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Girl Talk: I’ve Started Disclosing My Rape On The First Date

Nearly four years ago, while I was on a third date with a man, I was raped. For a long time, I wouldn’t have been able to write that sentence. I would have equivocated. I would have quickly followed it up with minimizers like, “I was drunk.” Or, “I’m OK. It wasn’t violent.”…

Anonymous / March 21, 2013

Dealbreaker: His Penis Made Me Cry

At the tender age of 19, I had only seen a total of four penises: the guy who got into my bed naked after a rave in high school; my boyfriend who I lost my virginity to senior year; the balding dorm mate who I gave an unfortunate blow job to while a James Bond…

Anonymous / March 19, 2013

Girl Talk: Confessions Of A Nude Model

The flash went off with a “pop” and the photographer patiently told me to loosen up. My hands were sweaty and my heart was beating a mile a minute. Trying my best to concentrate, I twisted into an elegant pose and took a deep breath to soften my expression. The resulting photograph was beautiful but…

Anonymous / March 8, 2013

First Time For Everything: Using A Vibrating C**k Ring

The other weekend I was at brunch with some friends and the topic of our conversation was cock rings. Not your average brunch convo, but a lively one nonetheless.

“If you haven’t already, you girls have to get a vibrating cock ring. It changed everything.”

I know, this sounds like one…

Anonymous / March 7, 2013

The Soapbox: I’m A Mom Who Smokes Pot

“So, this is kind of a random question…”

I nodded my head at the man across from me. I was in the kitchen of a fellow parent from my child’s school. I had come to pick my son up from a playdate, and found myself hanging around making small talk while the kid…

Anonymous / February 6, 2013

Girl Talk: How One Asian-American Woman Defied Tradition by Pursuing Her Orgasm

At the age of three, I already didn’t want to be a girl. I saw from watching my mom what it was like to be a grown-up girl and it didn’t look good. Here are the few memories from childhood that I hadn’t managed to suppress:

We came home once to find our…

Anonymous / January 10, 2013

Girl Talk: Why I Stalk His Twitter Feed

I’m not the type of woman to Internet stalk. When I break up with someone, I immediately hide them from my Facebook newsfeed, unfollow them on Instagram and remove them from my Gchat friend list. I feel strongly about this because I know that continuing to follow someone on social media who I have feeling…

Anonymous / December 17, 2012

On Men As Victims Of Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

Last week an anonymous prosecutor who has prosecuted a domestic violence caseload explained to us, from her professional point of view, how we should respond when we have friends or family members in abusive relationships. Some of the comments objected to her use  of the pronoun “he” as the aggressor and “she” as the victim.

Anonymous / December 6, 2012

True Story: Everything You Need To Know About Domestic Violence — From A Prosecutor

Two weeks ago, I wrote an essay about how I witnessed a man committing domestic violence against a woman outside my apartment. I received many incredible emails from readers, including one from a prosecutor who has previously had a DV caseload. She advised me to contact my local precinct and give a statement about what

Anonymous / November 29, 2012

The Soapbox: I’m From Ireland, And I’m So Grateful I Had My Abortion In America

I would truly love to be able to submit this piece with my name attached. However, as a young woman in modern Ireland, I feel it’s not possible due to the stigma and negativity attached to the subject matter.

A few weeks ago, 31-year-old Savita Halappanavar, an Indian dentist that had settled i…

Anonymous / November 16, 2012

5 Moves I Thought I’d Never Try In Bed … And Like

Sexually, I am neither conservative nor incredibly kinky. I like to think of myself as an open-minded chick who will try almost anything once. I don’t know what you all are doing in the bedroom, but I’m going to assume, based on conversations with friends, and the occasional reading of Dan Savage’s column, that I…

Anonymous / October 24, 2012

Girl Talk: On Straight Men And Anal Play

In a recent Vice article, straight man, Dave Schilling, called anal sex “the first stop on the Save My Relationship World Tour.” And he’s not just talking about giving, he’s talking about receiving as well:
“On more than one occasion, a woman has asked me if I wanted to do ‘butt stuff’ when it…

Anonymous / October 4, 2012

A Response To Vice’s Anti-Anal Sex Manifesto (From A Girl Who’s Done It)

Vice’s Mary-Ann Banal (that must be a pen name) presents her case as to why women should never shove “sticks of meat up their poomakers.” I’m all for talking openly about the pros and cons of anal sex. The only problem is, I can’t tell whether Mary-Ann has actually taken it up the butt or…

Anonymous / August 22, 2012

Girl Talk: In Defense Of Peggy Olsen’s Anonymous Hand Job

It happened so quickly, and it was so dark, that it was hard to tell what Peggy Olsen was doing in that movie theater. I texted a friend. 

“Did Peggy just give a hand job to her boyfriend or a random man?”

“It’s hard to tell the way it was shot,…

Anonymous / April 24, 2012

Girl Talk: Should I Be More Scarred By My Date Rape?

Last week, I met a friend for dinner. The restaurant we tried to go to was crowded, so we decided to wander around and look for a different place to eat. We turned down the next block and my pulse raced. It was the block of the restaurant my date rapist worked at.

Anonymous / April 18, 2012

The Soapbox: You Like To Go Down, So What?

According to an article in this month’s issue of Esquire, the blow job is all but becoming extinct in favor of cunnilingus. In an informal poll, conducted by the writer Geoff Dyer, eight out of 10 of his “more mature male friends” preferred “eating p**sy to having their dicks sucked.” And guess what? The two…

Anonymous / April 4, 2012

An Open Letter To The Loud Sneezer In My “Office”

Dear Loud Sneezer In My Office,

How are you? Good, I hope. I just wanted to bring something to your attention. Every time you sneeze, the air is momentarily sucked out of the office, and we are swallowed into your black hole of sound. Okay, so the “office” is a coffee shop and…

Anonymous / March 27, 2012

The Soapbox: A Former Fat Kid Responds To The “Vogue” Mother Who Put Her 7-Year-Old On A Diet

By now, many of you may have read Vogue’s annual “Shape” issue and had some reaction to the story of Bea, a seven-year-old girl whose mother was intent on curing her “obesity,” which was, in reality, 16 extra pounds of baby fat.

“One day Bea came home from school in tears, confessing that…

Anonymous / March 27, 2012

Why I Got Botox In My 20’s

You know that muscle in the middle of your forehead, right between your brows? The scowling muscle? Maybe you don’t. Maybe some people are blissfully unaware of their weird, clenchy forehead muscle.
Mine has always been overactive.
As a teenager, I always had this deep cleft of worry and contempt etched between my brows, eve…

Anonymous / January 17, 2012

In Praise Of Loud Sex

I am a very noisy lady … in the sack. My sex motto is “go loud or go home.” I realize that not everyone gets off on noisy sex, but for me, it is essential to my enjoyment. Screaming, moaning, dirty talk, or all of the above builds my mental and physical excitement during sex.

Anonymous / September 15, 2011