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Life After Dating: Sorry, But Sometimes I Just Want A Man To Take Care Of Me

Life After Dating: Sorry, But Sometimes I Just Want A Man To Take Care Of Me

Growing up, I saw singledom as the “default” way to live. My first impression of my (divorced) parents were as singles, and they were carrying on just fine, so I figured that was just the way things were. I managed to remain pretty oblivious to the society-wide pressure to marry longer than most kids, and while a partner sounded nice, I never thought I needed one growing up or planned my future with a someday husband in mind. I reasoned that I could never plan for something so volatile as love, and always thought of myself as something of a free agent in the world, unlike many of my peers, who went through high school and college counting the days until they found a nice young guy with top-dollar earning potential so that their “real life” could start. Other people, potential partners included, seemed like such wildcards — who knew whether they’d show up for me or when? I expected to only be able to count on myself. On paper, this sounds pretty bitter, but it wasn’t that way at all — it was just how I saw life, and rarely gave it a second thought. If I had thought about it more at the time, I’d have seen it as empowering, if anything. As I got older, though, my mind felt lagged and overtaxed as it constantly ran over and prepared for every task and potential problem each day would hold. I had to check and double check my own logic, because I made nobody else privy to my day-to-day stresses, and as a result, nobody else was going to make sure I stayed on top of things. I started to feel the mental and physical toll of counting on nobody but myself.

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5 Things To Know About The 7,000 Yazidi Women Being Held As Sex Slaves By ISIS

Militants from ISIS, a.k.a. the Islamic State/ISIL (or whatever else you’d like to name the terrorist group that’s been wreaking havoc on Middle Eastern society and by proxy, much of the rest of the world), has kidnapped close to 7,000 Yazidi women and children within the past two months to be kept as slaves and forced into marriages with strangers. Many of those who were kidnapped saw their husbands, fathers and other male relatives murdered before their eyes. The victims, members of the Kurdish Yazidi religious group (which ISIS has heavily targeted), are from the Sinjar region of northern Iraq, an area that’s now been overtaken by the terrorist group. Here are five things to know about the nightmarish kidnappings. Keep reading »

Bruce Jenner Is Dating His Ex-Wife’s BFF

  • Bruce Jenner is dating soon-to-be ex-wife Kris Jenner’s best friend and former assistant Ronda Kamihira. Bruce and Kris just filed for divorce last month after being separated for a year. Kendall and Kylie Jenner grew up hanging out with Kamihira’s kids, so this new relationship is bound to really awkward for the family. [People]
  • REM singer Michael Stipe is teaching art classes at NYU. [Neatorama]
  • An open letter to Jameis Winston. [YourTango]
  • Reasons to stay in this weekend (you know you want to)! [Bustle] Keep reading »

Frisky Eats: 15 Toasty Autumnal Cocktails To Celebrate The Season

Margaritas and shandies are great, but in mid-October they’re as rare as a warm sunny afternoon (with climate change, that isn’t that rare these days, but you get the picture). Fall brings with it the kind of booze you can curl up with to watch the leaves change or sip with your friends in cableknit sweaters. Click through for cocktails flavored with spice, apple, pumpkin and other sweet tastes to keep you cozy on fall days!

Woman Gets Groper Arrested By Posting His Picture On Twitter

Sexual Harassment

When Julia Marquand walked into a Seattle store, a man started following her a little too closely, making her suspicious. He then proceeded to reach out and touch her butt. She told him to leave her alone, and he apologized, but that didn’t make up for what he’d just done. Twenty minutes later, she spotted him nearby outside store, confronted him, and took his picture. She told Komo 4 News:

“I was yelling a little bit and there was some people walking by and a couple asked me if I was OK. It seemed like he was trying to do some damage control once he realized I took his photo and (he) was apologizing more and telling me not to take his picture.”

Marquand reported the harassment to police, but they weren’t interested in her photo. Despite having evidence, it seemed pretty clear that nobody was interested in taking action, so Marquand took it upon herself. She posted about the incident on Facebook and posted the guy’s picture on Twitter. Keep reading »

Watch “Private Violence” This Monday For An Eye-Opening Look At Domestic Abuse

Private Violence
Leaving Isn't Always Easy

New HBO documentary “Private Violence” follows the experiences of Deanna Walters, a mom who was beaten by her estranged husband until she was close to death, and Kit Gruelle, the survivors’ advocate who helps Walters fight for justice. Walters and Gruelle weave their way through a complicated legal system and Walters finds that the law is often stacked against abuse victims. Film director Cynthia Hill told the Huffington Post that she made the film to help people understand that leaving an abusive partner is not always a simple option.

“We don’t understand this issue as a society. We all think domestic violence is bad, but we tend to still push it behind closed doors — it makes us uncomfortable. When the lights come up and someone finishes watching this film, if they don’t ask why doesn’t she just leave,’ then I feel like I’ve done my job. That’s the first step of finding other, better questions to ask…When one person believes in you, it makes a powerful difference.”

The movie premieres on HBO Monday night at 9 p.m. Considering the disheartening public response to domestic violence struggles like the one between Ray Rice and Janay Palmer, this is the exact kind of film this country needs to see more of. [HuffPost]

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