Profile for Chiara Atik

The 8 Degrees Of Singlehood

Secret Single Behavior
The 20 things we're kind of ashamed that we do when we're alone. Read More »
Single & Lovin' It!
30 things we love about being solo. Read More »

“So … are you single?” It’s a question we expect people to have one of two answers to: Yes, or no. You’re either single or you’re not.

But what about all the various degrees of singlehood? Some single people I know haven’t been on a date in years; others are on a date every night; still others haven’t officially declared themselves paired off, but spend most of their free time with the same person. Where do you fall on the spectrum? Keep reading »

Oh Good, Someone Wrote A Classification Of Women Based On Ethnic Backgrounds

Sometimes I get worried that we’re progressing too quickly re: women’s rights and race in this country, so it was with some relief that I saw the press release for the Field Guide to Chicks of the United States, which apparently offers “amusing insights into the most distinctive physical characteristics, vocalizations, behavioral tendencies and mating habits of American Chicks from regional and ethnic subculture (or species) across the country.”

Ethnic subculture?! Species? Keep reading »

The Dangers Of Dating Someone You Feel “Meh” About

Be A Better Dater
Why having a plan is so, so important. Read More »
Dating Red Flags
guys
These red flags should send you running. Read More »
Dating Victim
I am not a dating victim -- and neither are you. Read More »

You know when your friend gets a boyfriend, and for whatever reason, you know it’s not a good idea and that it’s not going to work out? And you say “I dunno, I feel like it’s not a good idea, and that it’s not going to work out…” But your friend is stubborn, so obviously they go on dating the person anyway, despite all the signs that they shouldn’t, and then they have a fraught and complicated relationship that doesn’t even last that long, and after the inevitable break-up, you, the loyal friend, are forced to deal with sometimes years of emotional aftermath?

…reading this week’s Modern Love column in The New York Times was sort of like that. Keep reading »

What’s Your “Mad Men” Dating Style?

Dating Don Draper
Amelia dating a guy eerily similar to the "Mad Men" character. Read More »

We all like to think we’re a Don or a Joan, but which “Mad Men” character truly represents your dating style? In honor “Mad Men”‘s much-anticipated season five premiere this Sunday, we’ll help you find out… Keep reading »

Fifty Shades: The “Mommy Porn” Book That’s Sweeping The Suburbs

Degrees Of Singleness
Where do you fall on the spectrum? Read More »
Be A Better Dater
Why having a plan is so, so important. Read More »
Baldies Rule
Six reasons bald men make better boyfriends. Read More »

What are moms reading in the carpool lane these days? Well, it’s not The Help. It’s a new trilogy called Fifty Shades, it’s notorious for its sex scenes, and it seems like every mother with a blog account is raving about it…

“In case you’re wondering why every suburban housewife from Philadelphia to Connecticut has been sending all her calls straight to voice mail. Fifty. Freaking. Shades.” – Suburbabble

“I am not in the habit of reading erotica, but this trilogy makes it seem okay, even for Westchester county. ” – StaceyKnows

“There is life in this book, outside of the bedroom, and in fact, there are even tons of ‘vanilla moments’ to make the harder stuff go down easier for some of us who might be apprehensive with these kinds of ‘scenes’.” – Maryse.net

Even moms in NYC have caught the Fifty Shades bug. According to The New York Post:

“I found myself explaining what BDSM [bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism] was to some of the moms at Saturday morning basketball,” says power publicist Alison Brod, who hails “Fifty Shades” as “the new kabbalah for female bonding in this city.”

A raunchy book that mothers across the country can’t put down? This was too intriguing to pass up, so on Tuesday night I downloaded the book for myself (lord knows I wasn’t about to read a physical copy on the subway) for $7 on Amazon.com. Keep reading »

What’s In A One-Night Stand Gift Bag?

The New York Post is reporting that whenever Derek Jeter has a one-night stand, he keeps a car on call, ready to take the woman home, and stocks it with “a basket of signed memorabilia” to … remember him by?

I think I’d be horrified if I slept with someone and they sent me home with a basket of, like, signed baseball cards and a headshot. But, I mean, it depends on the giftbag, right?

If I had a one-night stand, and didn’t feel any particular attachment to the guy or have any interest in seeing him again, and he loaded me up with stuff for the ride home, well, I don’t know, I might be okay with that. For example, the perfect one-night stand giftbag would include… Keep reading »

15 Signs There’s Going To Be A Second Date

We aren’t psychic: there’s no absolute way to predict whether a first date will lead to a second. But if any of the following things happen on your date, the chances of seeing each other again are pretty good… Keep reading »

The 9 Most Annoying Things To Say To A Single Person

How To Wingwoman
If you're gonna do it, here's how to do it well. Read More »
Rant!
Why "put yourself out there" is the worst advice. Read More »
On The Other Hand...
This is why you're NOT single. Read More »

The good thing about being single is that people are usually pretty willing to talk about your romantic life, because, let’s face it, it’s probably more entertaining than that of your seriously coupled-up friends.

The bad news? Sometimes, people will want to talk about your love life regardless of whether or not you’re in the mood to talk about it. And they will have opinions. And questions. And if you’re single for long enough, a lot of these are gonna start sounding the same… Keep reading »

The 12 Men & Women Who Won’t Make You Happy

On The Rebound?
6 ways to tell from How About We's Date Report blog. Read More »
How To Keep A Man
According to the Fall TV lineup. Read More »
The New Facebook
How it could totally screw up your love life. Read More »

Ladies, if you ever start to date a guy who fits one of the descriptions in this slideshow, be wary: these six guys come with baggage. But wouldn’t you know it, women aren’t always gentler when it comes to relationship heartbreak, so we’ve thrown in six types of women who won’t make dudes happy either. We’ve got all your backs.

Vocab Lessons: What Is “Fat Sex”?

Have you ever experienced “fat sex”? Kirstie Alley has. The actress, who recently lost 100 pounds, admitted she didn’t exactly lose weight for health reasons.

“I didn’t like the way I looked, and I didn’t want to have fat sex!” She told People magazine in an interview.

Fat sex? Is that just sex between two fat people? Sex wherein one participant is fat? Or does “fat sex” describe the actual experience? Keep reading »