tight despite the years and the miles apart: a willingness to pick up the phone. If we’re not having heart-to-hearts once in a while — say, every couple of months — then I’m not feeling like the connection is all that. A good, long chat between two girlfriends is like sex is to a couple, and if a relationship doesn’t get fed, it’s going to starve to death.
But the truth is, these days I feel like my closest ladies are starving me and I’m starving them. I’m not sure whether to blame our busy lives or the fact that technology has zapped all the intimacy out of communication and also keeps us too busy for the real thing. I’m talking to you, Facebook.
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As a busy New Yorker whose normal weeknight get-home time is 9 p.m. if not later, I’m pretty selfish about my Saturdays. There are no plans to be made before 2 p.m. — no, I can’t get to that toddler’s birthday party in Brooklyn at noon; nope, I don’t care if there’s a free yoga class downtown at 10 a.m. Sleeping in and lounging around into the early afternoon is a must. Tomorrow, however, my husband and I are donating our Saturday to the Revlon Run/Walk for Women’s Cancer, and I, personally, couldn’t feel better about waking up at 7 a.m. on my day off. Keep reading »