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The Soapbox: Rapists Know The Answer Is “No”

Tweets Attackers Names
Savannah Dietrich tweeted the names of the men who sexually assaulted her. Read More »
Project Unbreakable
Victims hold signs with of words said before, during, or after the assault. Read More »
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »

Despite endless work by anti-sexual violence activists trying to change the narrative, the myth persists that rapists —at least so-called “date rapists” — are men who got a little out of control with lust one night and accidentally went too far. It doesn’t help that this is the story that we usually hear on those very rare occasions when rapists tell their side of the story, usually to escape social consequences or even jail.

But recently a self-identified rapist went on Reddit and, for whatever reason, told a story that social research shows is much closer to the truth: Rapists rape because they like to rape. They aren’t confused about consent, nor are they overcome by lust. The pleasure is from the act of overpowering a woman and making her submit against her will. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Facts About Rihanna And Other Abused Women

"Birthday Cake"
Chris Brown is on Rihanna's remix of her song "Birthday Cake." Read More »
Rihanna's Forgiveness
Collaborating? Rihanna takes her forgiveness of Chris Brown too far. Read More »
"American Idol" Duet?
Will Rihanna and Chris Brown perform on "American Idol"? Read More »

With Chris Brown and Rihanna releasing two remixes together and rumors of them seeing each other flying, it’s understandable to feel disappointed in Rihanna. It’s hard watching anyone step into such an obvious trap, especially when she’s been warned repeatedly of how dangerous it is. Add to that the fear that Rihanna’s choice to forgive Brown sends a signal to young fans that domestic violence is no big deal, and you have more than enough justifications to be upset with Rihanna.

But if you sincerely want to reduce the incidence of domestic violence in our society, I beg you to refrain from judging her. Strange as it may sound, judging women who return to their abusers only makes the problem worse. Keep reading »

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