Dan Solomon

The Soapbox: Why Men Need Abortion As Much As Women Do

Liberal guys like me are often kind of squeamish when it comes to talking about abortion. I mean, we support it. We describe ourselves as pro-choice. We share the ridiculous things that asshole Republicans say on Facebook. (Did you hear the one about the masturbating fetus…?) If we’re straight, and we maybe decide…
By: Dan Solomon / June 19, 2013

The Soapbox: What Do Rape Jokes Make Rapists Think?

The Internet Rape Joke Wars have been waged, on and off, since at least last year, when comedian Daniel Tosh responded to a woman who had challenged him during his set about the number of rape jokes he wa…
By: Dan Solomon / June 3, 2013

Guy Talk: On Being A Dude In A Sexist Society

Late last month, in the midst of several recent and prominent examples in the steady stream of stories about the challenges that women in the tech industry face, Complex.com published its list of "The 40 Hottest Women In Tech." Tone deaf move, fellas! People were understandably…
By: Dan Solomon / April 4, 2013

Guy Talk: Men Don’t Want To Have Sex All The Time

Here is a confession: I am a dude, and sometimes I don’t want to have sex. For good reasons, or no reasons at all. It just depends. I know that’s not actually shocking, but bear with me here, because that is somehow still a radical thing to admit. It’s still the default assumption about men,…
By: Dan Solomon / January 24, 2013

Guy Talk: Why A Straight Man Like Me Cares About Transgender Rights

Over the weekend, the UK's Observer published an editorial about transgender people that crossed a bunch of lines. It’s not really worth repeating the things that the author wrote, but they included the sort of slurs that, if used against, say, black people or women, would make your eyes pop out. The Observer ha…
By: Dan Solomon / January 18, 2013

Guy Talk: What Dudes Need To Know About The “Friendzone”

Let’s talk for a minute about the “friendzone.” Don’t worry, fellas, this isn’t a lecture. It’s an advice column, because there is something you deserve to know: There is a very simple, nigh-foolproof way to avoid ending up in the situation that that exceptionally loaded word describes. And I will tell you what it is.
By: Dan Solomon / January 3, 2013

The Soapbox: On Proving Masculinity

Hello from out here in Man Card America, where proving your masculinity to the dude-friends who are vigilantly looking to revoke your "Man Card" if you get caught engaging in unmanly activities like being scared, doing what your girlfriend wants to do sometimes, enjoying a song by a woman, or drinking the wrong kind of…
By: Dan Solomon / December 21, 2012