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Guy Talk: Why Cougars Are Better Than Silver Foxes

Hugo’s piece was originally published at the Good Men Project Magazine.

Both at the Good Men Project and at my own blog, my most popular posts in terms…

Hugo Schwyzer | November 7, 2011 - 1:00 pm

Guy Talk: Why Does It Matter How Many Partners She’s Had?

This piece originally appeared on The Frisky and The Good Men Project in February, but is being republished on both sites as the film “What’s Your Number?” hits theaters nationwide.

Hugo Schwyzer | October 5, 2011 - 11:00 am

Guy Talk: Learning To Be A Husband, Not A Son

Not so long ago, my wife and I were talking to a recently-divorced friend of ours. She’s younger than we are, in her early thirties, and as far as she’s…

Hugo Schwyzer | September 6, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: What’s The Difference Between Privacy And Secrecy?

Last week’s discussion about guys, porn, and honesty raised a number of interesting questions. How much truth do we owe our partners about what we do when they’re not around…

Hugo Schwyzer | July 28, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: Lust Doesn’t Have To Ruin A Platonic Friendship

There are few more famous snippets of film dialogue than this exchange from the 1989 Blly Crystal and Meg Ryan classic, “When Harry Met Sally”:
Harry: You realize of…

Hugo Schwyzer | July 5, 2011 - 1:00 pm

Guy Talk: Dads, Hug Your Daughters

“I was always daddy’s little girl. We did everything together. He was my hero. My father was always there with a hug for me; when I was little, he let…

Hugo Schwyzer | June 15, 2011 - 3:00 pm

Guy Talk: Can Male Masturbators Catch A Break?

Male masturbators can’t seem to catch a break. Despite the assumption that every guy has masturbated, is masturbating, or will masturbate, self-pleasure has been getting a bad rap for 3000…

Hugo Schwyzer | May 16, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: Mythbusting Bisexual Men

“You’re either gay, straight, or lying.”

I first heard that oft-repeated phrase when I was an 18-year-old freshman at UC Berkeley. I was at my first meeting of the…

Hugo Schwyzer | May 11, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: How To Check Out Women

It’s been over 30 years, but I still remember the day Jenny Talbot caught me staring at her boobs.

Jenny and I sat next to each other in a…

Hugo Schwyzer | April 28, 2011 - 1:00 pm

Guy Talk: If You’re Married, Wear Your Wedding Ring

With the royal wedding between Prince William and Kate Middleton just over two weeks away, Buckingham Palace is letting out daily updates of the impending nuptials. Few bits of news…

Hugo Schwyzer | April 13, 2011 - 12:00 pm

Guy Talk: The Man Repeller Isn’t About Men

I don’t know that a formal survey’s been done, but I think it’s safe to say that in the eyes of most straight men in America, turbans on a women’s…

Hugo Schwyzer | April 8, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: Is It Natural For Older Guys To Lust After Young Women?

In my office, Amber is telling me a familiar story. She’s come to talk about her autobiography paper for my women’s studies class, and she reads part of her rough…

Hugo Schwyzer | March 31, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: Ladies, We’d Prefer You Didn’t Fake It

I read a blog post earlier this month that sounded a familiar refrain: Are single women too independent for their own good? Women’s magazines ask that question, men’s magazines ask…

Hugo Schwyzer | March 24, 2011 - 1:00 pm

Guy Talk: The Blessings Of Erectile Dysfunction

If you’ve turned on a TV since 1998, you know how obsessed we are with hard-ons. Since the little blue pill appeared more than a dozen years ago, countless imitators…

Hugo Schwyzer | March 17, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: How Men’s Rights Activists Get Feminism Wrong

When I was getting clean and sober in a Twelve Step program many years ago, there was one phrase from the literature that always resonated with me. We addicts have…

Hugo Schwyzer | March 10, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Guy Talk: What’s Wrong With Men’s Bodies?

Like countless American children, I grew up hearing the nursery rhyme that claimed that little boys were made of “snips and snails and puppy-dog tails” while girls were “sugar and…

Hugo Schwyzer | March 4, 2011 - 2:00 pm

Why Don’t Men Settle Down?

Last week, Jennifer Doll offered a familiar lament in the pages of the Village Voice: “Dear Single Women of NYC: It’s Not Them, It’s You.” Though her focus is on…

Hugo Schwyzer | February 17, 2011 - 5:00 pm