Angela Tung

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Girl Talk: I’m An Asian Woman And I Date … Screw It, It’s Complicated

“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they’re untrue but they are incomplete.” — Chimamanda Adichie
Let’s play a game. It’s called Guess The Race.

Gentleman A was a hard partier. He did a lot of drugs and drinking in his youth. He almost failed out of…

Angela Tung / October 2, 2012

Girl Talk: Dear Mom, You Were Right About Everything (Almost)

We haven’t always gotten along. There have been some wicked fights over the years, starting in the sixth grade when I didn’t want to wear my ripe-for-teasing plaid shorts to school, or in ninth grade when you insisted a C minus in trig warranted summer school (it didn’t), or that visit during college when I…

Angela Tung / May 10, 2012

Girl Talk: I’m Divorced, Get Over It

This month marks the six-year anniversary of my divorce. A lot has changed since then. I’ve lived on my own (no parents, roommates, boyfriend, or husband). I dated again for the first time in a long time (how long? there was no internet the last time I dated). I changed jobs, got another degree, changed…

Angela Tung / August 16, 2011

Girl Talk: Neither A Trophy Nor A Tiger

When I first saw Wendi Deng Murdoch spike that foam-pie-throwing comedian-protestor’s head like a volleyball, I giggled with glee. Then I sighed with relief. Here, finally, was a portrayal of an Asian woman I could embrace. No timid China doll or obedient geisha, no mere trophy wife, Deng was the tiger wife, defending her asset…

Angela Tung / July 26, 2011

Girl Talk: I’m Really Bad At Being Wrong

I screwed up royally recently.

My boyfriend Alex and I needed to get a signed lease to our landlady who was having some legal troubles. I left it in the lobby for her to pick up, but before she could, it disappeared. I called new management, but they said they didn’t have it either.

Angela Tung / April 27, 2011

Girl Talk: Why I Stand With Planned Parenthood

This is not a story of how abortion is right or wrong. Nor is it about what other people are doing with their bodies, or what I think about that (as though it’s any of my business). No: this is just my story of how Planned Parenthood made some hard times a little easier for…

Angela Tung / March 3, 2011

Girl Talk: Forget Sisters, It’s My Brother Who Keeps Me Sane

When we were kids, my younger brother Greg drove me bonkers. His favorite activity was lying like a corpse on my bed while I screamed, “GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT!” until I finally dragged him into the hallway. He also liked hiding, then jumping out and scaring me. He wailed like a cat i…

Angela Tung / November 26, 2010

Girl Talk: I Found Out My Engagement Ring Was Junk

I’d always been told my engagement ring was special.

“Very high quality,” said my mother-in-law, who bought only high-quality pieces for her collection. “You’re very lucky.”

“You don’t want to know how much I paid for the resetting,” said Joe, my fiance-then-husband.

I didn’t care how much the ring…

Angela Tung / October 28, 2010

Girl Talk: I Can’t Get Over The Friend Who Dumped Me

I still don’t know why June* stopped talking to me.

We had been friends for over 10 years when she suddenly stopped answering my emails and calls. We hadn’t argued. She was OK. She simply disappeared from my life, and now five years later, I’m still obsessed with why.

Angela Tung / October 1, 2010

Girl Talk: My Secret To Weight Loss? High Cholesterol!

I knew that I had gained some weight in the past few years. While I wasn’t 100 percent happy with my extra pudge, I didn’t feel motivated enough to lose it. Ten pounds wasn’t really that much. My boyfriend accepted me no matter what, and even my mother couldn’t tell I wasn’t as skinny a…

Angela Tung / September 16, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Sick Of Hearing About Motherhood

Recently I was complaining to my cousin Lei about my mother.

“I tell her I’m happy,” I said as we waited for our table to be called, “but she doesn’t believe me.” I had money in the bank, a dream career, and was in a sickeningly loving relationship with a guy she adored like…

Angela Tung / July 26, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Competitive

Little does the guy on the treadmill next to me know, I’m winning. He was ahead of me at first, but I’ve caught up. Now I’m out in front. He’s run 4.2 miles to my 4.4 in the same amount of time. Ha! I’m winning! I want to yell. I’M WINNING!

In reality I…

Angela Tung / June 29, 2010

Girl Talk: I Want To Be Like My Dad

My father doesn’t like trying anything new. Paying bills for instance. He still writes checks and sends them snail mail. “You can pay everything online now,” I’ve told him. “It’s faster and you don’t have to use stamps.”

He refuses, though he’s fairly internet-savvy, because he’s paid bills this way for the past 30…

Angela Tung / June 18, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Not Beautiful (And That’s OK)

When I turned 30, I was suddenly hot.

Before then I was OK. Cute at best. I had my awkward years, of course. As a baby, I had gravity-defying hair and bulldog cheeks. At 13, I wore glasses and braces, and was one of just a few Asian kids in a Jewish-Italian neighborhood, where…

Angela Tung / May 18, 2010

Girl Talk: I Love Celebrating My Birthday Alone

I have big plans for my birthday this month. BIG ones. Wanna hear them? OK, I’m gonna sit at home in my pajamas, eat chocolate cake, and watch reruns of “The Gilmore Girls.”

I love celebrating my birthday solo. Partly it’s because I’m shy. The last thing I’d want is the waitstaff at Chili’…

Angela Tung / April 19, 2010

Dealbreaker: He Said I Needed Grooming

Tobey* was the perfect guy to date right after my divorce. He was cute, fun, and had a body like a gymnast. He was younger than I was, but not too young. He liked the same things I did: eating good food, going to the movies, and strolling around Manhattan. He was a great kisser…

Angela Tung / April 8, 2010

Girl Talk: I’m Glad My Husband Cheated

Thank you for sleeping with my husband. I’m not being sarcastic. A few years ago, I would have been. I’d be calling you something far worse than “you.”

I only saw you once, back when you were still living next door to his parents. You were from Japan, he said. We waved at you,…

Angela Tung / March 17, 2010

Girl Talk: I Don’t Want To Get Married Again

I love weddings. I stop dead before store windows to gaze at gorgeous dresses and drool over diamond rings. I’m thrilled when I happen upon a noisy banquet in a Chinese restaurant. I read the New York Times wedding announcements every Sunday. I love watching “Say Yes to the Dress.”

But I don’t want…

Angela Tung / February 18, 2010