Amanda Chatel

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Love & Sex

As someone who’s not a big fan of receiving oral sex, when a man goes down on me I tend to think about all the other things I could or should be doing: Did I email my editor? Will I have time to do laundry after this? I wonder if Law & Order is a… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Spoiler alert: Amelia is the friend I frexted. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

The first time I came into real-life contact with an uncircumcised penis was several years ago. Up until then it was something I’d only seen online as some bizarre curiosity to me, an American woman.

A friend would ask, “Have you seen an uncircumcised penis?” Then, we’d gather around a computer as the… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Admit it: You’ve always wanted to know. Trying to explain what an orgasm feels like is tricky. While we can all agree it feels absolutely amazing and it’s something we would, ideally, like to feel on repeat forever, finding the actual words to describe the specific, detailed feeling of an orgasm leaves many of us,… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

This is not a drill. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’m so sick of men saying that all you need to get laid is “to be a woman.” If that were truly the case, would all women, everywhere, be getting laid at all times whenever and however they want? Yes. Does that actually happen in the real world? No. When it comes to this particular… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I have big boobs. Whereas some women would kill to have the knockers I have, I’ve never been a huge fan of them. I mean, yes, it’s a pretty impressive rack, but at the price of back pain and the inability to get a dress to fit me properly, I’d prefer them to be smaller. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

When my first love and I broke up, I was still new to the world of sex. I was 22 years old when we said our tearful goodbye, knowing full well that what we had at that young age wouldn’t be able to transcend time. I remember thinking I’d not only never love again, but… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

There’s nothing worse than being on a date, one that’s not too exciting, and just wishing it could end in sex. It’s as though you’re counting down the minutes, maybe even weighing the social graces of when it’s actually OK to mention that it’s time to head out and get it on somewhere. It kinda… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I hate admitting that I even have a bucket list in the first place, but I do and there are many things on it, and I hope to eventually cross all most of them off. While I know “Yoko-ing” a band and becoming the muse for the fashion designer Nicolas Ghesquière, à la Charlotte Gainsbourg,… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

When I fell in love with my fiancé Olivier, I knew he had some baggage. He had been married before and, admittedly, it bothered me a bit. I had always assumed that I would marry someone who was also tying the knot for the first time, but that’s not how it worked out. Olivier also… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

In high school, I fell for a guy named Opie. That was not his given name but a nickname he had acquired along the way. I would have asked from where it had come, but I never found the necessary strength to even talk to him, let alone inquire about the particulars of his life. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Dear Cunnilingus,

This is a difficult letter to write. But it has to be said. I’ve been struggling with my feelings about you for a long time now. I wasn’t sure how to express it all clearly and carefully, without hurting you. No one ever wants to hear that they’re not the cat’s… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’ve lived in New York City for a little over 10 years. As any of the other writers for The Frisky can tell you (and have written about over and over), dating in this city isn’t as easy as a walk in Central Park. In a city of eight million people where the single women… READ MORE »


News

I first wrote about my abortion in the spring of 2012. At that point, it had been seven years since my procedure, and something that never crossed my mind. Although the majority of the responses were overwhelmingly positive and other women took to the comments section to share their own abortion stories, those who were… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Ours was the shortest courtship that I had ever heard of. Well, except for celebrities, but we all know how those turn out most of the time. Oh, and that girl I knew in college who went on a date with a college professor and was married to him two days later. Fool, was what… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I do not like my nose. Although I no longer hate it with the same gusto I did at 15, I still do not accept it.

I do not like my thighs; they’re huge and riddled with stretch marks thanks to a growth spurt at 12, and my stomach refuses to be flat… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Once again I was looking at Cosmo, furrowing intensely and wondering where on earth they come up with their nonsense. I do this from time to time because I follow them on Twitter (don’t ask me why.) I also like to give my brow a workout with all the aforementioned furrowing.

In this episode… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

As we covered last week, ladies’ night is essential. It’s time to check in with your girls, escape, and really get your bond on while leaving the work week behind. It’s also an evening that calls for sequins and stilettos; well, usually.

If you’re out owning the streets with your crew, you’re bound… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

If we were to take anything important from the Christmas classic “It’s A Wonderful Life” (besides the fact that every time a bell rings, an angel gets its wings), it’s that no man, or rather, woman, for our purposes, “is a failure who has friends.” This is completely true. Have you ever imagined your life… READ MORE »



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