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35 Brutally Honest Reasons Women Say No To Sex

You know how sometimes people say women say one thing but mean another? Well, that’s totally true. For women and men, but I can only really speak for women because I am one. One subject that is often difficult to be totally and completely upfront about is sex. And I mean whether you are a woman having sex with a new lover or sex with your husband of 3,987 years (or maybe it just feels that long). We kind of have a one size fits all phrase for when we don’t want to have sex. Perhaps you’ve heard it before? “I’m just not in the mood.”

Fair enough. Sometimes we just aren’t in the mood and it’s for no other reason than the thought of getting naked gives us a headache. (Headache, of course, is another common excuse and often very real.) But there are many times we aren’t in the mood for a reason. Maybe it’s something the man did, or something we did. So I took this topic to a whole bunch of women and asked for their responses on the real reason they say no to sex. Some may surprise you. Read more…

New Brazilian Blowout Labels Should Scare Us Into Loving Our Curly Hair

New legislation out of California today forces Brazilian blowout products to list their potentially hazardous materials on the label. It’s great news if you’re into staying away from hair products that contain possible carcinogens, bad news if you just want your hair silky and straight and prefer to be kept in the dark about what nasty things it could be doing to your health.

The new labels will inform users that formaldehyde gas is emitted during use, which has been proven in some cases to cause cancer. It’s not only unhealthy for women who use it on their own hair, but also for hairstylists who inhale the product when they use it on clients. Part of the settlement requires companies to hand out pamphlets to salons on how to stay safe while using the stuff.

OK. Can we just accept our curly hair already and stop using this junk? Read more…

Bad-Boy Club Drug Could Be The Answer To Depression

Wow, I never thought I’d see the day: Special K is about to get a makeover! Remember the drug’s sleazy clubbing days in the ’90s? The highly-addictive drug, called ketamine, started off as a humble animal tranquilizer but worked its ways into the hottest night spots, sending users into an ecstasy that made time stand still — or, more accurately, into a “dissociative anesthesia” that could lead to a psychotic breakdown.

But here’s the latest twist in ketamine’s history: It could revolutionize the way depression is treated. I’m not talking your garden-variety blues. This is for real, serious, deep, clinical depression. How could something so toxic for club kids be so helpful for people who are ill? Read more...

5 Most Common Relationship Fights And How To Avoid Them

Couples fight. We know this. Even the most functional couples have spats now and again. Relationship fights, they happen.

However, there are many relationship fights that happen that can be avoided. Because let’s face it — the more stress and fighting a relationship has, the less enjoyable it is.

Here are some common relationship fights and how to (hopefully) avoid them. Read more…

“Toddlers & Tiaras”‘ Moms Vs. Media: Who’s Sexualizing These Little Girls?

“Toddlers & Tiaras” pageant mom Susanna Barrett is mad. She’s just sick and tired of the way the media sexualizes little girls, and she’s not going to take it anymore! In fact, she’s launched a $30 million lawsuit against the Huffington Post, TMZ, and The Daily Mail for “brazenly” trying to sexualize her daughter, Isabella Barrett.

Yeah, take that, wicked, over-sexed media people! This sexualizing of innocent 5-year-old girls has got to stop! Just because little Isabella was caught on video singing along to the song “I’m Sexy and I Know It,” with a microphone, with mommy sitting right next to her … wait, something is very wrong with this picture, and I don’t think it has anything to do with TMZ, HuffPo, or the Daily Mail. Read more…

8 Signs It’s Time To Take A Break From Your Relationship

Taking a break is one of the most challenging, frustrating, and saddening parts of a relationship. No one wants to feel as though their relationship has failed or that they themselves have somehow failed. But sometimes, a break is necessary. Not only is it necessary, sometimes, it’s a good thing. Here are eight signs that it’s time to take a break from your current relationship.

1. You don’t talk anymore. Do you spend time talking — really talking — with your partner, or do you resort to talking about the weather (or other trivial stuff) only? When you’ve stopped really communicating, it’s time to take a break. Read more…

The “Bachelor” Women Need To Stop Forcing Love

If ABC’s “The Bachelor” teaches us anything about love (besides the fact that I am thrilled I was engaged and married before 25), it’s this: You can’t force love. From The Supremes we may have learned “You Can’t Hurry Love,” but “The Bachelor” has taught us something even more important.

The fact is, no matter how much you want to “open up” to someone or make them love you over the other girls, it’s never going to happen unless it’s there to begin with. There is a reason the “on paper” guy is bad everywhere else. And let’s face it: For most of the girls on the show, Ben Flajnik – and every Bachelor besides him — is merely good on paper.

It’s the annoying secret the sobbing girls in the limo always seem to forget. The fact is, not every guy is going to be a good match. Read more…

5 Things Never To Say To Women With Short Hair

When the ”shit people say” video meme veered from trying to make people laugh to trying to make boneheads with no tact shut up, I had to jump on board. My 6-foot-tall friend found one dedicated to the ridiculous things she’s heard countless times from people who can’t get over her height, and I’ve seen more than a few about race and ethnicity that make me shake with rage.

But all you video makers out there missed a group that hears plenty of comments from the peanut gallery – and none of them good! We are the ladies who rock a short haircut. And if you think you’ve got something funny to say to us, do yourself a favor. Don’t. Because you’ll probably find it lands right there on the list of things we’ve heard before — and never want to hear again. Read more…

Everything You Need To Know To Pick The Best Online Dating Site For You

In this day and age, it’s become increasingly popular to use online dating sites to find and meet potential mates. New dating sites seem to pop up all over the place, slowly expanding into all of the niche markets. But how does one go about choosing which dating site to use – especially if they cost money?

Here is what you need to know about popular online dating sites.

Match.com is one of the oldest online dating sites — having been in business for more than 15 years — and boasts that celebrities like Ricki Lake and Jenny McCarthy have used it. However, it’s got more than 20 million users, and is often known as “hookup.com” although their new dating guarantee (“find someone special in 6 months or get 6 months free”) is trying to revamp that image. The site is not free, and for an extra fee, you can pay for the Dr. Phil package, which offers dating dips and video modules. Read More …

Help Bring Breastfeeding Back To “Sesame Street”!

In order for breastfeeding to be seen as “normal” and natural, and not frowned upon in public, we clearly need to be doing more than what we are doing. The nurse-ins are wonderful, and extremely supportive for nursing moms, but to the general public may be seen as a big nuisance. Which is why I think it’s a good idea for older kids to see moms breastfeeding. No need to hide this natural act. Older kids don’t have to go to a bathroom to eat, why should babies?

I’ve always loved the clip of Buffy nursing Cody and explaining it to Big Bird on Sesame Street. Why did segments featuring babies eating from the breast go away? Not sure. Throughout the show’s history, there were numerous nursing moms on the show, but that stopped sometime during the ’90s. Thankfully mom Lani Michelle of the blog Boobie Time (love it!) has started a petition to get Elmo and friends to welcome some breastfeeding moms on their show. Great idea, Lani! We need to support this! Read more…

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