We’ve been thinking a lot about second chances lately: when to give them, who to give them to, and how they’re earned. Second chances are complicated, because we all want to be one of those magnanimous, forgiving souls who write inspiring essays for O magazine, but at the same time, no one wants to be a gullible doormat. There’s a balance between forgiveness and foolishness; the trick is learning to walk the tight rope. Sometimes second chances are in order, and sometimes, in the cases of hipster bars or douche-y exes, it’s best to just cut your losses and move on. Here are 15 things that (almost) always deserve a second chance, and 10 things that strike out after one. Keep reading »
In 1931, Winston Churchill predicted a future in which all the world’s meat would be grown in labs. But he never predicted they would be grown from celebrity tissue samples. Bitelab.org, a company that grows artisanal salami from tissue samples, wants us all to eat more celebrity meat. They have been hard at work developing the technology to create high-quality charcuterie from your favorite celebrities’ DNA. All it takes is a quick biopsy of, say, James Franco. In a process by which they isolate stem cells, they grow cultures into in-vitro meats, which can be dry aged and spiced into the finest sandwich stuffers. Keep reading »
Taylor Swift and Lorde have been spending quite a bit of time together — shopping, frolicking barefoot on the beach, wearing matching outfits — prompting many onlookers (including us) to refer to them as BFFs. But let’s be honest: as any BFF-havin’ lady knows, wearing matching outfits is only, like, level 3 out of 300 when it comes to a true best friendship. As a female friendship blossoms, the milestones come flying in fast. Some are fun and some are gut-wrenching — the first time you make a joke that makes your friend laugh so hard she farts; the first time you get crushes on the same guy; the first time you come up with dorky nicknames for each other; the first time you get in a fight that’s not instantly fixable. Should T-Swift and Lorde to make a real go of it, here are some BFF firsts they have to look forward to. Keep reading »
Even if you’re generally a very “together” person, that doesn’t mean you’re not entitled to the occasional freak out, because LIFE. Maybe your hot water broke again right before work and you haven’t washed your hair for a few too many days. Maybe a friend had the bad sense to point out that really cute picture of your ex and his new lady on Instagram. Of course, it’s important to figure your major triggers so you can avoid any unnecessary emotional meltdowns, but sometimes things are out of your control. That’s why it’s just as important to figure out some ways to calm yourself down when life doesn’t go your way, because lord knows, there will be times when you need to curl into a ball with your hot water bottle and cry until you feel silly. Here are our approved self-soothing techniques that have helped us through panic attacks, meltdowns, and freak outs of all kinds.
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You’ve probably heard the term “follow your heart” way too many times, especially in reference to your love life, especially during Valentine’s Day season. By now you’re probably like, Thanks, but following my heart led me to dump my really, really (too) nice boyfriend for the guy who turned out to be gay. So, no thanks. Deep down, though, you know that neither of them were right for you, so don’t punish your heart for being as honest as it knew how to be. Trust us: things wouldn’t have turned out any better if you’d left your head in charge, made a list of pros and cons, and weighed the consequences for weeks. In fact, even science says you’re probably better off making intuitive, snap decisions in many areas of your life.
According to new research done at the University of Otago, New Zealand, decisions made with the heart tend to be higher quality than those made with your head. Because, as many of us know, overthinking things leads to complete and utter confusion. ”Analyzing reasons can impair judgement by obscuring how [you] actually feel,” explained Dr. Jamin Halberstad, the director of the study. This doesn’t mean you should let your heart decide whether or not to you should pay your rent this month, but when it comes to the harder-to-pin-down life decisions, go with your gut. Here are a few decisions you shouldn’t bother overanalyzing. Just listen to your heart. Keep reading »
So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.
When you’re alone, a bad mood is like an angry wave that takes you down. No matter how awful it feels in the moment, the damage it can do is limited because, for most part, you’re the only person in its path. When there’s another person around, a bad mood has the potential to pull both of you under water, and anyone who’s ever been sucked into a spiral of grumpiness with their partner knows that once you’ve been caught in the riptide, it’s nearly impossible to make your way back to shore. Luckily, there are some effective ways to deal with your partner’s moods. Hopefully, these emotional life rafts will let you maintain your sunny disposition, no matter how crabby your partner may be. In ideal cases, you might even be able to cheer them up. But don’t count on it — sometimes people just want to be mad, and that’s OK. As long as it’s only sometimes… Keep reading »
Sometimes every woman wishes her man would remember more little details about her (and less little details about his fantasy football league). We’ve already shared many of the things we secretly long for our guys to commit to memory, but what if you’re a dude who’s struggling to track down all the facts, stats, and anecdotes about your beloved? How, exactly, are you supposed to figure out her favorite brand of tampons or find out what size bra she wears so you can buy her that sexy lingerie thingy? Don’t worry, fellas, there are ways to coax out the need-to-know details of her life with only minimal underwear drawer snooping required… Keep reading »
In the past few weeks, Facebook and Twitter have been overflowing with “inspiring” articles focusing on regrets. We’ve seen “The Top 10 Things Elderly People Regret,” “20 Most Common Regrets People Have On Their Deathbed,” and more. We found all of these articles interesting, if a bit morbid, but there was something we thought was missing from this conversation: the things you don’t regret. Because yes, we’ll probably all regret working too much or not having a totally zen relationship with our moms, but what about taking a spontaneous trip to Paris? Or pushing your way to the front of that once-in-a-lifetime concert? Or asking that cute guy out for coffee? There are some things in life that, no matter what happens, you’re going to look back on and say, “I’m really fucking glad I did that.” Here are 50 of them: Keep reading »
Today in Nashville adventures, we tried to leave Winona’s living room and relocate to a cute, little coffee shop to blog. But alas, there were no seats available. So, like any good blogger would, we decided to ditch our laptops and go on a vintage shopping bonanza. Click through to see the gems we discovered, find out what we did and didn’t purchase, and learn where in the heck we would wear gold, leather knickers or denim baby backpacks.