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Mommie Dearest: Let’s Talk About The Difference Between ‘Sex’ & ‘Gender’

Royal Baby's Sex
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Two blogs face off over the royal baby's sex and gender. Read More »
Camp For Boys
the you are you transgender boy camp
The "you are you" camp gives boys the chance to be girls. Read More »
Coy's Bathroom Victory
Trans 6-year-old Coy Mathis wins access to girls' bathroom. Read More »
difference between sex and gender

“So? What are you having?”

Throughout my pregnancy, that was the number one question I received, tied only with: “How are you feeling?” At first I was polite about it, telling folks that it was too early to tell, but that we weren’t finding out anyway until the birth. After I passed 20 weeks, I attempted to answer all the Nosy Nellies as diplomatically as I could. I said that we would be happy with either a boy or girl, as long as the baby was healthy. Yet as my belly expanded, my patience shrank and I found myself coming up with more creative ways to answer the increasingly frequent queries over “what” we were having. “Fingers crossed it’s not a kitten!” was one of my favorite go-to replies.

And, for those keeping track – no, we did not have a kitten, but rather a beautiful baby boy. Still, the questions kept coming. Since we didn’t know if we were having a boy or girl (and because, you know, colors are for everyone), my son wore a rainbow of onesies, which only seemed to confuse folks. Multiple times a day I would have people question why my son was wearing purple. Or pink. Or even yellow. I did not get the same stares or questions when he donned his blue, green or brown onesies. Our society, one that is heavily entrenched in traditional, stereotypical gender roles, seems to want to plug children into these boxes as quickly as possible — even before they’re born — and that can be both frustrating and confusing. Keep reading »

Real Talk: On Birth Control & Protecting Against Pregnancy, Part 2

Real Talk: Birth Control
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Part one of our Real Talk on real women's birth control options. Read More »
On Birth Control
This woman uses birth control for medical reasons. Read More »
Birth Control Myths
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Bigger boobs and weight gain are birth control myths. Read More »
real women talk about birth control

This week’s Real Talk focuses on birth control: what we use, why, and our thoughts on all the issues surrounding the way we keep our bodies pregnancy-free! The first half of our conversation about contraception ran yesterday.

The participants are:

  • Rose Fox is a book and magazine editor, event organizer, and activist. You can find them on Twitter, LiveJournal, Dreamwidth, and many other social media platforms as ‘rosefox’.
  • Carrie Murphy is a poet, freelance writer, and birth doula. She tweets @carriemurph.
  • Patricia Valoy is a civil engineer, writer for Everyday Feminism, and host for Let Your Voice Be Heard! Radio. You can find her on Twitter or read her blog on feminist issues from the perspective of a Latina. Keep reading »

Real Talk: On Birth Control & Protecting Against Pregnancy, Part 1

I Got An IUD
A first hand account of getting an IUD. Read More »
I Have A Nuva Ring
A guy found my Nuva Ring ... inside of me. Read More »
Permanent Birth Control
Your arguments against our permanent birth control are BS. Read More »
real women talk about birth control

This week’s Real Talk focuses on birth control: what we use, why, and our thoughts on all the issues surrounding the way we keep our bodies pregnancy-free! The second half of our conversation about contraception will run tomorrow.

The participants are:

  • Rose Fox is a book and magazine editor, event organizer, and activist. You can find them on Twitter, LiveJournal, Dreamwidth, and many other social media platforms as ‘rosefox’.
  • Carrie Murphy is a poet, freelance writer, and birth doula. She tweets @carriemurph.
  • Patricia Valoy is a civil engineer, writer for Everyday Feminism, and host for Let Your Voice Be Heard! Radio. You can find her on Twitter or read her blog on feminist issues from the perspective of a Latina. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Royal Poops And All

It's A Boy!
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Kate Middleton and Prince William have welcomed a baby boy. Read More »
Give Kate Space
Stop getting all up in a pregnant woman's business, y'all. Read More »
Frisky Parenting!
twins
All the posts The Frisky has ever done about parenting! Read More »

If the last nine months have taught us anything, it’s that Royal Baby Fever is a real thing. Princess Kate has most likely amassed more headlines than any other woman when it comes to her pregnancy. And, with the Royal Baby having finally descended upon us, I have a feeling that the royal family will not be out of the spotlight anytime soon. It seems as if everyone has a stake in this baby.

