6 best hand job tips that everyone who wants to help a guy out should know

Giving a hand job can be a little intimidating. Guys handle their dicks all the time and while it definitely always feels better when someone else is doing the work, it’s perfectly normal to wonder if your hand job technique is on point. But you shouldn’t worry too much, since sex is very similar to pizza. When it’s really good, it’s fucking amazing and something you come back for. When the pizza is not so great, it’s still pizza and pretty delicious, right? So whatever hand job moves you got, you’re probably doing an acceptable job. But no one wants to be bad pizza, so following some of the best hand job tips we’ve acquired over the years can make the moment go from good to very, very memorable.

One of the first things you can do if you’re really worried about “doing it right,” is to ask him to show you. That alone can be pretty fun. You can ask him to masturbate himself before letting you take over so you can get a sense of what kind of pace and pressure he prefers when he’s all alone. If the visual doesn’t help any, put your hand around his while he jerks off to get a better feel for it. Seriously, you’ll become even closer because of it and giving him some say in the matter helps. Plus, if you need to guide or direct him later on to help him get you off, it’s a team effort all around.

Once you got the basics down, there are a couple of things you can add to mix to spice it up a little.

It’s all about the position 

One thing you want to think about is position. In the shower (or the kitchen or on the couch), coming at him from behind is a good way to start. If it’s too uncomfortable because he’s bigger than you and you can’t really reach all the way around, try having him lay down and then get between his legs. This way he has a good view and you have access to all of his spots.

Always use a lubricant

Using a lubricant is always a good idea — it really just feels better. You don’t want too hurt him with too much friction.

Learn how to handle an uncut man

But if you’re guy is not circumcised, it can be a little harder to to get the proper stroke going. You’re going to have to move the foreskin back and forth with the movement of your hand. Look to him for some guidance, since pulling it all the way back and exposing the glans, or the head of the penis, can be really intense for some uncircumcised guys. Take it easy at first.

Remember to go a little easy on him

In fact, take it easy in general. Don’t use too much force unless he tells you to — you don’t want to yank that thing all over the place and damage it, because you’re going to want that cock in tip top shape later, most likely. Be nice to the penis, but remember that it’s sturdier than you think. If you go too gently, it can tickle, and that’s probably not the desired effect (although maybe it is; I don’t know your life).

Focus on the tip

Most guys say that focusing on the head of the penis, since it’s the most sensitive, is the best way to get them going. It’s also a good thing to focus towards the end when you start getting a little tired and want to see if you can finally make him come already.

It’s a two-hand job

Lastly, always use two hands. You can interlace your hands around it or use one hand to make an “O” shape with your thumb and pointer finger and use that to stroke the head, while using the hand for the rest. If that’s too much for him, cradle the testicles or, if he likes it, you can massage the prostate with the other.

All that said, it’s not rocket science, guys. Like, if your hands are on his dick, he’s already winning at life and if he isn’t history’s greatest asshole, he knows it. So get down to work, and when it doubt, use your words and ask him what he thinks his favorite tips and tricks are to get him off.