Katy Perry told Ellen DeGeneres that her tour documentary “Part Of Me” is going to include the dissolution of her marriage from husband-of-14-months Russell Brand ”in the most tasteful way.” Katy said she’s commited to “breaking down the idea that to achieve your dream you always have to be perfect or flawless or live in some kind of fantasy world … we know we’re not perfect at all.” Half of me is thinking, Katy, girl, opening up the world to your breakup is not a good idea. But the other half of me appreciates Katy’s desire not to whitewash her life and sanitize it beyond PR-approved recognition. You know? [Guardian UK]
“I think that we have parents that we have to answer to [in the South]. My mother would die if she found out that I treated someone rudely. … When I was down there, I was wearing a dress, I got it at Goodwill or something. And she was like, “Shouldn’t you wear a slip under that?” I was like, “I wasn’t going to.” And she was like, [makes a disproving noise]. I was like, “Does it make you uncomfortable?” And she was like, “I think you should wear a slip under that.” Can you see my underwear? “Well, no, but it doesn’t have a lining.” [laughs] I was like, “Oh yeah! That’s real here,” you know what I mean? Those are still real concerns of the Southern culture.”
– Gossip’s Beth Ditto talks to The Village Voice about being from the South (she’s “related to half of Arkansas,” she jokes) and touches on ideas about Southern charm and womanhood. It’s funny to me that Beth Ditto, of all people, may have been raised with these ideas about stereotypical femininity, because the reason that everyone loves her is that she’s all, like, “Yeah, I’m 300 lbs and wearing purple lipstick with mint green eyeshadow, you wanna make something of it?!” Then again, we could all use a friendly reminder that people don’t fit into boxes. [Village Voice]
Catherine Furey, 38, of the UK, died in December 2010 after drinking concentrated vinegar, a DIY abortion she read about on the Internet. Furey had a “violent reaction” to the vinegar, was rushed to the hospital and died.
The details of her death have only now come out in relation to a trial against Furey’s sister-in-law, Dawn Chadwick, who handed Furey the vinegar bottle. Arrested in 2011, Chadwick was later charged with “unlawfully supplying a poisonous or noxious substance with the intent to cause the miscarriage of a woman.” The charge was later upgraded to manslaughter, but she was eventually cleared of wrongdoing. The families of the two women, through their lawyers, have issued statements saying they do not blame the sister-in-law for Catherine Furey’s death. Keep reading »
Book deals that result from blogs usually suck, right? But the exception to that rule will have to be Feminist Ryan Gosling: Feminist Theory From Your Favorite Sensitive Movie Dude. We all know and love Tumblr blogger Danielle Henderson’s lusty pics of Ryan with commentary like “Hey girl, don’t be sad about advertising pushing an unrealistic body ideal on you.” But now we can know and love Feminist Ryan Gosling on our coffee table. The (unauthorized) book comes out this August, but you can pre-order on Amazon now. Hmm, now I know what a certain certifiable Gosling lunatic is getting for Christmas. [Um, I'm not waiting until December. -- Editor] [$7.31, Amazon.com]
On Friday night, I had an online date that really fizzled. Everything was going just fine over chips and guac until he majorly stuck his foot in his mouth. He started talking about his ex-girlfriends (always a red flag!) and mentioned that several were depressed. He ended up giving much more than he got back in these relationships, he said. Women with depression are way too needy. He won’t date one again.
Well then, I thought to myself. I guess we should just get the check! I tried to be polite about what he was telling me. I suggested perhaps women with depression are attractive to him in some way, seeing how the pattern has repeated itself many times. I said that people with mental illness need to take care of themselves first, not be taken care of by anyone else, and maybe he might want to look into why he dates women who turn out to be “needy.” And then when I shared with him that I, actually, have had depression for years, he got very uncomfortable and embarrassed. Keep reading »