Use This Website To Track How Much More Time Men Spend Talking Than Women

Any woman who’s fallen victim to mansplaining (which is probably all women) knows men have a tendency to dominate the conversation. Now, thanks to the website AreMenTalkingTooMuch.com, we can track exactly how much more time than women they spend talking. And talking. And talking.

The site has a really simple interface: two timer buttons labeled “A dude” and “Not a dude” (which presumably includes non-binary people). Just click the “dude” button when a man starts talking, then click it again to stop the timer. When a woman or other non-male individual starts talking, click the “Not a dude” button to start the timer, and click it again to stop. Then compare the dude vs. non-dude speaking times and fall into deep despair.

While Are Men Talking Too Much is fun to use, the underlying intent is serious. By highlighting the disparities between how much time men and women/non-male individuals spend talking, the site seeks to make tech and workplaces in general more inclusive. As creator Cathy Deng writes on her personal site, “In rooms that seem diverse, men still dominate conversations to a large extent.” Inclusion, she writes, is more than “count[ing] bodies.” It’s about environments that actually “make room” for all voices to be heard.

Research shows that some kind of gender equality intervention for workplaces is long overdue. A joint study by Princeton and Brigham Young University found that in mixed-gender meetings, men took up 75 percent of speaking time. Scholars at the University of California at Santa Cruz found that men not only interrupted more than women, but were much more likely to use interruption as an assertion of dominance.

The presence of women is not enough to guarantee gender inclusivity; they also need space to speak. And since we live in a society that discourages women from speaking out, men have to be encouraged to check themselves — perhaps by the statistics gathered from Are Men Talking Too Much. “What gets measured gets managed,” Deng writes on her personal site, adding that “measuring participation can highlight disproportionality & ultimately make room for more voices.”

Of course, gender is only one aspect of inclusivity. That’s why Deng invites users to modify the code of her site to track other inequalities, such as straight or cis people dominating conversations with LGBTQ people, or white people taking over discussions from people of color. Hopefully, we can work towards a world where no one is talking too much because everyone is talking equally.