In fact, many people have already doled out copious amounts of advice to Princess Kate, from Snooki to baseball player David Ortiz. Many websites and morning shows have also chimed in with their own cutesy bits of mothering advice for Kate. And, that’s sweet in all, but in reality, it’s all just show for us. None of this — and I hate to burst your bubble — will actually impact Kate or Will when it comes to their new baby boy. Keep reading »

Real Talk: Mothers Of Sons Respond To The George Zimmerman Verdict, Part 3

This Is Shameful
This Is What's Shameful
Amelia's response to the Trayvon Martin verdict. Read More »
Juror B37 Reacts
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Juror B37 thinks George Zimmerman's "heart was in the right place." Read More »
Racial Politics
racism trayvon martin
Racial politics in America need a good, hard look. Read More »
trayvon martin

In the wake of George Zimmerman’s not guilty verdict this past weekend, I wanted to gather a group of parents to discuss the jury decision as well as the larger impact of Trayvon Martin’s murder. I especially wanted to hear from fellow mothers of boys, in hopes of fostering dialogue about how we as mothers can move forward given what happened. I gathered an incredible group of women and over the next couple of days, I welcome you to read our conversation. Part one of our conversation ran on Wednesdaypart two ran yesterday, and this piece is the conclusion.

The participants:

  • Jamila Bey hosts the radio program, “The Sex Politics And Religion Hour: SPAR with Jamila.” The show can be heard in NYC, DC, Miami and Chicago and online. Find her on Twitter.
  • Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser is a writer living in Western Massachusetts. Find her on Twitter.
  • Carolyn Edgar is a lawyer, writer and single mother of two who publishes the blog CarolynEdgar.com. Her work has been featured in a variety of outlets, including Huffington Post and CNN.com. Follow her on Twitter.
  • Denene Millner is a New York Times-bestselling author of 21 books and the founder and editor of MyBrownBaby.com, a blog that measures the intersection parenting and race.
  • Shay Stewart-Bouley is a non-profit administrator, freelance columnist who writes on issues relating to diversity for the Portland Phoenix, and blogger at BlackGirlInMaine.com where she muses on race, motherhood and middle age.

Read on, after the jump: Keep reading »

Real Talk: Mothers Of Sons Respond To The George Zimmerman Verdict, Part 2

Racial Politics
racism trayvon martin
Racial politics in America need a good, hard look. Read More »
Rachel Jeantel Speaks Out
Rachel Jeantel on CNN witness for Trayvon Martin murder
She remembers her friend Trayvon Martin on Piers Morgan Live. Read More »
8 Positive Actions
trayvon martin case
... you can take in the wake of the Trayvon Martin verdict. Read More »
trayvon martin

In the wake of George Zimmerman’s not guilty verdict this past weekend, I wanted to gather a group of parents to discuss the jury decision as well as the larger impact of Trayvon Martin’s murder. I especially wanted to hear from fellow mothers of boys, in hopes of fostering dialogue about how we as mothers can move forward given what happened. I gathered an incredible group of women and over the next couple of days, I welcome you to read our conversation. Part one of our conversation ran yesterday and the conclusion will run tomorrow.

The participants:

  • Jamila Bey hosts the radio program, “The Sex Politics And Religion Hour: SPAR with Jamila.” The show can be heard in NYC, DC, Miami and Chicago and online. Find her on Twitter.
  • Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser is a writer living in Western Massachusetts. Find her on Twitter.
  • Carolyn Edgar is a lawyer, writer and single mother of two who publishes the blog CarolynEdgar.com. Her work has been featured in a variety of outlets, including Huffington Post and CNN.com. Follow her on Twitter.
  • Denene Millner is a New York Times-bestselling author of 21 books and the founder and editor of MyBrownBaby.com, a blog that measures the intersection parenting and race.
  • Shay Stewart-Bouley is a non-profit administrator, freelance columnist who writes on issues relating to diversity for the Portland Phoenix, and blogger at BlackGirlInMaine.com where she muses on race, motherhood and middle age.

Read on, after the jump: Keep reading »

Real Talk: Mothers Of Sons Respond To The George Zimmerman Verdict, Part 1

Racial Politics
racism trayvon martin
Racial politics in America need a good, hard look. Read More »
This Is Shameful
This Is What's Shameful
Amelia's response to the Trayvon Martin verdict. Read More »
Frisky Parenting!
twins
All the posts The Frisky has ever done about parenting! Read More »
Real Talk: Mothers Of Sons Respond To The George Zimmerman Verdict, Part 1

In the wake of George Zimmerman’s not guilty verdict this past weekend, I wanted to gather a group of parents to discuss the jury decision as well as the larger impact of Trayvon Martin’s murder. I especially wanted to hear from fellow mothers of boys, in hopes of fostering dialogue about how we as mothers can move forward given what happened. I gathered an incredible group of women and over the next couple of days, I welcome you to read our conversation.

