The issues of male rape and sexual abuse get plenty of sensationalistic air time on “Law & Order: SVU,” but not so much substantive awareness in our day-to-day lives. While it is true that reported sexual abuse of girls and women is far more prevalent than male abuse, I also assume acknowledging or discussing male sexual abuse brings up uncomfortable feelings amongst guys about masculinity and what it means to be a “strong man.” There’s even vicious stereotypes that dog gay guys — who are routinely denigrated as being “not manly enough” — that they must have been sexually abused as kids. In a way, that’s kind of all you need to know about what some (perhaps many) people think of male sexual abuse survivors.
So it makes sense then, from a messaging standpoint, that to reach male victims of sexual abuse, the UK group Survivors UK would address “masculinity” head-on. Their new campaign, which launches this week in time for a rugby tournament in London, features a rugby ball (speared by a nail, I think?) and the slogan: “Real men get raped: and talking about it takes real strength.” Keep reading »
Sorry to be the wet blanket, everyone. But Valentine’s Day cards that joke about stalkers? Not really funny. There’s a bunch of stalker cards like this one for sale on Zazzle.com, including a particularly disturbing one that says “Be Mine” spelled out in blood above a heart made out of a razor blade. I have a pretty irreverent sense of humor, but I don’t see any humor in joking about violence. Stalking is creepy and scary to people who actually live through it. There’s better ways to be funny if you want to fly your freak flag this Valentine’s Day. [Zazzle.com]
Chelsea Handler has never hidden the fact she became pregnant at age 16 and had an abortion. But this is the first I’ve heard her describe the circumstances in more detail, like how it was her parents who encouraged her against becoming a teen mom. “They were, like, you’re getting an abortion,” Chelsea told Rosie O’Donnell on “The Rosie Show.” “I was trying to argue with them and they said, ‘you don’t understand, you’re throwing your entire life away, you’re not having a child right now, this is not what our family is about. You’re supposed to create a life for yourself. You’re supposed to enjoy your life and create a life for yourself. You’re not supposed to be raising a child and we’re certainly not going to raise it for you.’” Keep reading »