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British PSA About Male Rape Proves It’s Hard To Please Everybody

Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Dating Good Guys
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Not every woman wants to date an a-hole. Read More »
Depressed Men
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Threats to masculinity lead to depressed men. Read More »
Real Men Get Raped PSA

The issues of male rape and sexual abuse get plenty of sensationalistic air time on “Law & Order: SVU,” but not so much substantive awareness in our day-to-day lives. While it is true that reported sexual abuse of girls and women is far more prevalent than male abuse, I also assume acknowledging or discussing male sexual abuse brings up uncomfortable feelings amongst guys about masculinity and what it means to be a “strong man.” There’s even vicious stereotypes that dog gay guys — who are routinely denigrated as being “not manly enough” — that they must have been sexually abused as kids. In a way, that’s kind of all you need to know about what some (perhaps many) people think of male sexual abuse survivors. 

So it makes sense then, from a messaging standpoint, that to reach male victims of sexual abuse, the UK group Survivors UK would address “masculinity” head-on. Their new campaign, which launches this week in time for a rugby tournament in London, features a rugby ball (speared by a nail, I think?) and the slogan: “Real men get raped: and talking about it takes real strength.” Keep reading »

Evening Quickies: Lady Gaga Talks Bulimia

Jane Fonda's Bulimia
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Jane Fonda has come clean about having bulimia in the past. Read More »
Exploiting Anorexia
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Will a new reality TV show exploit women with eating disorders? Read More »
Morning Quickies
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NY Giant told Pats fan Gisele Bundchen: "Be cute and shut up." Read More »
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  • Lady Gaga spoke to high school girls earlier this week about having bulimia as a teen and fighting with her Italian dad over his spaghetti and meatballs.  [PopCrush]
  • Oh dear. This is roughly how much money Lindsay Lohan is spending on her legal fees. [Betty Confidential]
  • Naomi Watts has been cast as Princess Diana in a biopic about the princess’s life which will be called “Caught In Flight” and focus on the two years before she died in a car crash. [FoxNews]
  • Secrets behind the love hormone oxytocin. [Gurl.com] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Pregnant Woman Asked To Resign

  • A pregnant woman in Connecticut was asked to resign by her employers instead of taking maternity leave. Amy Zvovushe, 31, told her employers she was pregnant on Sept. 23 and was soon told she would have to resign, as she had not been with the company for 12 months, after which she would be eligible for up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave under the federal Family Medical Leave Act. This is completely ridiculous — instead of giving her temporary and unpaid leave to give birth, they got rid of her. The person interviewed for the piece called it a “sexist irony” that the FMLA was used to fire, not protect, a working woman’s job — well put!  Fortunately, Amy Zvovushe recorded her crappy HR folks and had a lawyer contact them; as a result, she was able to take temporary leave to give birth and then return to her job. [ABC News]
  • Following a conservative “pro-family” group’s threat to boycott JC Penney for sponsoring Ellen DeGeneres’ lezbo-riffic TV program, Howard Stern has announced he will “defend her to the end” and will call on all his listeners to boycott JC Penney if they do drop Ellen.  That’s awesome. [Think Progress] Keep reading »

Valentine’s Day Fail: Stalker Cards

Skipping V-Day?
Here are some ways to avoid the holiday altogether. Read More »
Pretty Pink Makeup
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Winona is pretty in pink for Valentine's Day. Read More »
V-Day Survival Guide
For all your Valentine's Day needs. Read More »
Stop Hating V-Day
How one woman stopped hating Valentine's Day. Read More »
Valentine's Day stalker card photo

Sorry to be the wet blanket, everyone. But Valentine’s Day cards that joke about stalkers? Not really funny. There’s a bunch of stalker cards like this one for sale on Zazzle.com, including a particularly disturbing one that says “Be Mine” spelled out in blood above a heart made out of a razor blade. I have a pretty irreverent sense of humor, but I don’t see any humor in joking about violence. Stalking is creepy and scary to people who actually live through it. There’s better ways to be funny if you want to fly your freak flag this Valentine’s Day. [Zazzle.com

Chelsea Handler Talks About Her Abortion At Age 16

Chelsea's Abortion
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Chelsea Handler had an abortion at 16. Read More »
Childless By Choice
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Chelsea Handler and Gloria Stienem don't want kids. Read More »
"Grey's Anatomy" Abortion
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Christina Yang has an abortion on "Grey's Anatomy." Read More »
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Chelsea Handler has never hidden the fact she became pregnant at age 16 and had an abortion. But this is the first I’ve heard her describe the circumstances in more detail, like how it was her parents who encouraged her against becoming a teen mom. “They were, like, you’re getting an abortion,” Chelsea told Rosie O’Donnell on “The Rosie Show.” “I was trying to argue with them and they said, ‘you don’t understand, you’re throwing your entire life away, you’re not having a child right now, this is not what our family is about. You’re supposed to create a life for yourself. You’re supposed to enjoy your life and create a life for yourself. You’re not supposed to be raising a child and we’re certainly not going to raise it for you.’” Keep reading »

Washington State Passes Gay Marriage Bill

Yay For Starbucks
Starbucks has come out in support of gay marriage. Read More »
Celebs On Gay Marriage
These couples won't marry until it's legal for everyone. Read More »
Santorum on Lesbians
Today's Lady News
Says being a lesbian is a "choice." Read More »
Bigots "Lost" Gay Marriage
Bigots admit they've lost the gay marriage battle in our generation. Read More »
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Washington state’s House of Representatives voted yesterday to legalize same-sex marriage, which will make Washington the seventh state in the country to allow lesbians and gays to marry their partners.  Gay marriage is already legal in New York, Washington, D.C., Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, Iowa, and New Hampshire. Both Starbucks and Microsoft, which are based out of Washington, supported the bill and Starbucks even sent a letter to their 150,000 employees asking them to support gay marriage. Governor Chris Gregoire has vowed to sign the legislation into law next week and it will go into effect 90 days later, which will be in June. Keep reading »

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