The participants:

  • Jamila Bey hosts the radio program, “The Sex Politics And Religion Hour: SPAR with Jamila.” The show can be heard in NYC, DC, Miami and Chicago and online. Find her on Twitter.
  • Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser is a writer living in Western Massachusetts. Find her on Twitter.
  • Carolyn Edgar is a lawyer, writer and single mother of two who publishes the blog CarolynEdgar.com. Her work has been featured in a variety of outlets, including Huffington Post and CNN.com. Follow her on Twitter.
  • Denene Millner is a New York Times-bestselling author of 21 books and the founder and editor of MyBrownBaby.com, a blog that measures the intersection parenting and race.
  • Shay Stewart-Bouley is a non-profit administrator, freelance columnist who writes on issues relating to diversity for the Portland Phoenix, and blogger at BlackGirlInMaine.com where she muses on race, motherhood and middle age.

Read on, after the jump: Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Why Is Maternity Care So Darn Expensive?

Moms Are 2nd Class
Why are we treating moms like second class citizens? Read More »
DRC Is Worst
children in congo
The Democratic Republic of Congo is the worst place on Earth for moms. Read More »
Best Places For Moms
The United States is waaay down on the list. Read More »
Mommie Dearest: Why Is Maternity Care So Darn Expensive?

Apparently, when it comes to maternity care costs in this country, I lucked out big time. Seven years ago, when I found myself pregnant for the first time, I had just switched from my own insurance to my husband’s much better one, and had only one, $25 co-payment for the entirety of my pregnancy — including the delivery. That’s it. Twenty-five dollars got me multiple visits with my midwife and a hospital birth (albeit a short one — I was in and out of the hospital in 10 hours, my choice).

Yet, my experience is certainly not the norm when it comes to maternity care costs in this country. The New York Times recently looked into why the U.S. has the most expensive maternity care in the world … despite not necessarily being at the top when it comes to quality of care. The facts are both absolutely terrifying and downright maddening. According to the Times article, prenatal and delivery charges can cost upwards of $50,000, depending on whether the mom-to-be has insurance or needs a C-section. Even for those with insurance, there is still the possibility of a costly birth, especially if your policy does not include maternity care coverage. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: TX State Senator Wendy Davis Shows That For Teen Moms, Anything Is Possible

SB5: What You Need To Know
Texas Abortion
Texas' anti-abortion bills and the backlash against them! Read More »
Wendy Davis, Hero
Wendy Davis Filibuster
Watch her filibuster on behalf of women's health. Read More »
TX GOP Attacks
Governor Rick Perry now plans a special session on July 1 to vote. Read More »
Wendy Davis was a teen mom

What do you think about when you hear “teen mom?” Perhaps you think about someone who was arrested for heroin recently, or maybe about someone else who came out with a sex tape (aka made a pornographic movie) with James Deen. Maybe your thoughts immediately went to shameful ad campaigns by Candie’s or New York City on preventing teen pregnancy. You might not have thought, however, about Texas State Senator Wendy Davis, who prepared an epic 13-hour filibuster on Tuesday in hopes of blocking SB 5 — a bill in front of the Texas State House that would not only ban all abortions after 20 weeks, but would also close 37 of the state’s 42 clinics, making abortion access in Texas virtually null.

But Sen. Wendy Davis is both a badass reproductive justice warrior and teen mother. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: On Having An Only Child

It Takes A Village
mom and kids
Stop the mommy message board hate. Read More »
Mommy Wars Ceasefire
I want a ceasefire on the mommy wars, because it helps no one. Read More »
Mom Vs. Dad
Which parent takes the lead when parenting? Read More »
Jessica Valenti Q&A
The author of "Why Have Kids" explores parenting and happiness. Read More »
only child

When I first read a review of Lauren Sandler’s new book, One and Only: The Freedom Of Having An Only Child And The Joy Of Being One , I was hopeful. As the mother of an only child (and with no plans at all to have any more children), I’ve had my fair share of judgement from others. I’ve been told I’m selfish, that I’ll live to regret this decision, that my child will grow up lonely, that he’ll end up resenting me and his father for not giving him any siblings, that he’ll feel burdened when it comes time to care for us in old age. The list goes on and on. I’ve heard variations on these remarks from family, people I know well, and complete strangers.

Trust me, this wasn’t a decision we came to lightly and it’s one that is constantly on my mind. In fact – shameless self promotional plug – my essay in my upcoming anthology about the myth of the “good mother” deals specifically with this topic and is titled “Yes. I Am That Selfish.” So to read about a book that thoughtfully takes on the notion of having one child — and debunks many of the myths commonly associated with it — felt a bit liberating. Keep reading »

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