Drinking. Depression. Widowhood. Small boobs. Yes, there are support groups for all kinds of things…
Usually when you talks about supporting your AAs, you mean the feats of architectural wonder accomplished by the Victoria’s Secret Miracle Bra. But on the message boards for Bust magazine, there is actually a Small Breast Support Group.Before we read a bunch of the messages, we were skeptical. Judgmental, even. A support group for women who don’t need a bra sounds so vain and shallow. The act of convening a support group implies the women are calling their smaller breasts a problem, rather than just saying “screw it” and loving their bodies the way they are. Besides, it seems like the worst thing for small-breasted women—or really, any woman whose bodies aren’t “ideal”—would be to get a bunch of complainers together and fuel each other’s insecurities. That wouldn’t make anyone feel better about their bodies or stop the cycle of body self-criticism.
But the Small Boob Support Group is not like that at all! Instead of mammary moaning, the message board is really positive! For example, read this message posted by a high schooler who calls herself “KeraBear” is friggin’ heartbreaking and the way other women on the board jump to her support, just like big sisters would, is inspiring:
“Hey gals. I am looking for some sage words of wisdom. Can any of you offer up any advice on going through high school with tiny breasts? I get teased A LOT because of it. I am 16-years-old and don’t even fit into a AA cup. They seem like they are in that quasi-”almost boob” stage of an 11-year-old. I am also short, skinny, with a boyish figure. Every time i seem to get to the point where I am getting close to loving my body for what it is, somebody seems to tear me down about it. Interestingly enough, it’s mostly other GIRLS and not the guys. Why do you suppose that is?
Did you get teased? What are some constructive ways of dealing? I am sorta conflicted. On one hand, I REALLY want my breasts to grow over the summer. On the other, I shouldn’t HAVE to have or want bigger breasts in order to validate myself as a woman, you know?
Also, please tell me things will get better after high school. Thanks!”
Here’s what “Erica” told her on May 26th:
“I’m 29 now and the older I get the more I realize how much MOST (almost all) guys don’t care about the size of a woman’s breasts. I’m a size A and I’ve never had a problem with a guy saying they’re too small or anything. The thing I like about having small breasts is guys don’t STARE right at my chest instead of looking me in the eye. I appreciate other good things about having small breasts — like no back pain, clothes generally hang better when you’ve got small breasts. There are a lot of advantages to having small breasts if you actually stop and think about it.”
And here’s what Aithinne said on May 24th:
“DON’T let people make you feel like you’re deformed or lacking or abnormal. You are not. Don’t give in to the ideal woman BS! Thinking negatively about your body gets you absolutely nowhere, and is such a waste of energy and time that it’s completely laughable.
Very cool! We wish we’d had support like this (in addition to our push-ups) in our pre-growth spurt days in high school.
Do you agree that an online message board like this is good for women? Would you still feel the same way if it were a “big thighs” or “large butt” support group? Tell us in the comments section below…