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Dealbreaker: I Didn’t Like Who I Was When I Was With Him

Caitlin AbberAugust 6, 2012 //
Dealbreaker: Dog
He brought a dog on the date. Read More »
FB Friend Dealbreakers
These Facebook infractions will get you unfriended. Read More »
Dealbreaker: No Dancing
He would not shake his groove thang. Read More »

When I started dating Tim, I thought he was interesting and creative, but I hated the fact that he smoked, and his apartment was always a mess. Nevertheless, we had fun on our dates and he was really attractive, so I continued to see him and figured I would play it by ear (hey, we’ve all been there, right?). The truth was I was at this point in my life where I just really wanted a boyfriend. I thought being in a relationship would make me happy, and give me something stable to count on as I was adjusting to living in a new city, having just started graduate school. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Why Working 24 Hours A Day Should Not Be A Badge Of Honor

Caitlin AbberJuly 6, 2012 //
Working With Women
Here's what Ami has learned from working with other women. Read More »
Be More Productive!
Here are nine surefire ways to make 2012 your most productive year yet! Read More »
Spruce Up Your Workspace
6 cheap, easy ways to improve your office. Read More »

I have been working in the tech start-up and digital advertising agency worlds for the past six years. These two worlds overlap in a few places—namely social media and the uncertainty of being able to pay their staff in six months. But there is another area where I have seen a commonality so real it has grown from a stereotype to an expectation: the notion that working, all the time—as in 24 hours a day, Christmas Eve and at your kid’s dance recital—is not only normal, but encouraged. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: He Didn’t Dance

Caitlin AbberMay 3, 2012 //
Dealbreaker
He didn't know how to groom. Read More »
Dating Dealbreaker
I wasn't Jewish enough. Read More »
He Told Me To Lose Weight
When he told me to lose weight, I got rid of him. Read More »

I met Brian*, on OKCupid. He was a handsome blonde with fantastic taste in clothes. Heliked to cook, had a stable, admirable job, and played the ukulele on the side. It was all very cute. And so was he.

I imagined myself dating him for a long time, setting up a little homestead and writing songs together that we would perform and post on YouTube. He thought I was adorable and liked the way I fluttered around his apartment, all energy and smiles. I appreciated his gentle, almost Koala-like nature. It seemed like I had finally, after months of fruitless internet dating, found someone who I could really be serious about. Keep reading »