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How To Negotiate: 12 Steps To Negotiate A Zillion Times Better And Get What You Want

I wasn’t always good at negotiating. As a writer, I was usually just delighted to be getting paid anything at all, so if I was told a freelance rate or a starting salary was standard or set in stone, I took it and I liked it, with the kind of deranged enthusiasm that you only…

Diana Vilibert / June 14, 2012

5 Ways To Screw Up The First Date Before It Happens

You meet online. You have the same favorite book and it’s not The Fountainhead. You exchange emails multiple times a day and bond over your mutual love of cats, Frasier, and pretending you like to spend Sunday in bed with the New York Times crossword puzzle. It’s meant to be! The first date is around the corner. You’re bringing…

Diana Vilibert / May 25, 2012

6 Signs Your Date Is Interviewing You For Marriage

Is it a date or an interview for a lifetime together? Here are six ways to tell.

Diana Vilibert / May 22, 2012

4 Things To Remember If You Never Hear From Them Again

The third date was perfect. You laughed, you flirted, your hands grazed as you both reached for the cheesiest nacho.

Eight days later — nothing. They haven’t called or answered your text(s). You’ve been checking their Facebook profile so sadly you’re sure they were not a victim of a tragic accident en route…

Diana Vilibert / May 21, 2012

Cheers, William And Kate: The Royal Wedding Punch Recipe

Whether you’re throwing a viewing party — and following The Frisky’s liveblog — complete with cucumber sandwiches and tiaras or opting out of the Royal Wedding celebration, it’s almost impossible to avoid getting caught up in the nuptials happening across the pond. So give in and enjoy like the Brits do—with a nice cold drink.

Diana Vilibert / April 28, 2011

What His Gift Really Says: Holiday Presents Decoded

When a commitment-phobe I had been dating for two months excitedly told me he had a present for me — “you’ll love it,” he assured me — I prepared myself for a thoughtful, romantic gesture of his relationship readiness. But when I walked into his bedroom, he instead pointed at a Starbucks iced coffee o…

Diana Vilibert / December 22, 2010

Frisky Rant: Pay Off Your Own Debt!

I graduated from college two years ago with $115,000 in student loans. I’m paying them off a little at a time, and when I need a reason to drink, I like to play with loan payoff calculators online, which tell me that, if my monthly payments stay as they are, I should be done i…

Diana Vilibert / October 27, 2010

Quiz: What’s Your Fitness Style?

Do your friends marvel at your discipline to be at the gym EVERY morning at 6 a.m.? Or is your favorite exercise move texting? (C’mon it has to burn some calories, right?) Maybe you’ve become addicted to fitness gizmos ever since you tried out your mom’s Thighmaster in the 8th grade … or you’re nursing…

Diana Vilibert / June 15, 2010

What’s Your Dealbreaker?

I’ve written about a few dating dealbreakers I’ve encountered — the virgin; bad sex; the dumb guy — and my friends and Frisky commenters are always quick to jump in with their own list of turnoffs that will make a guy undateable.

We hate their below-the-belt grooming (or lack thereof), their obsession with…

Diana Vilibert / May 24, 2010

7 Online Dating Red Flags to Avoid

Dater, beware: steer clear of these tell-tale online dating profile warning signs.

Diana Vilibert / May 4, 2010

Girl Talk: Is Bad First-Time Nookie A Dealbreaker?

“I think you’re great,” I told him over martinis on our third date, “but I just don’t think we’re compatible.” Mike was smart, interesting, and nice … too nice when we slept together for the first time earlier that week. There had been no throwdown, no frantic disrobing, no moaning loud enough to wake the…

Diana Vilibert / April 20, 2010

First Time For Everything: Swinging

When I first set out to write about swinging for an article about the lifestyle, the last thing I expected was to find myself nodding when a slim, curly-haired brunette asks if she may take off my panties. It’s a windy Friday night and I’m in a cozy, apartment-style swing club in Midtown Manhattan, my…

Diana Vilibert / September 3, 2009

Swing Clubs: The Rules

If you’re thinking of taking a swing at it, being prepared is key if you don’t want your first time at a sex club to be your last.

Establish Ground Rules. Before stepping foot in a club — especially if you’re going with a significant other — know your limits. A few week…

Diana Vilibert / March 6, 2009

First Date Essentials: What To Bring, And What To Leave At Home

You’ve got your favorite lip gloss, mints, and enough money to cover your share of dinner, but are there first-date essentials you’re forgetting to bring — or forgetting to leave at home? Learn from my mistakes and make sure these things are on your first-date checklist.

Diana Vilibert / January 9, 2009

Dealbreaker: The Dumb Guy

I noticed Bob before he noticed me. He looked like the kind of guy you have sex with in barroom bathrooms and the backseats of cars. When he said “Hey” as I brushed past him in the Cold & Sinus aisle of Walgreen’s, I hesitated. I knew that “Hey.” It was the cocky “Hey” of…

Diana Vilibert / December 22, 2008

Dealbreaker: The 26-Year-Old Virgin

It was our first date and we talked for 10 hours straight before Jeff kissed me, shaking as he leaned in. He didn’t have to lean far — I had given him nowhere else to go when I pinned him against a chain-link fence outside the coffee shop where we had stopped to refuel. Despite…

Diana Vilibert / November 24, 2008