There’s Finally A Porn Site With Sexual Assault Survivors In Mind

Good porn is really hard to find. For anyone. But for sexual assault survivors, it can be traumatizing. That’s why Clit List, a porn site for sexual assault survivors, is so genius and crucial for any victim’s recovery. Sexual assault victims don’t stop being sexual beings, but getting one’s sex drive back and enjoying sex or masturbation can be a long journey.

The Clit List was created by Pavan Amara, the founder of the London-based  My Body Back Project. Amara said that in talking to women, she found many really wanted to get back into their masturbation routine. All would be well and good until there was a triggering scene or position in the porn they were watching, and instead of an orgasm, they would be brought right back to their trauma.

Enter the Clit List: a collection of links to “feminist, non-misogynistic and empowering content, curated with women who have experienced sexual violence in mind,” according to the website. There’s long and short form porn, erotica, reviews of toys, tutorial videos, and advice. It’s like a safe, sexual, feminist heaven.

There’s something about this whole idea that makes me so happy women exist. It’s fucking genius. Amara told The Daily Dot, “We’re challenging the myth that society throws upon you that you need somebody else to enjoy your own body.” Even women who haven’t experienced sexual violence have been loving the site, Amara said.

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But it’s not just about reclaiming one’s body through a little self love. My Body Back also has support resources, like Cafe V, which is a monthly, hour-long support group of sorts that survivors can attend online. There is a support group for men and a book club, and My Body Back also has a maternity clinic for sexual assault victims in London, because many survivors are triggered by doctors and nurses who don’t know about their assault. At the MBB clinics, the doctors know to be sensitive to patients’ fears and pain.

Not feeling like one owns their own body after sexual assault is one of the hardest things about recovering, and self-care is an important aspect of that. Returning to routines, including masturbation or being sexually active with a partner, is essential.

There is this idea in society that women exist sexually only in the context of men, but that is so far from the truth. Especially for assault survivors. Amara said that women, survivors or not, are loving the sex and body positive Clit List “because they’ve realized men aren’t essential to their sex lives. They’re a nice added extra though, a bit like a cup of tea.” She continued, “We all love a cup of tea… But it’s not essential.”

Men might not be essential to a woman’s sex life, but being comfortable in your own body and having your experience validated? That’s all you need.